Visitors turning up to stay has ruined my weekend

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Relatives have turned up to stay unannounced from 60 miles away. I was looking forward to having a very chilled weekend watching what I wanted on tv and snacking with some lovely walks.

AIBU to think its rude to turn up unannounced?

I'd have told them I had such 'exotic' and 'private' 😈 plans they'd be out of the door like a shot.....😎red faced

People turning up unannounced expecting to stay overnight would be sent packing by me. Who the actual fuck thinks that’s reasonable?

These things do not happen just like that. Say : we have not issue an invitation, please leave now and reconsider how you communicate with me for future times

@ChewbaccasMrs Tee hee, that would get most people out the door quickly!

Don't waste your time moaning on here, you should just tell them they are very rude and must go away.

You need to tell them. Like, now.

Why did you let them in?

Bloody hell that’s not on! I’m not surprised you’re hacked off.

Who are they? How old are they? Who on earth would do this? I can’t think of a single person in this day and age of texting who would do such a thing. It’s incredibly rude and entitled.

60 miles journey and they didn't ask?! That's crazy! I think I'd make them sandwiches and a cup of tea but say that they can't stay over as you have plans tonight and tomorrow! Sign post them to a nice hotel. Who even does that?!!! What would they have done if you weren't in?!!!

Do people really do this? Why? Tell them you have plans but they can come back tomorrow for a walk if they can find somewhere to stay.

Not on. Even my mother, whose house is always spotless, would want to make some preparations for overnight guests.

Are you sure they didn’t arrange it with DH who forgot to tell you?

Otherwise YANBU. I think I would have given them a cup of tea then sent them on their way.

Why haven't you used your words?

Another poster who's a wet blanket.

This is unhinged behaviour. I hate anyone even calling in on me unannounced for 10mins, you need to send them packing!

I remember relatives on my mother's side doing this once, and staying for a week. I have always wondered what my mother said that made them decide to descend - making a five hour car journey - without it being arranged beforehand.

Parents?

Another poster paying the wet lettuce tax 😂

You sound passive. If you wanted a weekend on your own you need to make it happen. Offer a cup of tea and then make an excuse and send them on their way.

Incredibly rude - tell them you’ve got norovirus!

Who are they

say No to staying

Why have you assumed the Op is married married?

There is absolutely no justification for any visitors to just turn up without checking first, even if they are only popping in for five minutes. To just turn up and expect to stay for the weekend is really rude and inconsiderate. I'd be fuming.

Did they literally say ‘we have come to stay?’ Just say they can’t and you have plans.