To think most people on here are slightly unhinged?

[Sadworld]

I’m genuinely curious and have changed username! I’m just shocked every time I read a thread and posts responding on AIBU. Some people are kind and thoughtful in their responses but others are quite unhinged I would say. I won’t mention any posts as I think that would mean a deletion due to a post about a post? I might be wrong tho. Just generally speaking I was reading a post from a few days ago and the OP was very clear but people responding with some crazy things calling her all sorts! I did defend her hence changing my username now as I don’t want people to find the threads I’m talking about and give more abuse to the OP’s. But seriously the latest one she was very very clear but the responses were absolutely batshit. It’s like gaslighting (is that the term I mean?). The poor OP responded kindly to the same accusations explaining but was met with more abuse!

Being a genuinely kind person I can’t believe people do this. What are the reasons? Surely the world can’t be full of shitty people like this? What’s other people’s opinions? For my sanity I will ignore the obvious goading attempts but will respond to all genuinely interested in a debate against my thoughts.

The only thing I’ve learned in life, though knowing people and working with lots of people, is that most of us are utter pricks.

The internet is an outlet for a lot of people who have to hide and behave in real life.

Being a genuinely kind person I can’t believe people do this.

this made me chuckle 😆

Not sure a “genuinely kind person” would start a thread with your thread title!

@Ilovegerardway i agree!

@Lucysstuff I’m very glad I made you chuckle x

Yes a lot of people are unhinged OP!! And there are plenty of morons out there, beware! And take care 😊

@Lucysstuff why? Why can’t I express how I’m feeling? Obviously I wouldn’t admit to using mumsnet in real life! What’s wrong with me wondering why people do this with the people who use this site?

Sometimes people may have a different opinion than you do. I don't agree with everyone, but it's rare for the majority on a full thread to be wrong. It might be that you end up missing some specifics when you read through, and the specifics change matters significantly. Particularly the case with family disputes and school gates / parties!

If I could vote I’d go with YABU, but only because you used the term “slightly unhinged”. Most posters on here are just full on whackadoodle, no slightly about it.

This is what made me want to ask this! Do you genuinely think these people are like this in real life or are nastier as behind a computer/phone screen? I don’t believe as a society people are that cruel but why on here when someone is genuinely distressed?

Aldo is it only AIBU? Or the whole site? I’ll admit I only read AIBU as they are always trending, don’t go looking for threads but just read what’s on trending

Takes one to know one, OP.

I don't know what thread you are talking about, but being kind isn't always helpful, if someone posts for advice, just saying how much you feel for them and agree with whatever they are saying is not necessarily what they need, they may be totally misunderstanding something and need a bit of a kick to see it.

It is a bit arrogant to label yourself 'genuinely kind' and other posters 'batshit', that doesn't sound very kind to me.

Everyone is different and the way different people see different situations can be surprising (even shocking) and you can disagree with them profoundly, but that doesn't invalidate their opinion. Hopefully the moderators take out the stuff that is distasteful.

Did Anyone use this site in the early days? Was it a nicer place then or has it always been like this.

Do genuinely kind people go around calling vast swathes of people “unhinged”?

do genuinely kind people even describe themselves as such I wonder?!

but you’re free to express your sadness any which way you like @Sadworld

The anonymity of the internet means people take their filters off. Some are deliberately goady because they crave a reaction - they are validated by people responding to their posts, whether positively or negatively. Some people are having a bad day and want to take their frustrations out on the first convenient target they come across. Some people have certain 'soap boxes' that set them off on a rant, even if they're perfectly normal on other topics. Some people are unwell or drunk or otherwise intoxicated. Some people mean well but their post doesn't come out as they intended it to read because its tone can be misconstrued.

I doubt there is anyone who could confidently say they have never, ever become 'unhinged' over something or other, even if only momentarily before giving their head a wobble.

😂

Often when one poster is desperately sticking up for an OP against every other poster…. There is very much another side to the story

I think it's a mix. I agree that there are some really unhinged people here but there's also a lot of people here to pick fights. The latter will say things that can sound unhinged but I don't think they believe everything they say, it's just that they'll say whatever needed to put the boot in.

It’s the way of the internet.

Dont start a thread in AIBU. The other forums are very helpful.
I am always deeply suspicious of someone who describes themselves as deeply kind. That's an adjective that can only be used by other people.

I’ve been on here since 2011 when i was pregnant with my now-teenager, and literally the first post I clicked on outside the pregnancy board was one complaining bitterly about pretty much exactly what you just have.

I think you’re being highly disingenuous, OP. The reason AIBU is always ‘trending’ is because it’s notoriously the part of the site given to aggressive posting and pile-ons. If you wanted to see ‘kindness’ in a form acceptable to you, it’s widely available on other subboards. But those are less obviously entertaining. I’d be asking myself why such a terribly kind person only frequented the most aggressive bit of the forum.

And, for what it’s worth, there’s a lot of excellent advice and brisk support on AIBU, and quite often, the best thing someone can do for a wrong-headed OP is point out that they’re creating their own mess.

Especially a deeply kind person who only posts on AIBU.

Well, yes obviously some people are unhinged. And I think people definitely say things they would never actually do/say IRL.

But then I often think that goes for some of the OPs too. My personal fav is long, elaborate excuses why they can't do something that would be the obvious solution. Generally that will also involve claiming 'anxiety' when they actually mean they don't like it/don't want to.

One thing I have realised though over the years is that often the LTB are justified. When I first joined I used to be gobsmacked at how quickly things would go from 'I've had this argument with DP, who is right?' to people saying 'your whole relationship is dogshit'. But actually, more and more I see it. There is some utter bullshit that women put up with!

The emoji of a “genuinely kind person”

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Calling swathes of people “unhinged”

YANBU.

if there are 2 areas someone is deciding to live advice is always for the crappier area.

Should I change jobs for an £100k pay rise with an hour’s commute or stay in my minimum wage job working from home it’s always unanimously stay in your current job.

These are obvious hyperbolic examples of course. I don’t know why anyone posts on AIBU for non controversial advice as the advice usual goes against the grain of normal level headed people. But hey maybe it’s me.