To tell my husband to stop saying this?

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my 9 year old son is a massive cat lover. He has cat slippers, tshirts, pens etc etc. I got him some cat pyjamas. These ones. https://amzn.to/45XnCwa

my husband (son’s dad) keeps telling him that he has to stop wearing them as they are girls’ pyjamas.

my son has said to him “please can you stop calling them girls’ pyjamas” and my husband says that he will be bullied if his friends see him wearing them. I have pointed out that the only one bullying him is his own father.

my husband says that telling him that they’re girls’ and not appropriate is not bullying it’s “parenting”

my husband thinks the shorts on the pyjamas are too short. Like little hot pants. Sometimes when son is lounging on the sofa they ride up and some bum cheek is visible. This angers husband and starts him off on his “girls’ pyjamas” conversation again.

son likes the pyjamas. I said I would ask on here what people thought. Please vote.

YANBU - your husband should stop calling them “girls’ pyjamas” to your son and back off

YABU - your son shouldn’t wear the pyjamas and your husband is right to protect him from future bullying if son’s friends saw the pyjamas on a sleepover.

They’re pyjamas, why does he even give a single shit 🤷‍♀️

Your DH is a douche. Sounds like if his daughter was in those PJs he’d be banging on about how they’re too boyish.

Yes he’s bullying his son.horrible man

Husband dislikes the pyjamas because the shorts are very short and to him the style should only be worn by girls. He would like a more full coverage short.

the difficulty is that it seems hard to find “boys” short sleeved summer pyjamas with a cat print. Otherwise I would have bought them in the first place. But truly I didn’t and still don’t see the problem so never occurred to me not to buy them. Son loves them.

Reinforcing stereotypes is not ok.
Good parenting would at most be suggesting he wear different pjs on sleepovers. At a stretch.

I would suggest you get a bigger size though, if the shorts aren’t adequate.

My son is also 9, and will bloody love these. Thanks, OP.

Also, your husband is a bully.

Thank you. He has size 11-12 and normally wears a size 9-10 so I already sized up. They’re not too small for him it’s just the style of them is quite a ‘short’ short

I didn't even look at the pyjamas before I voted.
Who cares if they are pink with princess cats on - your DH is being unreasonable.

This is a red flag for me. His attitude towards clothing is old fashioned and misogynistic. I would be wondering how far the misogyny goes.

If there riding up so far that his arse is hanging out it might be time to replace the pj's with a larger pair.
Gently noone wants to see their child's arse hanging out of their clothes

I’d get my husband to explain why he thinks a girl wearing tiny bum-showing shorts would be ok, if it’s not ok for his son? 😵‍💫

I have a 9yo ds who likes cats and I asked him if he wants this he’s said no that’s a girls pj’s. So your dh is right.
but only up to your ds if he cares or not.

your husband is a dick

the same seller has other cat PJs with long bottoms. Its coming into winter, perhaps buy your son another pair and he can mix and match the trousers and tops, which would also make them more suitable for a sleepover if he wants to wear them to one.

Ask your husband to introduce himself to the 21st Century and stop with his stereotyping shit.

Unless you need a penis/vagina for the thing to work they are unisex.
So they are pyjamas not girls' pyjamas

Who cares what pyjamas they are FFS!! your husband is being mean

This is a joke post right? The link you posted literally says they are girls pjs so likely designed for girls bodies.

It does sound like you need a bigger size. Before long it won't be bum cheek showing if they that small. I wonder if your husband is getting as is that they may be viewed a little immature as he gets older rather than girly? As children grow they stop playing with toddler toys and start interest in older more grown up toys and clothing is often the same taste do change In that respect yes I can see him being teased by friends for wearing stuff smaller children would usually wear? Maybe that is it not girlish but is something much smaller children usually wear?

It literally says in the link,
bout this item

• Girls Cat Blue Eyes Short Pyjamas. These come with a short sleeved top with a stunning Cat design and shorts with an all over paw print and elasitcated waistband for extra c

So on hand your DH is right, but if you DS likes them then it doesn't really matter, but your DH is wrong to be making it a big deal.

He has size 11-12 and normally wears a size 9-10 so I already sized up. They’re not too small for him it’s just the style of them is quite a ‘short’ short

You husband is reinforcing stereotypes and being misogynistic. He needs to stop.

My 9 year old DS has really long hair and loves wearing jewelry. We teach him that anyone that picks on him is just jealous and to ignore anyone if they make a comment. People can dress as they please.

He gets a few questions about the hair but mainly compliments about the necklace and the kids at school are fine.

I'd be worried that your DH is implying that its OK for girls bum cheeks to be on show!!!

It angers his father when his bum cheek is occasionally revealed and he doubles down on them being girls pyjamas…. So he’d prefer to see his daughter’s bum cheek…. 😳

You know that having one other 9 year old agree with him doesn’t make dh “right”??

They’re pyjamas and people wear all sorts of things to bed, for a 9 year old to be bullied by his dad over nightwear is awful!!

But it says on your link these are girls pyjamas?So you bought him girls ones on purpose?

Get ones that fit or tell him to sit so he doesn’t reveal himself

What’s girlie about them?