To be angry woman at soft play told ds to stop bothering her

[mynME]

Apparently ds had gone to her several times in the play session to tell her about her child, he was sitting on one of those cars you pay to have a turn on and not letting my ds touch the wheel, and for being quite noisy. Apparently she was OK at first but then said ‘ok I really need you to stop bothering me now and tell your own mum,’ but what’s it got to do with me if her child isn’t behaving??

So it is acceptable that your 5 year old is telling adults how to parent their child!?? Seriously!?? Wow. Sorry, I would have told you to stop your child from interrupting adults who are speaking and told you to find your child something else to play on!!! How do you know her child doesn't have issues with neurodiversity or similar? That could explain his not wanting anyone touching the wheel?

This is terrible advice. Noone likes a tattle tale. It's irritating and just horrible.
Yoyr chikd should have waited until the other chikd was finished. You should have directed your child to another activity.
If your child kept coming and telling me about my child I would have done the same thing.
You are in the wrong and should have been supervising your child and directing them to another area of the soft play untilt ge other child was finished.

So your child was actually the one being rude 🙈

The other child wasn't doing anything wrong unless he was actually making continuous ear-piecing shrieking, and had been in the car for like more that 15-20 minutes. If the other child's mum thought your DS was disturbing her, I very much doubt he'd left it more than a few minutes to tell her about the car, which means your DS needs to learn to wait his turn. As for the noise - sounds quite normal for toddler play.

Your ds shouldn't have been touching it while the other child was on it even if not moving. He shouldn't have been bothering the mum.

No you don't. You don't rebuke anyone.

Nobody likes a kid who tells tales OP. Control your son and maybe engage with him at soft play.

Your child was in the wrong here, as a parent you should have been telling him to leave the other child playing and to wait until he had finished. If your child had come up to me I’d have come over to you and told you to parent him appropriately, whilst you might think children should or must share, it’s not the law.

Is this for real? You really need to be the adult in the situation.

So you've actually told your son to be an arsehole!?

Good god he's five. It doesn't matter who did or said what. Parent him by stepping in and smoothing things out. He's five!!

YOU are the problem!!!

Oh God OP i am embarrassed for you.

I have a friend whose son used to tell parents what their kids were up to at soft play. He would go round the adults pointing and say "is that your child" before grassing on some minor misdemeanour. The parents in question would be utterly perplexed that some pompous sounding reception age child was basically telling them off, me and other mates would be mortified but my friend (who is lovely) thought it was the right thing to do.

These kids are adults now but I promise it's social suicide

If his mum paid for him to use the car then your son should have left him alone.

Can't believe your barbed comments about her chat with her mates being disturbed when you weren't supervising your son.

You don't have to follow him around but you still need to keep an eye on him at that age. I still check what my dc are doing at softplay every few minutes or so and they are 11, 12 and 15.

Is this a joke post? Your kid was being a pain in the bum to another parent and complaining to another kids parent for there child making noise and not sharing at soft play? I am guessing he is your only child.

OP I mean this kindly but your child is going to be really disliked if you carry on teaching him to tell tales on other kids. Kids dont like other kids that tell tales or tell on them for minor things, parents dont like kids that either generally and tend to encourage there kids to be friend's with kids who don't do that. Put a stop to this nonsense now. Had one of my kids came and moaned at me that X child was being loud the answer would have been "we are in soft play i expect that go play away from X child if it bothers you".

Tbh I'd be pretty annoyed if someone's son kept on coming up and hassling me about something like this. Your son should go to you if there's something he wants help with, not other parents.

You need to stop teaching your child to tell tales. It's a very annoying trait.

You need to teach him that if another child has possession of a toy, even if that child isn't visibly doing anything with it, he needs to wait until the child drops it or walks away from it.

The other kid wasn't misbehaving though. Someone not doing what you want them to do doesn't automatically mean they're doing something wrong.

The other kid was playing with the toy, your son needs to wait his turn which means waiting until the other kid has finished playing with it.

You're teaching your kid to be a narcissist who thinks everyone else is "wrong" if he can't have his own way.

Teaching him to approach other parents is also wrong of you. You are his parent, you're the one he should come to if he has a problem. He's 5! Stop expecting him to behave like an adult, it's shirking your parental responsibility towards him and isn't safe for him - one day he'll approach the wrong person and wrongly accuse their child of something and your son could end up physically harmed as a result. You can't expect him to accurately judge who is safe to approach, at his age. You're the one who should approach the other parent if their child is genuinely misbehaving towards yours such as physical violence, snatching toys off him or persistently bullying him.

You should watch him more too. You didn't see him approaching this other woman repeatedly. This means you wouldn't have seen if he'd willingly gone off with an abductor without any fuss, you'd have just looked up from your phone and realised your son was no longer in the soft play and you'd have no idea where he was or when he was taken.

Agree!

What's the obsession with "reverses" around here? Is it just a way to get "completely made up bollocks" under the radar?

No prize!

I've never heard of anyone getting their small child to go and complain to random strangers, you have a very unique parenting style I must say..

I was always taught not to tell tales. I'm afraid I would find it irritating.

I just know OP is one of those people who thinks that she's entitled to have whatever she wants, just because she wants it. And that as long as she's not screaming and shouting at someone or swearing, then repeatedly "politely" asking them to do/not do xyz until they get so pissed off with her that they give in, is acceptable behaviour.

It's not polite at all OP, it's bullying and harassing and completely out of order. Especially as you no doubt get cross if people don't comply.

So your DS is a taddletale... that will win him lots of friends from outstanding social grace.

Yes little kids are learning but its your job to correct that behavior and teach your child not to be entitled and impatient.

The other child was on the car first, he has just as much right as your DS and doesn't have to give it up or share. So 'telling on him' to his mother is suppose to elicit what response?

She sent your child back to you so you could parent your child who was causing the nuisance and bothering strangers.

Errrr no.