Visitors turning up to stay has ruined my weekend

[Teizzz]

Relatives have turned up to stay unannounced from 60 miles away. I was looking forward to having a very chilled weekend watching what I wanted on tv and snacking with some lovely walks.

AIBU to think its rude to turn up unannounced?

Hope you got time on your own OP. I’ve had this before, only once but I remember being so pissed off.

I would be firm as you can bet it's going to happen again and they may be testing the waters.

Why are there so many piss takers around.

Apparently this is perfectly fine with my mils family!

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I smell a very bored person having a bit of a laugh at Mumsnet poster’s expense

@Teizzz

Exactly this! ⬆️ Tell them you have plans because yoy had no idea they were coming, give them a coffee & get them gone!!!! Simple. No way I'd give in to that.

My worse nightmare !! Why couldn’t they call ? Totally entitled

Wow. So rude and entitled. Were they in any contact with you in the weeks prior to showing up unannounced?

Awful, hope you're okay OP

I have a good friend who I'd just go and hide at saying I was away for the weekend. Or go and see a friend who lives further away and takes a suitcase.

I guess there is a back story here. Who are these people? Have they done it before? I am sometimes irritated if my adult children just turn up but I would never refuse them a bed. Would not expect anyone else to just turn up.

I'm in my 60s and therefore only have another two or three decades in which to plague my younger relatives with unannounced visits and raids on their supplies of Battenburg. However, I won't be doing it. Just the thought of someone turning up out of the blue makes me anxious, so I can't imagine treating someone else that way. My company isn't a huge treat that anyone else has to be grateful for and my time is no more valuable than theirs.

When I was young, many moons ago and didn't have a landline, making a phone-call involved having the right change, or a phone card and catching the person in and near their phone. It was a completely different world to the one we're in now, rattling with gizmos, gadgets and platforms. It wouldn't even cross my mind to show up on someone's doorstep without so much as a text message when the means to communicate is permanently within easy reach.

ETA: YNBU OP.

This reads a bit like one of those attention grabbing facebook posts. Without knowing the nature of the relationship it is pointless commenting. Parents? Sibling? Grandparents even? Uncle? One thing I would offer that would cover all of them is letting them know clearly that notice would be preferable in future. How you phrase that is down to you and depends on your closeness