Daughter not soeaky

[Doglover36]

Granddaughter is 6 months old.. husband kissed her on back of head my daughter has not spoken to us since.. saying that we shouldn't of kissed her child.. anyones thoughts?

Your daughter is overreacting!

Your daughter is mad. Nothing wrong with a granddad kissing his granddaughter on her head. What’s your relationship normally like with your daughter?

All has been good for years.. spoke everyday.. quite upsetting

Had your daughter asked you not to kiss her baby? Is this about rsv?

Had she asked you not to kiss the baby? It’s rsv season and lots of parents are anxious about it.

Did you know not to kiss her child before then?

is this germ related or something else?

I had to put my kids in nursery at 5 months so I find this very baffling. What is wrong with kidding babies at 6 months? Mine was crawling also at 6 months so goodness knows what germs they picked up.

Has she asked you not to kiss the baby?
Is the baby immuno-suppressed?
Did you DH have a stinking cold?
Does he have smokey breath?
Did he have a huge cold sore on his mouth?

If no to all the above, then I think your daughter is over-reacting.

Your daughter is being ridiculous. Its on the back of the head, not her face!

Yeah to do with rsv and germs ect.. never been allowed too at any age of baby..

No cold sore, no smokey breath. Colds ect we always wash our hands before touching baby..

Her baby and her wishes

Well to be honest if she’s told you not too because she’s worried about germs and you’ve ignored her and done it anyway, I can understand why she would be annoyed.

So you know that she’s always had the boundary in place and your husband disregarded her wishes? In that case, YABU.

I suspect your daughters silent treatment is due to the lack of your respect for her boundaries rather than the actual kiss. She asked you both to follow one precautionary rule to help reduce some of the risk, and your husband decided his desire to kiss the baby was more important.

I do agree, but kissing a baby is the kind of thing people sometimes do without thinking so he might not have been intentionally ignoring her wishes, more just being thoughtless.

Why are parents so weird nowadays.
Don't they realise that germs help with immunity.

If they've not been allowed to kiss their grandchild for a whole 6 months, I very much doubt this.

The thing is, babies under 6 months are more at risk. To me, it looks like the baby has now hit 6 months old and grandad has decided the threshold has been met so he's going to have that kiss, regardless of whether he's been permitted or not.

Your daughter is an absolute prize prat. Her partner must be putting up with an awful lot (or hasn't got the balls to tell her to snap out of it and be a decent person).
Let's see how she is when she wants childcare in the future. Will she come crawling back then?
Set money aside in a trust fund for your granddaughter if you can. Write cards for her that you can make sure she gets one day. Your love for her doesn't stop because her sulky madam of a mother can't behave decently. You wonder sometimes who is the adult and who is the child in this situation.
She needs to remember who taught her how to use a spoon and have some respect!

You have another thread about a cold sore and a baby, maybe you daughter doesn’t want either of you kissing the baby due to the herpes virus.

This. It's such a bloody minefield and so, so hurtful. I despair for this generation I really do

What a nasty outburst.

She's not a child anymore, she's a mother, and the one who needs to have some respect is the OP, or she doesn't get to see her grandchild. Because it's not her child, not her choice. She's not in charge any more. Simples.

That’s a strong reaction. How long has it been since she spoke you you?

Over a month taking it out on us all..

If you've never been allowed, why did your husband do it?