Would it bother you if one person wasn’t drinking at Christmas?

[wakinginthenight]

Dh and I do like to have a few drinks at Christmas and enjoy ourselves.
We are having Christmas at home just family and we all intend to have a good amount of drink, play a few silly party games, music and just let our hair down because it’s Christmas but there is one person who’ll be coming who has requested alcohol free beer as he’s not drinking.
He does drink, he’s just decided he won’t on this occasion.
I feel a bit miffed to be honest that we are all going to be drinking and one sober person will be sitting there watching.
I know IABU but I really wish they would not come if they are just going to sit there and remember everything, I don’t think it helps that they will be here all day and all night.

And my reply to your response is, if you’re curious then ask her. In a level way. In the same way you would ask her in the real world.

Im just observing. If 2400 people really have jumped on in the same way, as you’re suggesting. Then that is fascinating.

You need help for your drinking problem if you can't accept that people don't have to drink.

I am the sober person. I don't drink at home, with my family or when we go to DH family for Christmas. I don't drink because I'm on a bunch of different meds. Everyone understands, everyone still gets drunk, everyone including me still has fun and does silly things. The only time it's been a problem is when the others got drunk and overcooked the turkey so it was a big bit dry but it's a funny story to reminisce on.

YABVVVVVU.

Immagine going to your parents and being told off for not contributing. Thanks God I have the kind of parents where I will always have a seat at the table, no matter what! I am 40 and mum trates me like a kid and cooks for me my favourite food, she also holds me like a baby when I am upset and crying. They are the only constant in my life, the only comfort who will always ve there no matter what. My dad is the same. Posts like this make me appreciate my parents even more! How sad that some people tell their children off for not bringing their own beer and food!

Yuck. All sounds dreadful.

Don't be ridiculous. You've decided that he's asked to be waited (not weighted) on hand and foot because he's asked for some beer. You had three kids at 25 - so what

I hope this is a reverse… nobody questions it when a pregnant woman stops drinking so why otherwise? Maybe he’s an alcoholic or has had a new diagnosis or is allergic to alcohol or just doesn’t like himself drunk? Maybe he’s driving. Maybe he has early plans the next day and doesn’t want a hangover.

You don’t get to cut people out of social events because they’re not poisoning themselves along with the rest of you.

No you’re not really… they’re not a spectator they’re taking part in the day they’re just not getting wasted. You need to go to AA if you plan to get so bladdered you have anterograde amnesia.

Is this even real? Do you perhaps drink too much and you don’t want any spotlight on that with having someone sober around who will remember everything? For a few years we would go to friends over Christmas time who were big drinkers, I would get pushed into keeping up, it would ruin the following day, be terrible for my MH. I look back and shudder. Don’t be those people.

My son is soon to be 25 and lives with us. Even if he moved out I'd never not welcome my own children back home.

How do people know he's not going to take gifts? Have they bought him a gift.

Is this thread just going to consist of essays defending the OPs position?

Good Grief OP.

Face DSS and repeat after me.

"You're welcome to come, but you can provide your own alcohol free beer, i won't be buying any, and we're doing a buffet, not the full roast. We will be enjoying a drink and some games with the kids. If that doesn't sound like your kind of Christmas, we'll understand if you choose to go elsewhere."

It is literally THAT simple. He is a grown ass adult.

“Consist of essays defending the OP”. What, you mean the 2% of this thread who are critical thinkers, able to analyse the information objectively, without letting emotion or personal bias cloud their judgment.

At 25 you expect them to have manners when entering anyone's home. By the time I was 25 I had 3 children I always went to my parents with food. Is it a weird concept to respect the people around you and give back if they are hosting you? Posters are not helping this young man get out of his entitlement. I feel sorry for the single ladies out there who will take over supporting him.

How do you know he's not gay? Bit of an assumption there

you sound like you have an unhealthy relationship with alcohol if you're intention is to get totally bladdered to thep point of not remembering what happened and knowing there will be something you're hoping no one will remember.

If you don’t like them sober then you just don’t like them.

Is there going to be an essay every time someone doesn't agree with the OP?

Or are we all going to be called see you next Tuesdays again?

If he was the op wouldn't be here complaining. I wouldn't dream of asking my parents to buy special drinks for me. I brought food at Christmas.

You sound very fun 🤩! What a lovely Christmas enjoy! Just tell him to not film or bring up what happened - sober you doesn’t need to hear about tipsy you 😂

you're going to be so drunk the only person who remember what happened is step son when you've got young kids in the house? I'd say good in him for not drinking cos in the event of an emergency, you're going to need him

why doesn't she want to spend Christmas with his son?

Mother's and their sons. They can't do no wrong even if they are taking the piss.

Jesus F#ck, how is that going to affect you in any way? I'd hate to see you if you had some real worries....

ICYMI @Roobarbtwo and you called me some awful names on here too last night for simply pointing this out. It’s disgusting.

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Here are some more of the vile attacks: (yet, you say that I’m the bully)

“So clearly your unable to control your mouth when your pissed, your coming across as one of those undesirables piss heads that always want a arugement or insult others and then blame the drink. Wonder if you’ll end up fighting too for the full bingo.”

“You disgust me. Presumably some of these friends will be driving home? Make sure they all have 'one for the road' then, so YOU don't feel bad. Jesus.”

“What the hell have I just read?! You are a vile person.”

“So you’re incredibly tight as well as being a piss artist”

“Planning to get so shitfaced you don’t remember would suggest you have a serious issue with drink”

“You sound very very weird”

”I suspect Your one of those people that when they do drink they go hard. Very hard. You may not think thats an issue but it is. I don’t drink, if that means i then wasn’t invited to your gathering then I would be grateful.”

“Middle aged people getting piased is totally embarrassing”

“Wtf. You want to get shitfaced with your step son. Woah - this is just fucking weird.”

”I can’t stand people like you. So what if they don’t want to drink, you know this reaction speaks volumes about you, and possible that you’re embraced about how you act and drink.”

“You're making enough of a fool of yourself here, so I can't imagine what you're like after a drink.”