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I try knickers on in shops.

206 replies

Nevershoppingagaininjohnlewis · 01/02/2026 11:01

My other thread got derailed by this issue.

I, and the friends I saw last night, all try knickers on in shops. We do this over our pants.

We sometimes buy the knickers. We sometimes don't.

We agreed we don't have money to burn on buying knickers that don't fit or don't look lovely or cut your bum up. We try them on as most shops don't allow you to return them for a refund. (Although you can return online)

To clarify from my other thread, the JL shop assistant told me to try on the matching knickers to a bra I was purchasing, as she didn't want me to waste my money.

AWBU in trying knickers on in shops and sometimes returning them to the rail?

(And yes, this is one of those threads where my behaviour will not change as a result of your opinions)

OP posts:
UncannyFanny · 01/02/2026 12:15

StrawberryJamAndRaspberryPie · 01/02/2026 11:38

She’s talking about pants that are on hangers and are fancier than 3 briefs in a packet that need to be opened. Obviously.

Doesn’t change the first point though which you conveniently side stepped.

Nevershoppingagaininjohnlewis · 01/02/2026 12:15

BitOutOfPractice · 01/02/2026 12:11

Having worked on the lingerie section at M&S many moons ago, I can tell you lots of people try pants on.

They're probably not MN users though 🤣

OP posts:
Windowseleventy · 01/02/2026 12:18

grumpygrape · 01/02/2026 12:12

Do you declare that if you try trousers on ?

Trousers don’t cradle my lady parts in the way that pants do.

i don’t wear tight trousers or leggings.

Fodencat · 01/02/2026 12:19

BeanQuisine · 01/02/2026 12:11

I don't try anything on in shops these days as I buy all my clothes online, paying close attention to sizing charts. Usually works.

This. So much less hassle.

grumpygrape · 01/02/2026 12:26

Windowseleventy · 01/02/2026 12:18

Trousers don’t cradle my lady parts in the way that pants do.

i don’t wear tight trousers or leggings.

Edited

The baggy trousers you try on don’t touch the crotch of your knickers ?

OK, I’ll believe you 😉

They don't have to be tight, just fit.

TittyGajillions · 01/02/2026 12:30

Residue? What the actual fuck do you have residue of on the outside of your knickers?!

Windowseleventy · 01/02/2026 12:31

grumpygrape · 01/02/2026 12:26

The baggy trousers you try on don’t touch the crotch of your knickers ?

OK, I’ll believe you 😉

They don't have to be tight, just fit.

They don’t. I had to wear loose trousers and cotton only. It’s why I used to wear skirts most of the time but I can’t anymore. I’m currently wearing trousers 4 sizes too big.

but I’m not the op who is wandering around on her period trying on knickers.

Hoardasurass · 01/02/2026 12:35

Toddlerteaplease · 01/02/2026 11:57

As long as it’s got the plastic strip I don’t see the issue

Knickers dont hence you aren't supposed to try them on

grumpygrape · 01/02/2026 12:35

Windowseleventy · 01/02/2026 12:31

They don’t. I had to wear loose trousers and cotton only. It’s why I used to wear skirts most of the time but I can’t anymore. I’m currently wearing trousers 4 sizes too big.

but I’m not the op who is wandering around on her period trying on knickers.

I missed where OP said she had her period, where was that ? Not that it makes any difference, periods aren’t contagious.

grumpygrape · 01/02/2026 12:36

Hoardasurass · 01/02/2026 12:35

Knickers dont hence you aren't supposed to try them on

Unless a member of staff/partner (JL) tells you to ?

SwingTheMonkey · 01/02/2026 12:37

Windowseleventy · 01/02/2026 12:31

They don’t. I had to wear loose trousers and cotton only. It’s why I used to wear skirts most of the time but I can’t anymore. I’m currently wearing trousers 4 sizes too big.

but I’m not the op who is wandering around on her period trying on knickers.

Unless someone is free bleeding, I’m not sure what difference having one’s period is?

B1anche · 01/02/2026 12:37

HashtagShitShop · 01/02/2026 12:14

I don't tend to go commando in trousers.

I do, however, buy from charity shops and again wash everything thoroughly so it's not through being snobby.

But OP tries knickers on over her knickers, so is not commando.

Nevershoppingagaininjohnlewis · 01/02/2026 13:03

Windowseleventy · 01/02/2026 12:31

They don’t. I had to wear loose trousers and cotton only. It’s why I used to wear skirts most of the time but I can’t anymore. I’m currently wearing trousers 4 sizes too big.

but I’m not the op who is wandering around on her period trying on knickers.

