To be angry woman at soft play told ds to stop bothering her

[mynME]

Apparently ds had gone to her several times in the play session to tell her about her child, he was sitting on one of those cars you pay to have a turn on and not letting my ds touch the wheel, and for being quite noisy. Apparently she was OK at first but then said ‘ok I really need you to stop bothering me now and tell your own mum,’ but what’s it got to do with me if her child isn’t behaving??

Whose getting worked up? 👀

Lol at all the serious replies!

What??? Five year olds can't go round telling strangers how to parent their children.

Your ds sounds like he was being quite annoying. I don't mind a bit of chit chat with other dc, but ultimately it's your role to parent. No, he shouldn't be running to tell the other mum about every tiny thing. If something big/dangerous happens, he should tell you and you talk to the other mum. If it's small, he needs to navigate it himself (with your support).

Unless I’m missing something she’s done nothing wrong. Your DC was being a bit irritating and she’s asked him to speak to you, hasn’t said anything bad to him?

Keep an eye on him next time and let it go.

Actually is this a joke?

Your child clearly wanted to go onto a toy that was already occupied. And you think it's ok to complain about another child playing to their parent?
You are teaching your child everything about being an entitled, spoilt brat.

So your son was bothering her child and her repeatedly and you just sat and watched. I would have told him to go find his parent as well.

Yabu. If it'd been me I'd have told him the same.

I don’t really blame him?
He was happily playing and your son was trying to get in his way, and take control of the car he was playing with. Your son should’ve waited. This other boy certainly was not misbehaving, he did absolutely nothing wrong.
Your son on the other hand though… trying to take over someone else’s game and then repeatedly bothering an adult over it. You need to tell him.

I wouldn't have been impressed with someone else's offspring pestering me. YABU for allowing him to be a PITA.
Other kids aren't obliged to just jump off a toy the minute your kid decides he wants a turn. He has to learn to wait.
Unclench a little

The other kid was on the car. Whys your DS trying to muscle in and running to the kids mum when he doesn’t get to touch the car? Why isn’t he waiting his turn?
Had you been supervising your own child you could have told him that it’s the parents responsibility to
monitor the other child and not his.

I am wondering if this is a piss take as my understanding is

1. small child was playing on a car and your child kept trying to grab the wheel.
2. instead of sucking it up and playing on something else your child complained to the child’s parent 3 times he was being noisy and not sharing.
3. you see nothing wrong with 1 or 2 and are instead annoyed with the mum who quite politely said stop interrupting her conversation.

Definitely not.

He should tell YOU. You then decide if you agree the other child is doing something that needs stopping, and YOU then tell the child’s parent. You don’t put your 5 year old in that position.

Why does your child get to decide when the other child has had long enough on a particular toy (or you for that matter). Surely there are loads of other things to do at soft play.

Your child trying to grab the wheel is pushing in. The other child was just moving his hands and trying to stop him taking over which is fair enough. You should have told your child to wait for the other child to finish his turn and do something else, not send him off to repeatedly bother the other child's mum!

Actually, is this a reverse?

This - you said it was a paid ride - your ds shouldn’t be touching the wheel

and obv he does need supervising in public play places at 5

you sound lazy

Your child sounds like a bit of an annoying brat. It’s soft play, let it go

I’m not entirely sure this is good advice. I think it’s better he tells you, you then decide how best to manage the situation.

Watch your kid.

Stop letting your kid bug other kids and moms. 🙄

You sound uptight and entitled and you are raising your child to be the same.

Typical Mumsnet.
Someone wasn’t parenting their child fairly and getting them to share and ofc it’s your fault, OP.

If it was the other way around you would be terrible for not teaching your child to share.

I swear people on here are argumentative and out for a fight for the sake of it.
How sad 🙄

YABu on all counts quite frankly.

If this is real, she was perfectly polite, and had every right to redirect your 5yo to you.

And how bloody stupid to teach your child to a)speak to strangers, and b)tattle tale on another child TO their parent.

The only time i would ever encourage a child to approach another parent is if their child is in danger of hurting themselves.. but me or his dad, or any other adult we're there with should be the first port of call every single time.

Why was your DS trying to put his hands on the wheel of a toy another child was playing on? Surely your DS was the child misbehaving. He should have gone and played with something else, not repeatedly annoyed another adult.

Unless you were going to pay for your son to make the car move, at which point I’m guessing you would have gone over to put the money in and asked the other child to climb out so your son could use it properly, then neither needed to have the car.
I would have just told your child to stay away from car if you weren’t going to put the coins in to make it go and play with something else rather then let him keep going back to the other child’s mum.
The only time I intervene directly with other children in soft play is if my child is in the under 6 bit and there are larger children (age 10/11) and he risks getting knocked/trampled.
I tell my kids to stay away from the sweet machines/little ride ins because I’m not paying extra for them so there is no point hanging around them.

Control her son or kick him off of the ride on because your son wanted it? You havent said anything about the boy being naughty.