Visitors turning up to stay has ruined my weekend

[Teizzz]

Relatives have turned up to stay unannounced from 60 miles away. I was looking forward to having a very chilled weekend watching what I wanted on tv and snacking with some lovely walks.

AIBU to think its rude to turn up unannounced?

Don't be so ridiculous. So you have to put up with anything from anyone because they'll die one day?

My worst nightmare is unexpected guests even for an hour so this would send me in a tailspin!

it is beyond rude.

Which relatives? I'd have no problem with adult children doing this, including with partners, but that's because they don't need hosting and I don't feel observed/ judged by them - plus even the one who's moved out properly still has a bedroom here which hasn't been repurposed.

Other relatives might drop by but definitely not to stay the night without prior arrangements.

How you feel is completely understandable unless it's your children.

Only my son would be welcome without an invite and anytime.

Context?

Horrible, entitled behaviour. Who the Hell would do that?

Did you not check who was at the door before answering? I have been known to hide 😂

They wouldn't be staying overnight, if it were me. Fuck that.

@WinterTreacle Yes, my children can turn up any time, but that doesn’t extend to DH’s siblings, I’m afraid. His sister doesn’t seem to get that, although she might be starting to realize after DH announced that he was staying with her. 😂

ruuuuude, I would be so annoyed that if just be bad company all weekend.

Absolutely this. They're unbelievably rude.

So you tell people you are close to (family or close friends presumably, if they're staying over) that they can't come in and shut the door in their faces?

No, that's ridiculous. People know how to text or use a phone.

Are you mute? How about I am sorry that doesn’t work for me or try well relative it has been an utter thrill to see you albeit unexpectedly however I have plans for the evening so shall I help you to your car.

They can only impose on you if you let them.

If they show up unannounced, I can't say that I wouldn't. I would have other plans. They didn't bother to check. Not my problem. Honestly. It would piss me off enough.

We are just back from 60 mile each way round trip to see dc - back in the day perfect

Relatives never do this to me because I set up very strong boundaries for myself.
Don't be afraid to do the same.

I get that, it would piss me off too. But would you actually tell family at the door that you have other plans and close the door on them?

Who actually does this?!

But to be honest, you are the only person who can stop this. Why haven't you told them it's not convenient and to never just turn up on your doorstep to stay without being invited first?!

It's incredibly rude.

Well my family would not do anything so bloody rude but if I was unfortunate enough to be saddled with pig ignorant relatives, then yes, I would

DD and or DD's BF yes. Anytime.
Anyone else nol unless their house had just burned down or similar.

Quoted wrong post, sorry

Yes, I can't say I never would.

Fuck all because I'm off out for the weekend with my mate.
Sorry about that.

shuts door

Asca messy person my spare bed would not be guest ready. In fact the bedroom would not be guest ready.