To not remind my husband it's my birthday?

[DoneWithThisShizzle]

That's it exactly. It's my birthday in approximately 24 hours and I think he has forgotten. Hasn't asked what I want or snuck anything into the house. I've answered the door to the postie for the past two weeks and taken in nothing that he hasn't opened and shown me.

So as not to dripfeed, it's his mum's birthday the day after, it's a big one, so he's been organising a party for that (not that I think it's a good excuse to forget mine).

Do I remind him? Or not?

Dh doesn't forget, he's very good at dates. Me not so much although I've never forgotten a birthday.
A couple of years ago we were out for a walk and met a couple I knew from the shop I worked at. I said to dh "they've been married 60 years" he said "we've been married 40 years today" oh shit. To be fair we'd never bothered with cards or gifts but did always acknowledge it.
Happy Birthday for tomorrow op.

God what a pathetic post. Dont you have better things to obsess over?

From a few of your posts upthread I’ve have bet the farm you were actually a man !!

☺️ hugs for the sting. It's not the end of the world, is it.

He also once fell out with me because he had to pay next day delivery for my Christmas present and did I realise how much that cost him? I did say couldn’t you have ordered it sooner so it didn’t need to be next day, or get it at the shops when he went for his family’s presents. The response was “you always have a fucking ridiculous comment to make”. I look back now and laugh but what an absolute cock!

I start reminding my husband at least a month before by giving him gift ideas. No way he’s forgetting and I’m always spoilt and happy.

Well, I've got a plan for either eventuality. Only difference is one requires a book for company 📖☺️

It's tomorrow!

Wow! Glad he's an ex, and good on you raising your son to be better. But now you've got me thinking 🤔 hmmm, a tattoo!

Because it’s mean, vindictive and very childish. OP says he’s a good husband and while having to remind him takes the shine off things, it’s not marriage ending. I’m all for men remembering their spouses birthdays unprompted - having a penis shouldn’t make your memory any less reliable than a womans’ but lets get some perspective here.

I didn't realise it would be quite an emotive topic!

Wow! Just wow!

You sound chilled and prepared for any eventuality OP. It does take the shine off things if you have to remind, so I’m in the keeping quiet camp, but I’m quietly rooting for him remembering and having a surprise planned for you. Hope so - happy birthday whatever happens. And don’t forget to come back and update us !!

If this is the worst thing he’s done you can relax for sure.

I think you and a few other posters need to lighten up. I think OP meant this as a lighthearted thread, and it’s turned out to be quite entertaining in one way and other don’t you think ?

It's my birthday tomorrow too, can we be birthday triplets?!

I think it's because for many people it's part of a pattern of thoughtless and uncaring behaviour. That's not your situation though so I'd just remind him. You've hit gold dust with a supportive and loving husband.

@DoneWithThisShizzle
Have a great day tomorrow Birthday Twin!! 🎉
My DH remembered yesterday!! I got a call whilst he was out asking what he was doing for my birthday as I haven’t asked for anything!!
I spotted the receipt from Tesco with 2 cards and a bottle of champagne (which will be from the DSC) in the bottom of a carrier bag 😂
However for me it really doesn’t matter, I don’t really celebrate it anyway, and he treats me for no reason all the way through the year.

I’ll keep my fingers crossed for you he remembers 💐

This has been the most entertaining thread. There have been some very interesting posts (and poster, hope they are ok)

@Daisyvodka wins the thread for the best post, totally hit the nail on the head.

@DoneWithThisShizzle hope you have the best day tomorrow and that he has remembered and done lots of snucking in of stuff (that word is what I'm taking with me fro this thread).

I also don't get why people don't use reminders if it's something they want to remember. I still get emails from moonpig telling me to remember it's Jeans birthday on the 11th June. I haven't worked or spoken to her in 10 years but I know it's her birthday still.

Thank you. I'll definitely update. I wouldn't want to disappoint 😉

Pull what shit ? OP has said she’s not going to make a big deal of it - she just thinks it takes something away from the occasion if she has to remind him. And if anyone on this thread says that they wouldn’t be the slightest bit irked that their husband forgot their birthday while remembering his mothers’ the next day, they’re telling porkies.

OP aren’t you glad you posted ? So many posters giving you sound marriage advice that you didn’t ask for ? Hope you’re taking notes !!

Hello trip! Happy Birthday 🎈 🎂

Thank you and Happy Birthday! 🎈 🥳

My birthday is usually around a major bank holiday so easily remembered. My husband’s is just over 2 weeks later so easily remembered. I’m good at remembering dates though. This year I wished him Happy Birthday as we were rushing about getting ready to go the the airport lol.

If you don’t at least mention it in passing today then I hope he does forget OP and maybe that will be a lesson for you - play silly games, win silly prizes.
You say he’s a good husband and a sweetheart and you love him which is how I feel about my husband and I know that if he was so stressed and distracted one year that he actually managed to forget my birthday he would be beyond devastated and, because I love him very much, I wouldn’t want that for him (and also wouldn’t want to spend my own birthday feeling sad and disappointed). It’s such a weird trap to set for someone you actually like. I would say something like ‘God I can’t believe it’s my birthday tomorrow, how has it come round that fast! You all sorted for your mum’s?’ and then everyone can just be happy instead of whatever weird shit you’re going to have tomorrow. Really don’t get it.