To be angry woman at soft play told ds to stop bothering her

[mynME]

Apparently ds had gone to her several times in the play session to tell her about her child, he was sitting on one of those cars you pay to have a turn on and not letting my ds touch the wheel, and for being quite noisy. Apparently she was OK at first but then said ‘ok I really need you to stop bothering me now and tell your own mum,’ but what’s it got to do with me if her child isn’t behaving??

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So your child was being a brat and yet it's the other child in the wrong? Maybe teach your child about waiting his turn.

Teach your child to stand up for themselves, at school they teach not to keep telling repeatedly . I work in a school and we have lots of kids like your ds and they always have ' that parent' that becomes the talk of the staff room.

He was using the toy, your child was trying to muscle in.

Why didn't you stop your five year old from trying to take another child's toy? Surely you can intervene if you see him trying to take the wheel from another child?

& Did you really sit and watch him go up to another parent 3 times? Just to be clear, you should have intervened and redirected your son. Not encourage him to complain to a random adult.

It's Christmas Eve!!!! It's not a day to expect young children to be quiet! I'm not surprised the other mother was fed up with complaints from your DS . . . I'm sure she took her DS to soft play to allow him to let off steam & wear him out a bit!

You are just teaching your kid to go running to an adult every time something they don't like happens...kids sometimes need to learn to handle their own issues and not go telling tales every 5 minutes.

Yabvu

I’m getting bored with reporting ridiculous made up threads designed to get posters worked up.

All of this can be solved by you supervising your child. Ds shouldn’t be trying to take the wheel or tracking down random parents

No you speak to their parent if necessary, or tell ur child to go do something else

I mean if it were my 6yo I’d just say ‘Oh dear, maybe just go and do something else and try again later’ and that would be an end to it.

YABVU
You are teaching your child to be as entitled as yourself. What right did he have to a) stop the child playing with the car instead of waiting his turn
b) telling tales on others just because he couldn’t get his own way.
Do better

Tbf if it is true it explains some of the children I’ve encountered out in the wild. 😂

Ok, now I’m invested…

Op I was thinking what I'd do in your shoes, my child would (like most people's) come to me and say he wanted to use the steering wheel and I'd tell him the other child was using it and he'd have to wait. I'd watch to ensure he left the other child be or waited patiently. I'd possibly redirect him to a different activity 'while you're waiting I'll time you doing all slides like an obstacle course' or something. Then if I'd been rangling him for ages I'd maybe say to the mum at the next table, 'sorry he's desparate for a go on the tractor, would you mind seeing if your wee one is almost done?' and most ordinary parents would then work with me to make sure both kids calmly manage the tractor issue.

that's the right thing to do? He's being raised well.

Actually I don't believe this. No one teaches their child to go up to strange adults. Especially about something they will be defensive about. That's just dangerous and stupid. No. Don't believe it.

I mean, I’ve had a wine or 3 but my brain is boggled at the audacity (of the OP and her kid).

ah Stop. You're going to make him a pariah. I can't believe you taught him to constantly tell kids parents on them.?
Is this your first child by any chance?

You taught your child to be a tattle tail?

No only that, but to talk to strangers.

I can't believe this is real.

I would be pretty peeved off if some random child kept bothering me too. It doesn't even sound like the other child was misbehaving either, whereas your child is 5 and should know how to wait his turn. Instead he is trying to force the other kid off the toy and when he didnt comply, he goes up to his mum and complains about it, several times.... and yet you think she is in the wrong 🤔

Your DC needs to stop pestering and learn to wait for a turn. Children don't always have to share.

No of course you wouldn’t rebuke the child. You’d watch more closely at that point, and figure out whether a polite request directly to the child might be warranted, or, a polite approach to the parent… by you, of course… not by your child!

So your ds shouldn't have been trying to touch the wheel he should have waited until it was his turn.
More to the point he shouldn't be approaching strangers as you never know how they will react to him, I honestly can't believe that you would teach a child to do that, have you never heard of safeguarding?
Your son was being a bully and trying to get the boys mum to remove him from a ride he was playing on just so your son could go on it, thats not the sort of behaviour you should be encouraging.
I really think that you should give your head a wobble and accept that your son was being at best a nuisance and teach him to complain to you and then if he has a valid complaint (which this wasn't) you speak to the parents don't leave it to a 5 year old