DH expects me to seduce him

[Hereagain334]

DH and I are trying for a baby (40's so will be almost impossible). I have blood tests, scans, fertility appointments etc...he doesn't even have to wank into a pot. I have PCOS so realise I'm up against it and won't likely succeed. He knows all this. My AIBU is that he doesn't want ANY pressure about having sex with me during my most fertile days. I've gently tried to explain some days are better than others for getting pregnant but he responded by accusing me of putting pressure on him. When asked how I should go about it he said I should 'come and seduce him' when I'm at my most fertile and that he didn't want to know when that was!!
I'm so shocked I can't even articulate a response so am worried I'm being hysterical. But I'm so fucking angry I doubt I'll sleep with the twat again.

Can't expect sex on demand. It just don't work like that. 😄 show him what you're made of girl. Get you're stockings and suspenders out. Make him reel! Or whatever it is that makes him rerl. Only you know x

What's wrong with that? TTC can really take the romance out of it and, it if he's feeling pressured, then this seems like a decent solution.

Like most men, I can't imagine he would be difficult to "seduce".

Does he want to have a baby?

Can't expect sex on demand. It just don't work like that. 😄 show him what you're made of girl. Get you're stockings and suspenders out. Make him reel! Or whatever it is that makes him reel and when he's least expecting it. 😂

Exactly 💯 🤣

My ex said to me once....many years ago. I never initiate. I took on board what he said. The next night he said to me why didn't you try. I said...give us a chance! 🤣🤣🤣

This is only the start of the inequalities of parenthood.

I love this post! 😀

Why the fuck should I have to seduce him??? He's taking on zero mental load/responsibility! But whinges about pressure. And loves to boast how he'll 'knock me up'... yet is pretty much incapable.

Because you want to have sex. That's generally how it works in my experience.

Does he really want a baby?

How long have you been with him? Would this be your first child with him? He seems incredibly immature and selfish. If you both want a baby, you both should be putting the effort in. Do you really want to be raising a baby with someone like him?

Is he hard to seduce? Are we talking full on lingerie, candle light, soft music and a carefully choreographed strip tease? Or like with my DH a quick nipple flash and he's good to go?
Good luck OP I hope things work out x

🤣🤣🤣

As someone who has been TTC for years, sex to get pregnant is literally a grind and you can’t turn it on because it makes medical sense. I completely understand your frustration and as women we carry a huge amount of the burden but I don’t see what is wrong with seducing him every now and again. I have had many times of just grinning and bearing it and just ‘getting it done’ because I’m ovulating and I’ve had sex many times because we were both feeling frisky. I know which one I prefer.

Give and take? 😂😂😂

Immature and selfish for not always being up for sex straight away? You need to be in the mood to have sex, not just for OP to say “I’m ovulating today we need to do it now”

good lord imagine if the sexes were reversed and he wanted to and she felt used

TTC is hard on the guy too and everyone forgets that

Immature and selfish for not always being up for sex straight away? You need to be in the mood to have sex, not just for OP to say “I’m ovulating today we need to do it now”

good lord imagine if the sexes were reversed and he wanted to and she felt used

TTC is hard on the guy too and everyone forgets that

Not everyone. I'm of the same thinking as you. Men are people too! 🤣

He hasn’t said can we make sure it doesn’t become perfunctory, what he’s said is I don’t want to know anything at all about trying to conceive - he won’t get tested, he doesn’t want to know. He then says she has to seduce him not that they’ll both step up to try to ensure it’s romantic. He has completely absolved himself of responsibility and has taken no interest in how she finds it. Read her post properly.

He hasn't asked for much considering what he'll get at the end of it. If it goes to plan...😂😂😂

Give men a break ffs! They're not robots!

He’s right to be fair. He knows his own body and if he’s telling you too much pressure will put him off, well that’s not going to make a baby is it. I made this mistake for TTC with my first and DH who has never had any trouble in that department before just couldn’t “preform” just too much pressure and the worry of “letting me down”. I still tracked ovulation and done all the stuff at my end but told him nothing about it and just had regular sex, took all pressure off his end and lo and behold I was pregnant within a few months.