Worried about the man I’ve been seeing

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I’ve been seeing someone for 17 months - long distance a 2hr drive away. I mainly go to him as we do a hobby together where he lives. We see one another every 2 weeks or so. Recently he has not replied to messages for several days . We both live alone and, apart from this hobby, doesn’t do much else - I have family very near. He hasn’t replied to my message on Saturday - messaged today to ask if he is ok - not read so tried to phone - again no reply so left a voice message asking him to let me know he’s ok. He would normally do the hobby this afternoon - I know someone who also attends at the same time - would it be unreasonable to contact her to ask if he is there? He hates drama as do I but I’m getting really worried - it could be that he’s just ghosting me and don’t want to involve others if that is the case.

Is anyone else thinking he may have a health issue/ worry/ diagnosis he is struggling to deal with?

Why are so many people suddenly piping up to tell the op to do what she has already done?
Have you all just come in on a bus from yesterday and read one post then commented?

I know how you feel, when your longing to hear from someone you care about and have feelings for, but do not message that woman, you will regret it. Maybe he is not interested anymore or maybe he is feeling down or just busy. Give it time you will find out eventually, best of luck.

lol. There really isn’t. When i was younger and going through all my relationship trials and tribulations i always said to myself this will get easier as i get older as we all start to mature and have our shit together…I was soooo wrong and I actually think it’s worse! lol

Thats why I don’t even bother with men my age or older because you still get all the nonsense and immaturity of a man half their age but without the stamina/energy, style/dress sense, good looks, body, and zest for life/travelling that matches my energy.

I’d rather just date younger, lol ( unless it’s Brad Pitt, Keanu reeves, Michael Ealy and any of the Wayans brothers 🤭)

That made me laugh

When are you due back there?

No it's absolutely not unreasonable to do this for a man you've been with for a year and a half. I'd be driving up there to find out if he's OK. My husband lived in Scotland when we met as he's from there. We couldn't be apart and I moved there to be with him shortly after we got together. If it turns out your man is ok, I'd consider someone else as this all seems a bit too vague for a serious relationship and who can be arsed with all that?

Sorry i arrived on the bus. I'm glad you've dumped him. Absolutely do not put up with that nonsense in your late 60s. You know better. I know better at 40. There really is no excuse and you're not going to find the love you're seeking in an arsehole that communicates poorly. There are men available that are wonderful and actually care deeply about the woman in their life. Onwards and upwards and here's to you in 2026 x

Well done OP, you deserve better than a twat like that. Onwards and upwards for 2026 💐

What a prick.

Good for you, don’t look back. Life’s too short to deal with a man child with communication issues.

Excellent post!

He hates drama but is not averse to creating it…
whenever I’ve known a man go silent / off grid like that it’s always turned out to be one or both of the following reasons:
women or drugs , often at the same time

He hates drama but is not averse to creating it…
whenever I’ve known a man go silent / off grid like that it’s always turned out to be one or both of the following reasons:
women or drugs , often at the same time

He hates drama but is not averse to creating it…
whenever I’ve known a man go silent / off grid like that it’s always turned out to be one or both of the following reasons:
women or drugs , often at the same time

Sorry duplicate posts, blame it on the millennium bug 25 years in the making

Op, please ignore him. He’s so lame. He’s too far away anyway and sounds hard work.

Find someone who is really into you, interested in you and have some fun. And who doesn’t leave you wondering.

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I wonder how RunninginRain is doing now.

Ghosting you just before New Year’s Eve! Means he has other plans

It isnt that. It is that most people have had a least one person in theor life have a fata heaet attack in their mid 60s.