“What made you think you were communicating on my level (or on anyone’s level) by calling everyone who disagrees with you cunts? Had anyone else resorted to this kind of aggressive language? Or was your belief that people like me would “understand that language” an emotional reaction based on an assumption you made?”
Have you read the replies? The language is unacceptable, and your argument (Sorry, 98% of responders) is based entirely on assumptions.
“We’ve interpreted the OPs posts differently, and I’ve not “made up my mind completely” any more than (and possibly not as firmly as) you have. My opinion, like yours, is based on what OP has said, and I’d be open to changing that opinion if new (reliable) information came to light. Unfortunately for OP, the drip-feed showed her to be an unreliable narrator, and many posters who disagree with you can’t take the additional justifications for her feelings about her stepson, or the reframing of the amount she intended to drink, at face value.”
The opinions of 98% of respondents have been expressed in a particularly aggressive and one‑sided way. The OP may have seemed a bit sketchy when adding extra details, but she’s been absolutely hounded. She came here to vent and ask whether her approach was unreasonable, yet what she’s received instead feels like a virtual stoning. People have called her cruel personal names and accused her of being an alcoholic and an unfit mother.
“Personally, as I’ve already said, I find it intriguing that OPs stepson is fine with OP drinking and even happily drinks with her in some situations, but he isn’t okay with it in others. It seems quite significant that it’s when he decides to stay sober that he disapproves of OP drinking. Of course, this could be a sanctimonious 25 year old who changes his judgments based on his own behaviour. But it could also be a stepson who disapproves of his dad and stepmum “having a fair amount of drink”/drinking with the intention of getting “tipsy” around his primary-school aged half-siblings on Christmas Day, and he might be staying sober for them. Or it could be a combination, or we could both be way off the mark - it’s hard to tell what the hell is going on when OP changed her story so dramatically.”
But that’s the point, isn’t it? We don’t have all information yet assumptions have been made and responses were based on that inaccurate judgment.
”I’m not “upset” that you’re “throwing stones back” just confused as to why you’re ’throwing stones’ at all. I’m also slightly baffled by your repeated use of “you all”, as if everyone who disagrees with you is a hive-mind.”
Glad to hear it, I’m pleased you’re not upset and losing sleep over this. Apologies, 98% of responders. I’m not here to argue with anyone who disagrees with me. All I’ve done is make an observation, explained why I called the collective Mumsnetters c*ts, and shared how I interpreted the original post. I’ve been pretty clear, yet there still seems to be confusion. If that’s the case, there’s probably no point in continuing this exchange is there, as we’re just going to keep going around in circles.
I really feel for the OP she didn’t deserve to be treated that way, and the responses have been completely unfair.