To be angry woman at soft play told ds to stop bothering her

[mynME]

Apparently ds had gone to her several times in the play session to tell her about her child, he was sitting on one of those cars you pay to have a turn on and not letting my ds touch the wheel, and for being quite noisy. Apparently she was OK at first but then said ‘ok I really need you to stop bothering me now and tell your own mum,’ but what’s it got to do with me if her child isn’t behaving??

This has to be rage bait 😂

You should have stopped him from bothering her after the first time. It doesn’t sound like her son did anything wrong.

Teach your son some manners

Apparently, you do to stop him bothering people...

The mother was likely a narcissist herself. They have extremely warped thinking and believe they're justified in even the maddest things that they do.

There’s a kid at my son’s rugby club i help out at that’s constantly telling tales on what the other kids are doing. Please don’t let your child be that kid. He needs to come and tell YOU if he’s upset at something, not the parent. Then you can decide the next course of action IF required. But sounds like the boy was playing and your son kept trying to take over.

You have got to be joking!
Ok, maybe once - I could understand. But 3 times?
Why didn’t you step in and either speak to the mum kindly yourself and explain your DS really wants a turn, or redirect your son to something else?

I would be irritated too if a child came up to me about the same thing again whilst I was trying to discuss something with my friends.

(to be fair though, I would’ve nipped this in the bud the first time and made sure my child let him have a go … but … anyway - you should have sorted it!)

Leave it

Yh u and ur child is the problem here. I would not want some random kid coming and complaining to me, go speak to ur own mother.

That’s completely reasonable of her op.

My god. I’d have said something to you about your little prince. Nicely, but in a way you understand that he’s the problem because of your refusal to deal with his behaviour.

Well tell him something different because your advice is turning him into a telltale and a weenie!

My husband once took his attention off our son in a dentist waiting room. He was enjoying a few moments of peace from our chatterbox four year old. Then he realised his son had started chatting to a man who was also in the waiting room. He was a former prime minister of our country (not the UK) known for not suffering fools gladly. He chatted good naturely and was very gracious and pleasant about it as my husband apologised for the intrusion. He didn't get to go on bothering him though.

Watch your kids - who knows who they could be talking to! Could be people who may mean them harm rather than being the former leader of the country. And if they are a constant tattle tale there will be people prepared to do them harm. By the way, I wonder if the OP has other children telling her about her son's wrongdoings?

I think you may be right.
I didn’t stop to think about the mother, but I believe she was quite indulged growing up and had a problem with money - or spending it - or constantly spending it.
I remember she was going to be a substitute teacher and her husband made her quit because he couldn’t afford the whole new wardrobe she required to go along with it. The new job only lasted a handful of days.
I don’t think there was a great deal of discipline of their four children - they seemed to always be going out with “friends.” The kids were extremely well behaved in front of company - at each other’s throats when alone. I spent the night with the girl once and couldn’t believe how they fought and scratched and punched each other.
In any event, the narcissist daughter passed away from cancer not too long ago and it’s almost impossible to look the mother in the eyes: the pain is that awful.

You didn’t supervise your own child and they were a complete pain, hate parents that don’t supervise their children and expect others to do so for them!

You shouldn’t teach your child to tattle to other parents. He should speak to you so you can decide if it is safety critical in which case you should speak to the other parent. If not you should teach him how to cope with the situation and redirect him. Eg my child tells me another child is hogging a toy, I suggest other things they can play with. Other example my child tells me another child has wet themselves, I tell the parent or the staff.

Your kid was being mega annoying. And you’re excusing it.