To be angry woman at soft play told ds to stop bothering her

[mynME]

Apparently ds had gone to her several times in the play session to tell her about her child, he was sitting on one of those cars you pay to have a turn on and not letting my ds touch the wheel, and for being quite noisy. Apparently she was OK at first but then said ‘ok I really need you to stop bothering me now and tell your own mum,’ but what’s it got to do with me if her child isn’t behaving??

I find it odd he’d approach someone else’s parents. In similar situations both of mine would’ve come to me. I’ve asked random to children to take turns. Also it’s best to just play on something else and stuff usually becomes free. And children are noisy at soft play- not much you can do.

YABU

Your child was annoying another child who was playing with something - your child needed to wait his turn. And annoying the child’s mother. I also can’t stand it when kids I don’t know tattle to me about my child when they are just doing something the other child doesn’t like, rather than wrong

If I saw my 5 year old approaching a parent at soft play I’d be straight over to find out what he was up to. It’s not your child’s place to be speaking to parents and telling them what to do. It’s just not appropriate behaviour.

I've never heard of anyone telling their child to go and tell someone else's parent?! Surely your child comes to tell you?!

This has got to be a wind up?

By control her son you mean immediately give up the toy he is playing with to your son? And god forbid her son is being loud in a soft play! Sounds like a right tear away, does he not know noise is not permitted in a soft play?

in all seriousness OP I think the women was more than generous with her response. You should have immediately stepped in the first time your son started harassing her about her son playing with a toy and being “loud”. Sounds like your son (and you) was the badly behaved one here.

Your son is 5, that is tiny. Even if he doesn’t need following around you need to have an eye on him. If he went up to an adult 3 times without you realising then you need to watch closer. If you did notice you should have intervened,

To be honest your son sounds like the one who was misbehaving and you should have told him to leave the car for now and play elsewhere until the boy is done.

Your child sounds insufferable. Hope he grows out of it!! Parents and other children will soon tire of him. Maybe teach him to mind his own business.

Nope, you go and speak to their parent.
Jeez, this smacks of entitled behaviour sorry OP.. your kid ‘I want to do something and someone else is getting in my way, pesters parent about it’ ‘you as mum sit and do zero because you can’t be bothered to move and are happy to have your kid approach strangers then moan about them politely telling your kid to stop bothering them about him trying to police other kids behaviour in a soft play’
Cheer up man

So neither parent was putting money into the car. Her son was sat in the car and your son kept trying to take over the car?

Your son then kept going telling tales to that child’s mother?

Yes you’re the unreasonable parent.

Well if it's nothing to do with you why do you care what she says to him?

His feelings and concerns are much more your problem than they are hers.

Don't you teach your children to come to you if there's an issue, rather than approach and try and explain it to a stranger?

Why didn't you get your son and move him to another area? Instead of letting him annoy another adult

YABU.

I really don't get that children have to share (as in handing a toy over to another entitled child) with strangers. Naturally they will play with something and then move on to something else in due course.

Forcing children off mid play is nasty and entitled. People should teach their children to a) wait their turn and b) find something else to do. Patience is a virtue to be learned.

They had paid for their child to ride - he should have been able to do that unencumbered

you certainly shouldn’t be leaving your child to address adults - YOU are the trusted adult - for many reasons

Be honest...you've told your son to tell the other parents because you dont like confrontation and because you can't be arsed either.

Why else wouldn't you ask him to tell you?

And why was he in the toddler section?

Why have you taught your child to go and speak to the parent of children that might be misbehaving. Not only are you encouraging your child to talk complete strangers you also do not know how the other parent might react so could be placing them in a dangerous situation. Yes you were sitting near by but what about times when you are not around?

Your child does sound like he annoyed the other parent by keeping approaching her about her child when her child was already playing on it. Majority of children are loud when they are in soft play as it is where they let off steam and run around like terrors.
Unless they are harming others or bully others you let them get on with it.

You should have steered your son away to play with something else not let him keep complaining to a parent about their child.

but her kid wasn’t actually doing anything ‘wrong’? I’d have told mine to stop whinging and go find something away from the other kid to play with if he was bothering him so much.

I call Reverse and claim my prize

Which is reasonable. Your child shouldn't have tried to bully his way into the car! You are so unreasonable this has to be a reverse.

OP, your son is going to find himself friendless pretty quickly if you’re teaching him to be a grass.

Was there nothing else in the whole of the soft play your DS could play with?
You should have seen that he was repeatedly bothering a stranger and told him to play somewhere else until the other boy had had enough on the car

Yeah, I've told a kid to go away before when they kept coming to me to tell tales about my DC who wasn't really doing anything wrong in my opinion.

You really need to teach your child not to bother random adults. If he has a problem, he comes to you and you judge whether it's worth speaking to the parent about.

God Lord read that back to yourself how can you possibly think you and your rude child are in the right. Teach him some manners.

So you send a 5 year old to tell an adult whose a stranger off?!