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To think most people on here are slightly unhinged?

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Sadworld · 27/08/2025 08:18

I’m genuinely curious and have changed username! I’m just shocked every time I read a thread and posts responding on AIBU. Some people are kind and thoughtful in their responses but others are quite unhinged I would say. I won’t mention any posts as I think that would mean a deletion due to a post about a post? I might be wrong tho. Just generally speaking I was reading a post from a few days ago and the OP was very clear but people responding with some crazy things calling her all sorts! I did defend her hence changing my username now as I don’t want people to find the threads I’m talking about and give more abuse to the OP’s. But seriously the latest one she was very very clear but the responses were absolutely batshit. It’s like gaslighting (is that the term I mean?). The poor OP responded kindly to the same accusations explaining but was met with more abuse!

Being a genuinely kind person I can’t believe people do this. What are the reasons? Surely the world can’t be full of shitty people like this? What’s other people’s opinions? For my sanity I will ignore the obvious goading attempts but will respond to all genuinely interested in a debate against my thoughts.

OP posts:
RobinEllacotStrike · 27/08/2025 15:00

We are all somebody’s “unhinged moron”

NaeRolls · 27/08/2025 15:42

Yes, everyone here seems completely mad, and it's easier for me to see it as I have the benefit of distance and objectivity - I am currently transmitting this message from my space villa on Mars.

IDreamOfElectricSheep · 27/08/2025 15:43

Neemie · 27/08/2025 12:41

There are certain triggers that set people off on here and it does make you feel sorry for the OP if they have posted without realising. There are definitely some rage baiters who know exactly what they are doing though.

There is also a level of anger if people think the poster hasn’t lived by the rules. All household chores must be split 50:50, everyone should be married regardless of circumstances because it makes financial sense but then they must LTB if household chores are not split 50:50 even if that makes no financial sense. You mustn’t earn too much, be too fat, be too thin, have too many children, drive a big car, cycle in the way of normal sized cars, home educate, privately educate or send your children anywhere other than the local school. You must swim in the middle lane, behave professionally, always do the correct thing, report any wrongs, call people out and not have more fun or a better life than other posters.

You must never enjoy anything, like the poor op who was happy she had a lovely Sunday breakfast and got piled on or be proud of your kids, unless they have had difficulties. Then you’re allowed. Otherwise you’re just smug.

CoffeeCantata · 27/08/2025 16:10

GRex · 27/08/2025 08:24

Sometimes people may have a different opinion than you do. I don't agree with everyone, but it's rare for the majority on a full thread to be wrong. It might be that you end up missing some specifics when you read through, and the specifics change matters significantly. Particularly the case with family disputes and school gates / parties!

It’s not just a different opinion, though. It’s the mean and aggressive way some people express their opinions.

I often wonder if the dare to be so rude in real life!

I go by the principle that I only write what I’d say to someone’s face.

CoffeeCantata · 27/08/2025 16:13

A particular pet-hate of mine are the short posts which go “You sound mean/snobbish/bitchy etc etc (fill in your own insult!)”.

And make no attempt to address the point OP has raised.

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