Cost of husband’s 40th party

[naavaaira]

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I am organising a surprise party for my husband’s 40th. He is the kind who loves being centre of attention and would love the surprise! I have never ever organised a proper event like this so have no idea of average cost and your input would be appreciated. I’m looking to cater his favourite Turkish food, inflatable night club in the garden, alcohol, cake, nibbles, and other bits all coming to around £1200 for 16 adults and 8 kids. Does that sound average or a lot?

People are allowed to have a good time in their own home every once in a while.

Unclench.

I bet you do plenty that annoys people.

Don't give this poster a second thought, if you can afford it thats your business and no one else's.

That’s very unkind! Just because you can’t afford it, you need to understand people will be able to afford more than you and you afford more than others.

But do you think k it’s a reasonable cost, that was the question?

Definitely!

Sounds great fun, price seems about right, googled inflatable discos, great!

I’m very interested in the Turkish caterers, do they cook at your house? Or transport it and what’s on the menu @naavaaira

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So no one should ever do ANYTHING in case their neighbours do shift work on the weekend? It’s one night and I’m sure she’s not planning that they blast music until 3am. People have parties and manage not to become the scourge of the neighbourhood you know.

It’s a grand. Get a grip. What a very bitter response. Them and us? I’d say the majority of people can spend £50 a head on a 40th birthday.

Depends on your catering supplier and whatever an inflatable night club is. Certainly can do a house party for a lot less but catering doesn’t come cheap

Inflatable nightclub looks like the sort of thing they use in Guantanamo when someone won’t talk 😂

It wasn't meant to be " unkind".
It's stating a fact.
And tbh you are assuming I " can't afford it".
Actually my stance is no one and no birthday deserves spending that amount of money on. In my world showing affection and caring isn't about spending large amounts of money.

Great. I hope someone pops along to give you a cheap medal for understanding true and real love unlike the rest of us.

Yeah OP what on earth are you thinking? Cancel that flipping wonderful sounding nightclub, a few garden chairs and pass the parcel with them onion bharjis in a bit of foil, you'll be right - heating and entertainment in one package! Or find the teens diary for Feb 10th entries for added fun.

Enjoy your party 🥳

You’re the one turning it into a ‘them and us’ scenario and being very divisive about it. A lot of people could afford to spend more than I can on things. Why would I begrudge them for it or make it so divisive?

I think in most people’s world showing care and affection doesn’t involve spending money. Spending money and caring isn’t mutually exclusive.

Sorry what is it you are actually saying here?
My point is if you care about someone there is no need to throw money at them. What is yours? It sounds as though though you think spending a lot of money on someone is the only way to show you "love" them".

Why even bother with the bhajis? Most people would be happy with half a raw onion. It’s all about the loving and caring, not the gram flour, spices and hot oil!!

My 50th was about £3k. I had a marquee and hired tables chairs and cutlery / crockery. I had it all catered by an excellent caterer and provided all the drink, there was no way I expected people to bring drink (a they didnt). Was for 30 people. I think it’s a good price

OP I think you’ve got a great deal and it sounds like a fantastic party. I hope you have a great time

Their point was very clear. And very funny.

The chip on your shoulder is probably visible from space.

Have you not heard that sarcasm is the lowest form of wit.

I made the point that spending the amount of money OP is talking about for a birthday, any birthday, is far beyond the norm, or budget for a lot of people.

You chose to interpret that as me being "jujgmental" and " envious" and , God forbid " boring" I think that says far more about you and your narrow minded stance that can't tolerate the fact someone has a different take on birthday celebrations than it does about me.

Why did you feel the need to jump on a thread about someone who is fine spending £1,200 on a big birthday just to lecture them? Is it because you can’t take someone having a different stance on birthdays to you? This thread isn’t about what YOU would do.

Thanks OP- never heard of an inflatable nightclub before!

It's not all about you though is it? 😳

I hate to break it to you but it's not about you at all.