To be angry woman at soft play told ds to stop bothering her

[mynME]

Apparently ds had gone to her several times in the play session to tell her about her child, he was sitting on one of those cars you pay to have a turn on and not letting my ds touch the wheel, and for being quite noisy. Apparently she was OK at first but then said ‘ok I really need you to stop bothering me now and tell your own mum,’ but what’s it got to do with me if her child isn’t behaving??

And you think that's an ok thing for a five year old to say to an adult female stranger? You can't be serious.

well, he was wasn't he..He was approaching and bothering a stranger.

At 5 years old?! Of course he did. 🙄

I have a child who will talk to anyone. I do sometimes wish someone would tell her not to talk to them. As at the moment the whole “stranger danger” isn’t working.

As long as she didn’t shout, then I don’t see the issue

God it just gets worse 11/12 and 15 years at soft play centers.

Letting 5 year olds talk to starangers and now taking teens to play centers.

Right thats it someone stop the planet i want to get off, parents today have finally lost it.

Time to teach your DS about boundaries.

I think the mum needs that leson.
And parenting class.

I feel sorry for your son, he is annoying, knows no boundaries, he knew not to bother you, so he pestered another parent. He also sounds what I would call entitled.

You must step up now, and parent. To be honest I think you are raising a very rude child.

You need to teach your kid some manners, including not taking adults to task over things.
I would have been annoyed if some bumptious brat kept coming up to me trying to tell me about my kid.

The op takes her 5 year old to soft play and told him effectively not yo bother her and speak to strangers if he has a problem.....why dont parents want to parent?

My local soft play has an upper age limit of 12 in the mainstream sessions but older children can come to the SEN sessions as long as they are with a sibling who is aged 12 or under. My 15 year old loves soft play, although he prefers air hop these days (which is annoying as it's £12 more expensive for half the time).

There are loads of soft plays for under 5's or under 8's popping up but I thought the majority of soft plays were ones for up to 12 years or up to 150cm.

I've always thought play for older dc should be encouraged. We have a climbing frame and trampoline in our garden that is used most days but sometimes when the weather is rubbish I want to take the dc to somewhere they can burn off energy but I can still feel my fingers.

We are getting an annual pass to a theme park which has a massive soft play for all ages for the dc main christmas present this year as it worked out so much better value.

Clearly he was. He was bothering the woman.

You should have been standing up for your DS. By making him go to a misbehaving child’s parent, you are parentifying him. He should come to you, tell you and you should talk to the misbehaving child’s parent(s).

Then teach your son not to try to take over something a much smaller child was playing with. Your son and you sound like you think entitled twatish behavior is acceptable. He does because that is what you have taught him.

Children that were parentified grow up thinking some of it was normal. I was parentified and it took a lot of time and therapy to understand all the less obvious things I never should have been responsible for when I was a child.

OP likely is raising her DS the way she was raised in some ways that are blind spots. Kind of like how abusive parents who were straight up beaten as kids will deny they are abusive because they only smack and yell.

Your son was interfering in another child's play, by the sound of it.

I wouldn't respond well to a five year old telling me I need to control my child either. Really?

He needs to learn to wait. Harassing another adult isnt appropriate, he can find something else to do and go on it when he moves.

He was annoying another parent. My DS does this at times and I tell him to stop bothering other families and to stop telling tales. I also tell him to go and play elsewhere.

How would you like it if someone else's irritating kid was always pulling at your coat, wingeing on about your child who was actually just playing? Irritating as fuck.

Be a better parent.

Precious first born syndrome?

I don’t believe this happened! You’re not really as stupid as you sound are you op?

You think it's okay for your 5 year old to go to adults and tell them how to parent their own children? Fucking hell. Your son sounds like a right wee know-it-all clipe. The absolute cheek of him to repeatedly tell a grown up what to do. Also astonishing that he has the brass kneck to do that rather than speaking to you about it. I'd be flabbergasted if a 5 year old repeatedly came up to me like that. Good on the woman for telling him to do one. Your child is insufferable and sooner or later someone will teach him some manners because you clearly haven't.

Another lazy parent raising yet another entitled brat.

No OP, you shouldn't be encouraging your child to go up to strangers. I mean... where to start with the reasons why not 😮

This needs to be in Classics.

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This has to be a reverse, surely. The kid is playing on a toy and your son keeps pestering the child by grabbing the wheel. Then, because the child didn't give in to your son's harassment and bullying, your son started telling the child's parent, repeatedly, that their kid was misbehaving!! If this is actually true then there's something seriously wrong with you OP and you're actively passing on your social inabilities to your child. You're trying to make your child into a smart-arse narcissist.