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DP putting his foot in it when meeting my friends for first time

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Lurker25 · 01/12/2025 20:50

I moved away from my hometown a few years ago for work, so don’t get back often. However I met up with friends over the weekend and introduced them to my DP. He rather put his foot in it, but swears it was nerves and he meant nothing by it. To not be too graphic, he basically told one of my friends that his ex would ‘allow’ a specific sex act at Christmas and on his Birthday. I wasn’t part of said conversation, but my friend told me and he admitted it. My friend said it was barely relevant to their conversation. Would you give him the benefit of the doubt if he’s otherwise been a great partner? Or do you think it’s a sign?

OP posts:
Lemonandlimefizzywater · 05/12/2025 09:12

I would actually break up with someone for that.

B1anche · 05/12/2025 09:29

Lemonandlimefizzywater · 05/12/2025 09:12

I would actually break up with someone for that.

So would most people. But not OP...

JHound · 05/12/2025 11:08

CheeseIsMyIdol · 03/12/2025 22:48

Can you imagine what the ex-girlfriend endured, if he was stuffed with Christmas dinner, flopped on the couch and spread his legs expecting her to lick his anus? After a full day of eating and drinking? It doesn't bear thinking about! I bet he didn't even wash first!

Who on fucking earth would be lonely and desperate enough to service someone like that?

Oh no noooo now I have that disgusting image in my head.

Thank you very much (not!)

😂

SoMuchBadAdvice · 06/12/2025 20:35

Megifer · 02/12/2025 19:07

Excellent use of the word "pile" op.

Your boyfriend told a total stranger he likes his bum hole tongued at Christmas. If thats not given you the ick nothing will, so crack on

I so wish MN had a ROFL Emoticon

Velveletteslonleylonelygirlami · 06/12/2025 20:39

SoMuchBadAdvice · 06/12/2025 20:35

I so wish MN had a ROFL Emoticon

Hi ,what ROFL mean ?

SoMuchBadAdvice · 06/12/2025 20:39

Why would he say this?

My worry would be that he is hunting for a new g/f who shares his preferences, and so I have to add my vote to those who say "move on" - unless of course this is what you have been looking for.

smithsgj · 07/12/2025 11:33

It does sound a bit ick. Where exactly did he put his foot?

TaupeRaven · 08/12/2025 08:49

B1anche · 05/12/2025 09:29

So would most people. But not OP...

Oh no, instead she has doubled down on his amazing values and what a prince among men he is

B1anche · 08/12/2025 09:20

TaupeRaven · 08/12/2025 08:49

Oh no, instead she has doubled down on his amazing values and what a prince among men he is

OP: Would you give him the benefit of the doubt if he’s otherwise been a great partner? Or do you think it’s a sign?

Everyone: Steer clear! Huge red flags! He's a sleazy pervert! No normal person would bring up the subject of rimming with a complete stranger!

OP: I couldn’t care less.

TwistedWonder · 08/12/2025 09:56

B1anche · 08/12/2025 09:20

OP: Would you give him the benefit of the doubt if he’s otherwise been a great partner? Or do you think it’s a sign?

Everyone: Steer clear! Huge red flags! He's a sleazy pervert! No normal person would bring up the subject of rimming with a complete stranger!

OP: I couldn’t care less.

Well at least she knows what a treat she’s got in store after her Christmas dinner…….

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