To be angry woman at soft play told ds to stop bothering her

[mynME]

Apparently ds had gone to her several times in the play session to tell her about her child, he was sitting on one of those cars you pay to have a turn on and not letting my ds touch the wheel, and for being quite noisy. Apparently she was OK at first but then said ‘ok I really need you to stop bothering me now and tell your own mum,’ but what’s it got to do with me if her child isn’t behaving??

Why are your kids still going to soft plays? Most have a much younger cut off date..

Just in case this is genuine - OP, you are quite bonkers and need to control your kid.

Um nope.

What have you told him to do at school?

1. By your own description of events he was, he was very rude to both the boy and the mother who where not doing anything wrong

and

2. how would you know as 'apparently' you weren't keeping an eye on him

You come off insanely badly here. Your child is not special, other do not have to stop what they are doing to accommodate him but its quite obvious he is learning this unsocial behavior from you. Its a shame because it will have a terrible impact on his social life.

No. He comes to you. Then you decide what to do. A 5 year old can’t parent other kids!!!

it’s so risky as well - he could get shouted at or worse.

Well yes actually, you do. You’re supposed to supervise your child at all times at soft play. It’s called being a parent.

Absofuckinglutely!

Because your DS has no right to push in.

I dont know why but I am a magnet to chatty small children and do not enjoy it. Its ok if its a relative but a strange small child chattering away is awkward and parents dont seem to think its in any way intrusive. I have even had a mum say while William is having a lovely chat, I will just pop to the bakery across the road when I was accosted by a child in a cafe. Im not a bloody babysitter. I could never speak to a child like that though, its not ok. Because of that, I wish parents would be more thoughtful of the people their, I am sure very sweet but not mine, children, approach and call them back.

What?? This is such weird guidance to have given. I'm afraid this situation is down to you. I'm sure your intentions are good but you're way out of line with most people's expectations of normal behaviour. You don't make the resolution between a child and an adult they don't know. It's child to child or adult to adult. Child to adult is only in an established relationship. Why would you put him in this position?

OP's kid sounds like the entitled type that can't see another kid have something without wanting it. I wonder where he gets that from.

Why are you teaching you child to be a mithering tattle tale? Sounds like he was annoying the other Mum, I'd have told him to gtf go away as well.
Also your son was in the wrong anyway.

Yes sorry OP I’m with the others - I think the other woman was quite right. Your son sounds annoying, if it were my child I would have told him to go play on something else and leave the lady (and other child) alone.

Your child shouldn't be bothering the other child. The mum was probably hoping you'd correct his behaviour.

Aww bless him 🤣🤣🤣

Exactly

Then stop reporting them, just ignore them.
Other people are reading them going by responses.
As you can tell by this thread, no one likes a snitch.

Agree with this.

why do you think your son is more behaved and has the right to tell on another child?? He should have gone off and played with something else. As the parent this is what you should have said and you should have told him not to grab the wheel. As for the whooping - that’s what kids do when they play. If it’s too noisy then your son should move away. Unless the kids are hurling abuse and swear words of course.

OP your son will get bullied - please teach some different strategies. Perhaps if he’s sees something that makes him uncomfortable he can tell you? Then you can do as you please - but hopefully suggest he waits, moves away etc.

Your 15 year old goes to soft play? And you check on them every few minutes?

Bloody hell is this what parenting as become.
Get kids in this case 5 year old 60 months old to deal with it.
Be a fucking parent op.
This jen is fucked up.

Op I think you're missing half here. It's important to share yes, but it's also important to wait your turn which means waiting until the other person is finished. This child was still playing, wasn't finished and your ds at 5 was trying to take over. That's not ok. In that situation if I were in your shoes I'd have gone over to ds and said that little boy is still enjoying playing on that, he's not finished yet so why don't you go and do xyz and then you can check back later and see if the machine is free yet.

What you don't do is let him go and pester the other child's mum to essentially demand her child stops playing to give him a turn. And I personally wouldn't expect ds to go directly to another parent because who knows what response he'd get, he comes to me and if there's an issue I can't deal with we will go to the other parent together.

Gosh, you sat there, listening in and passing judgment in your mind on the other child and mother, after pre telling your child in the past to go straight to other parents if they have an issue. Yikes!

Literally everyone on this thread has said that OP was in the wrong here.

I know someone whose mum never corrected her, who never got in trouble, whose friends got the blame in everything.

She grew up to be the only true, what I think to be, a real narcissist. She had no concept of right and wrong, or of consequences, or of losing lifelong friendships because she stiffed them over the rent. Or dinner out. Or plane tickets. Or she’d abandon them, alone, in foreign countries.

I have probably a hundred different examples if I sat down and thought about them.

Every time I hear about a mum not correcting their child - even if their child isn’t doing anything wrong - it immediately takes me back to this girl and how badly her mother unintentionally failed her - but massively failed her.

I don’t even know WHY a mother would treat her daughter as though she could do no wrong and then send her out amongst the wolves.

OP do you know how dangerouse what you are doing really is.

Telling your child at that age to go talk to other parents grown adults.

Some parents wont keep taking the crap and being pestered, and will put your son in his place, if your not going to parent others will and show you how its done.
What if the child thinks its the parents but its not.
Some parents are mental.

STRANGER DANGER and all that we teach kids from being born,your setting your own kid up op.
I dont have kids and even i know it bloody wrong.