To extend the most excellent joke of @menopausalmare , I don't wander around trying on knickers.

I stay in the changing room.

OP posts:
JacknDiane · 01/02/2026 13:08

The thing is, matching pants for say a fantasie bra can be £15-25. For one pair. So as they are non returnable once outside the shop, its only sensible to try them on instore, over your own pants.

Peacefullbliss · 01/02/2026 13:08

500mileslong · 01/02/2026 11:58

I cannot be arsed to try on knickers- I know my size and I know the style I prefer (I also don’t buy fancy knickers which helps).

Same big pants over fancy lace ones.

PlumDeNomNomNom · 01/02/2026 13:10

I've tried knickers on in different M&S stores across the country for the last 30 or so years.

If you’ve been up and down the country for 30 years trying on knickers I’d say this goes from trying to find a size that fits and moves into kink territory 🤣

PlumDeNomNomNom · 01/02/2026 13:12

PlumDeNomNomNom · 01/02/2026 13:10

I've tried knickers on in different M&S stores across the country for the last 30 or so years.

If you’ve been up and down the country for 30 years trying on knickers I’d say this goes from trying to find a size that fits and moves into kink territory 🤣

I, and the friends I saw last night, all try knickers on in shops.

Just how many are in your ‘group’?

Windowseleventy · 01/02/2026 13:14

Nevershoppingagaininjohnlewis · 01/02/2026 13:03

To extend the most excellent joke of @menopausalmare , I don't wander around trying on knickers.

I stay in the changing room.

I said wandering around on your period.

which you are.

and then trying on knickers. Which is gross.

but you continue to laugh. You do that.

StrawberryJamAndRaspberryPie · 01/02/2026 13:18

nomas · 01/02/2026 12:06

Shaming women for their bodily functions, how lovely.

Edited

She’s the one saying female body parts are vile, unhygienic and disgusting…. Not me

Windowseleventy · 01/02/2026 13:20

StrawberryJamAndRaspberryPie · 01/02/2026 13:18

She’s the one saying female body parts are vile, unhygienic and disgusting…. Not me

Female body parts aren’t.

trying on knickers, however, is. There’s a reason you’re not supposed to do this.

StrawberryJamAndRaspberryPie · 01/02/2026 13:24

Windowseleventy · 01/02/2026 13:20

Female body parts aren’t.

trying on knickers, however, is. There’s a reason you’re not supposed to do this.

But who isn’t ‘supposed’ to do this? All fancy knicker shops let you try them on over your own pants. Ann Summers, Boux Avenue, Agent Provocateur, department stores all let you try knickers on (not the multipacks but the individuals) because they’re £20-100 a pair and non-returnable.

There aren’t whole shops smelling like vaginal fluids and sporting soggy pants on the racks because women have quickly popped a pair on with fabric between their vagina and the new pants.

The pants remain clean. The vaginas remain clothed.

Coffeeishot · 01/02/2026 13:26

PlumDeNomNomNom · 01/02/2026 13:10

I've tried knickers on in different M&S stores across the country for the last 30 or so years.

If you’ve been up and down the country for 30 years trying on knickers I’d say this goes from trying to find a size that fits and moves into kink territory 🤣

I mean 😂

grumpygrape · 01/02/2026 13:28

PlumDeNomNomNom · 01/02/2026 13:10

I've tried knickers on in different M&S stores across the country for the last 30 or so years.

If you’ve been up and down the country for 30 years trying on knickers I’d say this goes from trying to find a size that fits and moves into kink territory 🤣

Find that woman and stop her 🤣🤣🤣🤣

Seriously, people thinking pants over pants for 30 seconds is awful possibly need to get help.

StrawberrySquash · 01/02/2026 13:30

TheGrimSqueakersFlea · 01/02/2026 11:21

You wouldn't try socks on. That's just 🤢

True. But people try shoes on with bare feet/an unwashed shop pop sock all the time. And frankly, I own socks I wish I'd tried on!

Nevershoppingagaininjohnlewis · 01/02/2026 13:37

Windowseleventy · 01/02/2026 13:14

I said wandering around on your period.

which you are.

and then trying on knickers. Which is gross.

but you continue to laugh. You do that.

Should women stay indoors yelling unclean when on their periods then? Should we not wander around?

You need to watch a Bodyform advert lady. Broaden your horizons a bit.

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