Daughter not soeaky

[Doglover36]

Granddaughter is 6 months old.. husband kissed her on back of head my daughter has not spoken to us since.. saying that we shouldn't of kissed her child.. anyones thoughts?

Not sure if this comment is bait but this isn’t true and current NHS guidance is what the parents are requesting BECAUSE of an under developed immune system in a young baby

Urgh 😑 don’t worry she’ll be back when she needs childcare

This. I do think her refusing to talk to you is extreme and wonder how long it will go on for though.

This is extreme from your daughter. Does she have anxiety? What was your reaction when she said she was upset about the kiss? Were you inflammatory or apologetic?

Quite. Let's see if her sulky tantrum lasts when she wants something. She has kept it up for a MONTH!!! That's impressive. What were her teenage tantrums like OP? Has she got form for this sort of foot stamping and silent treatment behaviour.
Leave her to it OP. It is hard for you missing out on that lovely little girl but as PP said she will no doubt come skulking back.
Her poor partner, and her poor work colleagues if she treats them to much of the same!

Your husband made a mistake and is realising the consequences. She’s not taking it out on you all. She angry that he broke her rule. Has he apologised and promised not to do it again. Or is he sulking. Are you?

Wow, a month. Usually the problem posted about is the tip of an iceberg. Is there any other tension this could really be about?

Did he apologise? Maybe it’s how you all reacted at the time.

I suggest that you and your husband apologies, say you got carried away and it won’t happen again

some mothers are concerned, others not, she obviously is, and whatever you may think about it it’s her child, her rules

try apologising

I can't stand these control freak mothers. It's scary to me there are so many of them out there. Some day she'll have some real problems...

I'm really sorry OP that's so awful.

I can’t imagine anything sadder than a child that’s not been kissed by her close family.

Is there more to this op? A back story?

I think if your husband forgot and gave baby a kiss without thinking, your daughter is over reacting. And could possibly have an anxiety issue?

If you're doubling down and arguing that you should be able to kiss your grandchild, that's a bit different. It might seem silly to you but parents nowadays do get guidance around rsv and not uncommon to insist people can't kiss the baby. Although it usually refers more to the newborn stage when they're so fragile, it's up to your daughter as it's her baby.

Do you know that between 25 to 30 babies die in the UK due to RSV and put 30,000 under 5 year old in hospital every year.

Please both respect her wishes, RSV and meningitis kill.

Good grief. Your daughter needs to get over herself.

She's not having a tantrum, she's enforcing boundaries that her parent have violated. The only person that gets to decide what happens to the baby is OPs daughter and they ignored her wishes.

What's with the stroppy responses talking about OPs daughter like she is a child who must obey her elders? The person who needs to obey is OP if she wants access to a lovely little girl, that isn't hers.

You're on of those entitled grannies that thinks they can do what ever they want with their their grandchild and the mother has to shut up and cow to you aren't you?

But how many more get wick because they don’t have a strong immune system because of non exposure to germs.

i had to put my child into nursery at 5 months as had to go back work plus she was crawling at 6 months and walking at 9 months. No idea how I could possibly have kept her away from all the germs going. You are implying I was therefore negligent as parent as I couldn’t keep her in a bubble.

Bit of a drip feed there which will make your poll results pointless.
If she's already ASKED you not to kiss DC, then yes of course YABU.

Some new parents seem to forget grandparents brought up them and have years of experience. That’s why society is fucked up. The old values and respecting others has been forgotten.

Can't help but agree. Parental neurosis is getting ridiculous. Our children are going to end up anxious messes.

I am way off my grandmother years, but I do know that I treat my own mother and MIL with the respect that they deserve. I certainly don't have month long strops. I grew out of that long ago (if I ever grew into it).
She'll be back. She won't be able to keep her tantrum up forever. One day she will have some REAL problems in life.

this.

I can understand it for newborns but not six months old.

What a drama queen. Leave her to it!

Don't worry, the nutcase will be back when she needs babysitting.

So she asked you not to kiss the baby, and your husband did…and you wonder why she is upset?