To be angry woman at soft play told ds to stop bothering her

[mynME]

Apparently ds had gone to her several times in the play session to tell her about her child, he was sitting on one of those cars you pay to have a turn on and not letting my ds touch the wheel, and for being quite noisy. Apparently she was OK at first but then said ‘ok I really need you to stop bothering me now and tell your own mum,’ but what’s it got to do with me if her child isn’t behaving??

"Apparently"?

So you weren't even supervising your child? YABU.

That aside, he's in the car. Your child waits his turn. There's no obligation for the other child to share.

Well these are small children so generally their parents would sort this stuff out. Plus the fact your son may not be a reliable witness, if he's a typical pre schooler.

Is this really a big deal? It’s Christmas. Let it go.

Why weren’t you watching your child?

Hope you told your ds to leave the woman alone.

YABU

Supervise your child and support them to navigate these kinds of social situations

Could he have been going over to someone who wasn't the said child's mum?

@AnneLovesGilbert my ds is five. I don’t need to follow him round like a toddler, and he wasn’t doing anything wrong 🤷‍♀️

Is this a reverse? 🙄

So, your kid was on a toy and another whiny kid complained at him and then to you to get him off. Go away is a reasonable response.

He was bothering someone repeatedly

No it was her child. They were at the table next to me so I could hear. She was OK at first, she went over to the car and told her ds to take turns. But she got annoyed at having her chat with her mates disturbed I think,

He was bothering the woman , surely you understand why that's wrong ?

What was the other woman supposed to do, kick her child off the car because your DS said so??

It’s unfortunate if she wasn’t very nice about it though.

Well stop him from bothering people then

Because he was explaining to her that she needed to control her son (didn’t use those words, he was very polite?)

He was bothering other grown ups. YABU.

She hasn’t done anything wrong either. Your son was repeatedly bugging her. She asked him to go away. Why should she have to put up with having her chat interrupted by a child she’s not responsible for?? She didn’t swear at him or hurt him. Teach him not to bother strangers.

I’ve always taught him to tell the child’s parents if they are not behaving. Surely that’s the right thing to do.

YABU, your child was annoying another table. If her son is playing on the car then your son needs to come back later.

Sorry, this has made me laugh! Your DS was complaining that another child was being noisy . . . in a soft play?!!!!

Agree with other comments - why did you not see your son approach a complete stranger on more than one occasion?

The fact that the stranger told your child, politely, to bugger off is not the thing you should be questioning.

If my child was playing happily and some random kid kept interrupting me I would get very annoyed. More so with the slack arse mother who couldn’t be bothered to parent her child.

Yes he was. He was being a nuisance to the woman.

Sounds like her child didn't want to share which is perfectly reasonable in play centres. Most kids play on something until they're finished and then whoever is waiting goes on it.

In contrast, your child was repeatedly bothering a stranger.

Its not your 5 year olds place to tell that woman to do anything. Instead you should have parented your own child and told him he cant always have his own way and that theres plenty more to play with.

He was kind of whooping and screaming in a closed area, a sort of den thing.