Worried about the man I’ve been seeing

[whyisnothingsimple]

I’ve been seeing someone for 17 months - long distance a 2hr drive away. I mainly go to him as we do a hobby together where he lives. We see one another every 2 weeks or so. Recently he has not replied to messages for several days . We both live alone and, apart from this hobby, doesn’t do much else - I have family very near. He hasn’t replied to my message on Saturday - messaged today to ask if he is ok - not read so tried to phone - again no reply so left a voice message asking him to let me know he’s ok. He would normally do the hobby this afternoon - I know someone who also attends at the same time - would it be unreasonable to contact her to ask if he is there? He hates drama as do I but I’m getting really worried - it could be that he’s just ghosting me and don’t want to involve others if that is the case.

Just a quick update - twat did get in touch a few weeks ago and asked if I wanted to visit to do our hobby - I told him that I had met someone local and everything is going very well. It’s the truth - I met someone a few weeks after it all kicked off with twat. His communication style is similar to mine, we laugh constantly and are having a lot of fun together - neither of us want a 24/7 relationship but he left this morning after a 3 night stay - so glad twat pushed me to finish things - you just never know what’s around the corner (literally)

So delighted to read this.
What a great update.

It is so true that you need to create the space to meet someone nice, which you can't do if you continue filling your time with a twat.

Well done to you.
Best of luck.

So happy for you 😘

That's a banging update, OP. Well done for knowing your own worth

Love this update OP

I do know my own worth and the best thing is new man knows it too and isn’t afraid to tell me so

Just read your post and love the update

Great update and perfect response to Twat’s booty call. What a twat!

Another quick update for all of you who were so great at supporting me late last year when twat ignored me. New man and I have continued to see one another 2/3/4 nights a week since we met. He is absolutely lovely, talks honestly and openly, makes me feel great and supports me (and I him) in meaningful and caring ways. He stayed last night and we both admitted we had fallen for one another. Had a long chat about what that means to us both - neither of us wish to live with someone else again but love how the relationship has developed. When he left this morning, it was so lovely to hear him say I love you - we both admitted that we are a little scared but said we will communicate honestly and work things out together. I didn't think I would feel this way again after 2 long marriages and several other relationships - was just looking for a FWB situation but here we are. I'll be 69 this year and he will be 67 and having the time of our lives - next step will be meeting children/grandchildren in the near future..One very happy lady here!

That's a lovely update, you sound so happy!

That's a great update. I'm pleased for you op!

So delighted for you.
Together but apart is a great set up.
Being in a loving committed relationship but maintaining your own home and space has several of my friends in their 60's truly living their best lives.
Enjoy every minute of it but think long and hard before you give up your own space.
Keep in touch.
Great to hear from you.

Fantastic news!

This is what happens when you know your worth and don't just accept OK.

I wish you both happiness with each other 💐

That's wonderful.

Just read through the entire thread and update. So glad you’ve found happiness and honesty in your new relationship. So pleased for you 😁

Lovely update, thanks for sharing and best wishes

Delighted for you @whyisnothingsimple ❤️

What a wonderful update! Thank you and all the very best x