Has anyone offered to give up their seat on public transport just for being a woman?

[Spookygoose]

Was just watching this video clip of a debate about chivalry & feminism. Some guy said that he shouldn’t feel the need to give up his seat on a train for a woman, not a pregnant or elderly woman, just any woman. The other people acknowledged what he said as if this was an actual thing. Have you ever heard of this? Is it, or has it been in the last 20 years the expectation that a ‘gentleman’ should give up his seat if a woman is standing?? I have never heard of this in my life and would be seriously offended if a man ever tried to give up his seat for me just for being female!

To raise him with good manners? Just because you don't share those values doesn't mean it's wrong?

Yes. The thing is that we do want men to recognise that they are stronger than women. That's why they don't play rugby against each other, don't box against one another. It's one of the reasons for women's protected single-sex spaces. It's why we see men hitting women or teenage boys attacking girls as such a red flag.

Nobody is teaching boys that women can't stand. They are teaching them, at the appropriate age, to start to be aware of their greater strength and to channel that to show consideration. It's a good, positive lesson.

If a man offered me his seat, I would accept because it would be rude not to. It happens rarely now.

But I would feel uncomfortable that as an able bodied, non pregnant and non child holding woman, I was sitting in someone’s seat.

But when I take my elderly mum on the tube, I am very vocal in asking for a seat for her on the rare occasion someone doesn’t immediately get up.

I also ask people to get up for pregnant women.

I really like it when a man offers me a seat.

Mainly, because when a woman offers me her seat, she clearly thinks I'm pregnant. No, I'm just fat. 😭 I'd rather think a man is being polite than a woman thinks I am with child.

Hurts every time. I don't get it either. Pregnant woman have big bellies. Fat women are just fat all over. I feel like it should be more obvious than it apparently is.

No, but I’ve found men have been much more likely to ‘give way’ to me in recent months since I’ve been on chemo and look poorly. Not so much chivalry as pity but I’m milking it.