Mother in Law has been stalking and harassing me

[TheRealHousewifeofCheshire]

Am I being unreasonable?

For months I have had a series of missed calls from a mobile number. I usually block any spam calls or my phone blocks them automatically. I will also Google numbers and if they are obviously spam I will block them. This number was not obviously spam

For reference I work in a building with little to no signal. I have tried to dial this number back when I get out of work as it was not obviously a spam number. It has never answered! I have sent numerous texts after calls asking who it was and threatening to report them.

Today I had a medical appointment and so I was at home but in the shower. The number called and I messaged it. I told.my husband went to my appointment and thought not much further about it today (because I temporarily lost my vision due to medical appointment). Tonight, I realised my husband had messaged me asking for the number so I sent it to him.

He has replied saying it is his mother!

I know she can read texts.
I have a different mobile number saved for her.
Why would she never mention it or have given me her new mobile number?

For months I thought it may have been one of any number of people I have had to take disciplinary action with. Due to the line of work I am in that is a common occurrence.

I cannot believe the number belongs to my mother in law and has effectively made me feel stalked and harassed for an excessive number of months.

AIBU?

I am angry, hurt confused and upset. My husband has brushed it off.

You had received multiple calls from the same number over a two year period and were threatening to report the number. Yet, at no point in this period did you, in conversation with your husband, go ‘this is is the number, does it look familiar?’ until he randomly messaged you and asked for it (for no stated reason). Because you’re an independent woman.

Okay, then.

I don't think I need to justify.

You have completely misunderstood and interpreted shat i have said.

I was at home today. He was out but I mentioned it. He asked for the number and I sent it. Yoj asked why I hadnt previously given it to him. There was no reason to.

You don’t need to do anything. However, you’ve asked if you’re being unreasonable. From the information you’ve provided, yes. YABVVU.

I haven’t misunderstood anything. Nothing you’ve just stated contradicts anything in the comment to which you just responded.

I have because she has a house phone number too. I wouldn't say I routinely talk to her on the phone tbh..if she rings off the house phone I would answer just as I would if she rang from her mobile, if I knew it was her. I know she reads texts. I have seen her do it and she has mentioned texts before. As far as I know she doesn't use WhatsApp.

What are you on about. No nothing is contradictory because I am telling a straight story. You seem to have an issue because how I reacted to a situation may not have been what you would have done. I am sorry you seem triggered.

What am I on about? Are you inebriated, OP? As you’re a bit all over the place.

I’m going to bed. I wonder if this thread will still be here when I wake up.

I have never been stalked for which I am grateful.

However I do know someone that has and to put this is the same category is offensive to her. It's not even close. At no point is there any suggestion that you were at risk.

That said, what has gone on is very weird on the face of it and I am not saying it's ok.

So these aren’t daily calls? She has just tried to call you every couple of months, you weren’t able to answer and when you call back neither is she. How is this stalking or even a minor drama?

Thank you for your concern, though your tone seems more dismissive than constructive. If something I said was unclear, I'm happy to clarify. Otherwise, there's no need for the condescension. I don't drink, not that I should have to explaib this. I came here for insight, not mockery. I hope you have a good rest.

I think it's a disgrace that you've put harassing and stalking in the title! If I was feeling that, I would be blocking the number and discussing it with my husband!
Overreaction.

It’s odd, on both your sides.

What is your usual relationship like with your MiL? Would you normally chitchat on the phone or only call each other for something very specific?

If she is, as you think, behaving strangely or trying to intimidate/bother you, why would she do it?

Could your DH be lying about it been his mother?

I would ring the number you already had for her and explain you are just checking her number is correct

No idea.

I don't know who that belongs to now

No, why would he?

When was the last time you saw her? Have you never called her on her mb in the 2 year period? If so wouldnt you have known her number was no longer in service?

I am sorry you are offended. There was no reason for me to mention it.

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That isn't what I have said. It has been more than a dozen and I have messaged. Yep, the times she called from this number i couldn't answer. I didnt say I have not spoken to her other times. She has called other times from her landline on weekends and times when I have not been in work and I have answered.

I'm not sure it just seems odd that it would be your mother in law.

This sounds like the kind of behaviour of an other woman and without verifying that it actually is your mother in laws number then I would be a bit suspicious of what your been told.

I have a mobile number saved for her and no, I haven't called her on it. I haven't needed to. On the rare occasions I would need to call her I would call her on her landline. Last saw her a few weeks ago.

Maybe she is thinking that “there’s this strange number that always calls me of an evening, I don’t know who it is so I don’t answer it. The number keeps messaging me asking who I am and is making threats to report me”?