DP putting his foot in it when meeting my friends for first time

[Lurker25]

I moved away from my hometown a few years ago for work, so don’t get back often. However I met up with friends over the weekend and introduced them to my DP. He rather put his foot in it, but swears it was nerves and he meant nothing by it. To not be too graphic, he basically told one of my friends that his ex would ‘allow’ a specific sex act at Christmas and on his Birthday. I wasn’t part of said conversation, but my friend told me and he admitted it. My friend said it was barely relevant to their conversation. Would you give him the benefit of the doubt if he’s otherwise been a great partner? Or do you think it’s a sign?

And they would be right.

The OP thinks she’s bagged herself a real catch.

So it’s a mystery why she’s started a thread complaining about his witty chat🤷‍♀️

What has he said about it? What’s his reaction been?

Do you tongue his anus OP?

Angel delight...

Who doesn’t love a chocolate starfish on Christmas Eve?

Thanks for that. I enjoyed some Moser Roth praline seashells tonight but I think you've ruined that treat for me now! 🤮😂

Maybe that's why they call it crimbo

I can imagine this thread feels overwhelming now, @Lurker25. It can be natural to push back a bit when you feel piled on. But the Maya Angelou quote is always a good reminder: “When someone shows you who they are, believe them the first time". You’d be crazy to ignore this.

I was thinking thinking the same thing. How gross and vile.

OP you are deluding yourself if you think anything he said is appropriate. He didn't "put his foot in it", and he didn't mind risking upsetting your friend. What is worse is that he thinks this is acceptable. You knew something was off or you wouldn't have posted on here. Instead of defending him, look into raising your standards and expectations about men. Think well of yourself and expect better from them.💐

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If a person 'allows' something, surely it's an act being performed on them.

Yes, you’re right, grammatically, but the context of this suggests otherwise.

Deluded
good men don't talk about rimming with a woman they just met during a conversation about Christmas Day
Still, crack on and we will no doubt see you a few years in when you wake up to reality - and it won't be pretty

Tell you what, when you meet his mates, announce randomly that your ex boyfriend used to have such a massive cock you sometimes thought you’d need an episiotomy to get it all in. Oops, foot in mouth.

See how your respectful family values boyfriend reacts to that. Should tell you everything you need to know.

It might be nothing, but it is worrying- decent men just don't overshare like this, especially about their ex.

Erm…

I am bemused. Seriously…honestly if he couldn’t recover from this with my friends…that would just kinda be the end…

and my thoughts…I don’t know. I just don’t think I have ever heard a discussion about what kinda of sex someone had with an ex from someone I met for the first time. It isn’t just an impression…he was deliberately sharing info no one asked or would have guessed to make him look good I guess? And that is why I would just not…even if my friends found it funny…

but then. How old are you guys? 20ish are just wild sometimes. Doesn’t scream keeper anyway.

Och be quiet

My God people are so uptight these days ! The joke about getting a blowjob on Christmas and Birthdays is as old as the hills .. I’m 65 fgs and would just of laughed it off. He was probably nervous around new people and trying to be jovial !

A jovial chat about rimming? In response to a woman you just met talking about being tired? What kind of nerves make someone bring up rimming with their girlfriend's friends? It's totally weird and really not something anyone says out of nerves!

HofuckingHo.

It may have been done and resented quietly back when sexist misogyny ruled, but it's wildly inappropriate to talk about rim jobs to women you are meeting for the first time unless you're a fucking pervy creep.

Now we recognize men who do those things for exactly what they are, nasty creeps.

Talking to a woman you barely know about rimming is your idea of jovial?

I am in my sixties. This has never been an appropriate thing to do. It’s not some “new feminist woke culture” idealism. This man is GRIM.

A couple of pints and driving? That is not ok.

The minimising happened sooner than expected.

If you think it's "uptight" to refrain from talking about sexually licking an anus to brand-new acquaintances; specifically how one's ex used to lick one's own anus as a Christmas treat, I'd hate to know what you DO think is pleasant social conversation.

Proudly upright, here. I subscribe to the saying "Sex is like money. People who really have it don't need to talk about it."