Cost of husband’s 40th party

[naavaaira]

Posting here for traffic.
I am organising a surprise party for my husband’s 40th. He is the kind who loves being centre of attention and would love the surprise! I have never ever organised a proper event like this so have no idea of average cost and your input would be appreciated. I’m looking to cater his favourite Turkish food, inflatable night club in the garden, alcohol, cake, nibbles, and other bits all coming to around £1200 for 16 adults and 8 kids. Does that sound average or a lot?

You were having a cheap pop at the OP and you got called out on it 🤷‍♂️

We can all see what you're doing here.

Your opinion is not “stating a fact”

Get on with showing affection and caring and let OP do both those and enjoy a party as well!

Sorry what chip is that? And please explain" very funny". I certainly don't see any humour in their comnent. Just downright intolerance and unpleasantness.

I expressed an opinion which does not chimme witb your and your friends.

Why do you interpret that as me having " a chip on my shoulder" ?

You and your pal are certainly coming over as being absolutely insecure that you cannot tolerate someone having a different opinion from you.

So you agree with all the posts on her where’s “loving, caring partner” gets fuck all for their partners birthday, because they don’t need to “throw” money at them?

You sound jealous and bitter!

Just downright intolerance and unpleasantness. and coming over as being absolutely insecure that you cannot tolerate someone having a different opinion from you

Indeed.

The complete lack of self awareness on display here is quite impressive. 😅

Can you not see the irony in what you’re saying at all? You decided to lecture the OP and say how horrifying it is to spend HER MONEY on a birthday and how you best about everything. You made a nasty little comment to put the OP in her place and you’re being called on it.

You expressed an opinion? I thought you said it was fact?

Spent so much of my childhood there, loved it

Just because you can’t should not cast a downer on those who are able.

Well now I'm worried I'm not doing anything like this for my husband's upcoming 40th!we are one of the ones who couldn't spend this much,anyone any ideas for a cheaper but epic fun 40th?it's tricky in the winter as a garden party could work.hummm.cocktails maybe and less people.i need to think of something I can see!

It is a thread on a forum that I am totally entitled to post my opinion on, within the MN guidelines.

Who do you think you are to tell me I can't?

What is wrong with posters like yourself that you feel so threatened by someone such as myself who posts a different opinion ? Absolutely mind blowing that you and your pals are so uptight about what i said, which was not offensive and was a perfectly valid comment.

You realky must be very insecure.

But, OP didn't ask for that input, did she?
You are getting called out because you sound bitter and judgmental. You don't sound very nice because your posts aren't very nice.
It's mind boggling that people post completely outside what's been asked for. Yet they do. 🤦‍♀️

Yes, that's expensive for such a small wedding. Was the venue very pricey?.

Honestly you’re bizarre.

@Placetobreathe

Actually my stance is no one and no birthday deserves spending that amount of money on. In my world showing affection and caring isn't about spending large amounts of money.

Well good for you.

In my world, being able to afford to spend enough money to take DH to the Ryder Cup for his 60th birthday was worth every penny.

But if you’re happy with a card and some wilted flowers, then that’s also fine.

Hilarious….

You call the OP entitled and privileged and call others threatened 🤣🤣🤣

You can’t afford it, so move on!

Are you for real?

I made a comment about the amount of money OP is spending on this birthday.

And to give OP all credit she posted a very reasonable reply to me and the point I made.

Really what world do you live in that labels someone who made a very unremarkable comment as " bitter and judgemental" just because it is a different point of you from yours?

Oh my goodness no wonder Trump and Farage are having a field day.

All of you chill!

I needto know if the food @naavaaira is planning is already booked.

Stop the distractions! 😂

On a serious mote this is exactly how threads get off the rails and some posters know it very well.

Your comment was not unremarkable, it was unkind!

I think it sounds fab

im sad as my DH dodnt organise anythjng for me birthday and didn’t buy me a gift it’s so bloody sad

No gifts? Nothing at all? That was mean of him

I think it's a lot to spend on a party in your garden - but if you can afford it and it sounds like your DH will love it, why not?

" unkind"???
To point out that the amount OP is spending is, in a lot of people's world, the amount she is spending on this birthday is excessive?
It is a fact.
In what world is that" unkind". What sort of world cushioned from reality do you not recognise that as a fact?
Why does stating that fact make me unkind, judgemental, envious etc etc. This thread is absolutely unbelievable.

Your posts are very critical and antagonistic. Are you intentionally trying to derail this thread? Your posts are not in the spirit of the thread's OP. You didn't even answer her question - all you did is post your opposition.

When it has been pointed out to you, you post snarky replies. Don't hide behind MN guidelines. We can see you for what you are.

Lolz it’s a milestone birthday and a one off

my husband and I are spending thousands on a child free holiday for our 40th & 50th joint pressies to each other

we wouldn’t normally do something like this

but we wanna splash out and we saved for it and fuck it we deserve it

and the ops husband deserves his party