To be fuming over her cancelling hobby

[thatsalad]

There is a hobby I do that's hosted by someone who is away for the whole summer, so she put another regular in charge of hosting. We always get less people coming in the summer due to holidays, but we still crack on.

This person who is now in charge pushed for it to be paused in the summer due to low numbers, so she posted a poll in the group chat and literally every single person voted they don't want it to be paused, cue few weeks later and she informed us it's being paused until september.

Aibu to be fuming over her ignoring everyone's votes in the poll and making a unilateral decision? Aibu to ask her why she has done that or even messaging the actual host to complain about her behavior?

She obviously can't host it now.
Things happen.
Could you host it?

Ut sounds like she doesn't want the responsibility of hosting. Would have been better for leader to appoint someone else.

Would you be willing to volunteer? Of so you could go back and express disappointment and ask if she would be willing to do a handover.

Can you do it?

As you're so keen for it to go ahead can you run it?

Either someone else volunteers to host or you wait until the normal leader is back. It’s pretty normal for classes to take a break over summer

I can’t work out why you’d be fuming about this, surely you are just a bit disappointed to have a month away? Why does it matter?

either offer to run it or find another way to stay busy for a month 🤷🏻‍♀️

The reason why I am fuming is because she asked the rest of the group and everyone agreed they don't want to pause it, and then she ignored that and paused it anyway

Is there a reason you can't do it as a group without that person?

Unless you're in a position to run it then you can't be fuming at anyone else. Perhaps it was a bigger task than they thought it would be.

It makes no difference what ‘everyone’ wanted. If she didn’t want to host it, she shouldn’t be forced to! Did anyone else offer to take the reins?

Rather than fuming, do it yourself

Why can someone else not take over?

She was hoping the majority would have agreed to pause , the fact that they didn’t still doesn’t mean she was duty bound to continue .

What was the point in a poll?
As others have said, can't someone else do it?

I think the annoyed people need to work out the hosting between themselves.

Circumstances may have changed since she ran the poll and the outcome of it is irrelevant. The two may not be linked.

You haven’t answered all the posters asking why you don’t run it?

I have no idea what this hobby involves,or if there's a lot of setting up/clearing away to do,but couldn't the members who want to push on just take turns to lead over August?That might be the way forward next year.

She doesn't want to run the group.
She was hoping that people would say they were away/not bothered so she wouldn't look like the "bad guy" by cancelling. Unfortunately for her, that's not happened.

Yes, it would have been better up front if she'd just said that.

Or she has realised her besties aren't coming and she doesn't want to host.

Surely if it's a smaller group someone else can host?

So can someone else host? Clearly with the regular host being away this is her way of saying I can’t host it but if enough of you want to go ahead someone else step in

so step in

Maybe she didn't want the responsibility. If you and others are that keen, you host. It's easy to say yes to not pausing when the responsibility is on someone else to run the activity. Organisers get taken for granted all the time.

YABU.

Is this a paid for thing or is someone volunteering to host/run it? If the latter then I don’t think you can be too annoyed really. Presumably if everyone else is so keen someone else can step up?

Obviously if it’s a paid thing then that’s different.

Aibu to ask her why she has done that or even messaging the actual host to complain about her behavior?

Please don't do this. You will look unhinged.
YANBU to be disappointed but it's a hobby, presumably not life or death.

It would be really shitty to message the usual host, interrupting her holiday, to complain about something that isn't her fault and that she can't do anything about. Why make it her problem?

As for messaging the person who initially agreed to host over the summer demanding an explaination, what would be the point? You're not going to get the outcome you want. She has clearly changed her mind about hosting and you can't force her to do it.

You have two choices, either offer to take over yourself or accept that you'll be having a break from your hobby for a few weeks.

She obviously hoped that most people would agree with her then she wouldn't have to be the bad guy who said she wasn't doing it. But it backfired and now she's got to be upfront about the fact she doesn't want to do it. I think she was a bit daft really. Would have been better to say "Sorry everyone, this isn't really working out for me and I can't host the group in August. Does one of you want to host as we'll have to take a break otherwise." But maybe she finds those kind of conversations difficult and hoped she could avoid any confrontation with the poll. It was an error of judgement but hardly crime of the century. Can't you go ahead without her?