To be angry woman at soft play told ds to stop bothering her

[mynME]

Apparently ds had gone to her several times in the play session to tell her about her child, he was sitting on one of those cars you pay to have a turn on and not letting my ds touch the wheel, and for being quite noisy. Apparently she was OK at first but then said ‘ok I really need you to stop bothering me now and tell your own mum,’ but what’s it got to do with me if her child isn’t behaving??

How many times did he bother her?

“Apparently” - you weren’t paying enough attention to 1) see the issue with the other child and 2) see yours talking to another adult repeatedly? I don’t love it when someone else’s child comes tattling to me about some non-issue just because I’m the only one watching!

He sounds like a tattle tale and her child wasn't misbehaving, your kid isn't entitled to a turn until her kid has finished. I'd be pissed too if my kid was having a nice time and your kid came over several times to tattle on something that isn't an issue. Get a grip.

But your kid was the one being annoying...he was trying to touch a toy another kid was playing with and them repeatedly telling tails

You should have told your kid to stop telling tails and go and play with something else

You sound completely unreasonable! Stop your child bothering strangers and supervise them or entertain them yourself

So because the other child wouldn't do what you son wanted, he decided the other child was misbehaving. And you have actually encouraged him to go and annoy parents when he doesn't get his own way.

Good luck with that.

She paid for her kid to go on the car, why should he share?
you sound as annoying as your kid.

Oh wow I've never taught my kids this. We can't trust the judgement of small children when it comes to what is and isn't worth tattling to their parents about! He's going to annoy other kids and their parents. My kids come and tell me if they're having an issue and I step in if needs be!

Three times

But then otherwise I have to rebuke a child who isn’t mine which doesn’t seem quite right?

you are telling your 5 year old to track parents and tell them about their mis-behaving children? really? 😂😂

ok I really need you to stop bothering me now and tell your own mum
she sounds lovely, that's the kindest way to deal with an irritant.

Doesn’t sound like the child was misbehaving? Just playing on something your child wanted to and didn’t want to get off. I probably wouldn’t have said anything but would inwardly have groaned when I saw your child approaching yet again. This is exactly the kind of extremely low/level disagreement children need to resolve for themselves.

Hitting, pushing, shoving, yes tell me. But this? Not sure it warrants a parent being told repeatedly about it, just go and do something else.

No, he was just sat on it. It wasn’t moving.

He was annoying another parent over what was essentially nothing

No but you can speak to the child's parents yourself if you deem it necessary? And probably more diplomatically than a five year old can!

He was pushing ds’s hands away when ds was trying to take the wheel

This is so preposterous that I can’t believe that it is true. Nobody encourages their child to talk to strangers for a start.

God what? It wouldn't be my choice, why are you putting that on your child?I'm embarrassed for you

Well were either of you going to put money in the car? Sounds like neither child needed to be on this in reality. If your son had been given money and the other child was on it just messing around then fair enough.
Also it isn't up to your child to decide another child is being too loud. It's soft play. If your child is sensitive to noise then maybe you need to ask if they run quiet sessions.
I would find it quite rude having a 5 year old coming up to me telling tales (as you are assuming your version is correct). Your child needs to tell you, not go round to other parents unless it is a close friend of yours, then he might mention the friend not being fair when playing.

No one likes a kid who constantly tells tales.

Hahaha. YABU
No it isn't the right thing to teach your child. Your child tells you and YOU talk to the other parent if necessary.
You don't teach your child to go to to strangers over potentially contentious issues! What if the adult was aggressive, rude, dangerous? You're the parent. You're responsible for sorting issues out.
Also, as child whooping in a soft play, even in an enclosed area is to be expected
Sounds like she responded politely. Tbh I'm amazed she didn't tell you to sort your child out.
Your child shouldn't have been bothering hers while playing with a toy.

Hopefully, the other child came to you about your son’s poor behaviour?

That’s up to him. It’s not up to you to manage how other people choose to enjoy themselves.

There's nothing to rebuke. The child is using the public use toy. Your child wants it but someone is using it so he waits until they are done. Your child should come and tell you so you can manage their expectations. Also 5 is still very young. Imagine watching your child do this and sitting there thinking the other parents in the wrong

Your child though could be seen as trying to take over. The other child was having a turn, and your child actually was in the wrong by not waiting and trying to grab the wheel.