DP putting his foot in it when meeting my friends for first time

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I moved away from my hometown a few years ago for work, so don’t get back often. However I met up with friends over the weekend and introduced them to my DP. He rather put his foot in it, but swears it was nerves and he meant nothing by it. To not be too graphic, he basically told one of my friends that his ex would ‘allow’ a specific sex act at Christmas and on his Birthday. I wasn’t part of said conversation, but my friend told me and he admitted it. My friend said it was barely relevant to their conversation. Would you give him the benefit of the doubt if he’s otherwise been a great partner? Or do you think it’s a sign?

I interpret that as "he has money and is considered a catch, so I will put up with just about anything on the off chance of riding the gravy train."

Of all the times to be in close proximity to someone's arsehole, shortly after eating Brussel sprouts would be near the bottom of my Best Time for Rimming scale.

Agreed.
I think this is why MN is such a weird space these days and class is a persistent topic in society.
He's the dregs. Women that tolerate such men have low desperate non standards, and they can't really be surprised when it doesn't end well with such oiks.

Oh Lord! Bring back the laughing emoji - if ever a comment deserves it, it is this! Hilarious...

I'm getting visions of those milky way star chocs.
Aye because talking about rimming comes up all the time when meeting others for the first time.
Creep!

100% back in the late 80’s when I started working in The City, inappropriate sexist ‘jokes’ and behaviour was the norm. We tolerated it because to speak up almost certainly meant losing our jobs. Most of us always hated it and shuddered at the vulgarity on display.

Thank god times have changed and women can and do challenge misogyny and sleazy men. And also thankfully these men are fewer in their numbers.

That’s also driving over the limit! Nope.

It may have been mentioned already but aside from the very valid comments made above, this isn’t really “putting his foot in it”.

Putting his foot in it would be telling someone he didn’t like a cake and then finding out that person baked it.

This is just him being him.

Discussing anal with strangers is weird, but discussing rimming is just vile, who does that?!

However this does sound like the deleted thread a while ago about a rusty trumpet…

I would really need to know context as on its own it sounds weird and creepy.

oh no, no, no, no. Not even remotely acceptable or excusable behaviour. Your friends must be wondering how to tell you your SP is an absolute creep.

So she mentions being full and he mentions rimming?

He’s a gross pervert.

Can you imagine what the ex-girlfriend endured, if he was stuffed with Christmas dinner, flopped on the couch and spread his legs expecting her to lick his anus? After a full day of eating and drinking? It doesn't bear thinking about! I bet he didn't even wash first!

Who on fucking earth would be lonely and desperate enough to service someone like that?

Apart from being an embarrassing, clumsy, pathetic perv, the problem here is why he thought your friend would be interested in that information.

Does anyone but me remember when men aspired to be suave, gallant, worldly, sophisticated, considerate, couth, gentlemanly?

"Hi, nice to meet you, Evvie has told me so much about you. Thanks for joining us tonight! May I get you a drink?"

now it's "Oi, my ex used to suck my butthole for Christmas! Cheers!"

Who the actual FUCK is raising men to be like this, and why on earth are young women with two brain cells to rub together not only tolerating it but making excuses for it? In the not-too-distant past an oafish, unmannerly, misogynistic clod like this would have been bounced out of the room so fast his head would spin. Never to be welcomed again.

Giving or receiving?

Unfortunately there are women who do not like what you have described, My oldest friend for example loves neck tattoos, shaved heads , facial scars, guys that look like they could start a fight with a dead animal 🫣. She hates guys with posh accents (her exact words) and guys who are too nicey nicey (again, her words).
I wish I was exaggerating, but I'm not.

Sad.

To me, that is a sign of a woman with abysmally low self-esteem.

Don't get me wrong, I can understand the appeal of bad boy / sleaze for a one night stand or a weekend. But to actually take such scum around friends and family, or to consider them worthy of an actual relationship? No. And OP's Butthole Boy doesn't even sound worth a sleazy shag. I'm sure he'd be a real prize in bed.

I had to l look it up and thanks to Ann Summers I am now fully educated on the subject, except for being as baffled as you as to why anyone would put their tongue into someone's rectum no matter how much they loved them. A million quid wouldn't do it for me!

It adds new meaning to the expression "eat shit", which is clearly how the OPs charming boyfriend views women.

"Near the bottom..."

I see what you did there, @AquaForce 👌

Not the point of the thread, but this has really given me the giggles!

So many times when I am out and about I see beautiful young women who have obviously spent time and money on their appearence being largely ignored by the scruffy tracksuit wearing oik they are with . I know that its whats inside that counts but these girls have made such an effort and the boys they are with have not and are barely clean
Makes me sad

@Imdunfer wouldn't be on my list of things I must try/do.

I am scared to even imagine what that thread involved

I can’t remember exactly but it was something to do with a DH telling OP’s friends that they do that together. It went on and on for ages about their sex lives, turns out it was all fake and got deleted