Boyfriend sharing hotel room for two nights with female "friend"

[Challenger2A7]

I'm 23, and my boyfriend of 3 years has just spent two nights in a London hotel with a woman he says is just a friend. They were going to a big concert together, and she's 44. I don't like this, and I didn't know about it until now. He says it was just to save money. The woman has been married for 20 years, but I don't know what her husband thinks, or if he even knows or cares, but AIBU to wonder if my boyfriend really thinks anything of me? I should add that they shared a twin-bedded room.

Weird. I’m not saying they automatically had sex, but I think sharing a hotel room is just inherently intimate. at the very least, they were getting dressed and showering etc in close proximity. You only do that with someone you’re extremely comfortable with.

The weird thing is that he hasn't told you until now.

Totally unacceptable

If it was that innocent he would have told you what the hotel arrangements were before he went to this concert.
I wouldn't be happy about this at all.

Please girl don’t be so naive. A boy doesn’t just book a hotel room for two nights to bake cupcakes and read Shakespeare poems together.

He has quite outrightly betrayed you and your trust. If I were you I’d wash my hands off of him now, and please laugh at him for being in his twenties and chasing a nearing half a decade old married woman. Like how embarrassing for him, you can do so much better trust me!

He's living in hope and looks like it's going to come true.

If your living together I’d move out while he’s gone and block forever.

I have shared twin rooms with male friends, and honestly not thought much about it. Other female/male friends do the same in my friend group. I don't think it's an automatic red flag. I'd be more concerned that he didn't tell me about it.

Nearing half a century*

I've shared rooms with male friends, too. I'd have been pissed off if I'd found they hadn't told their girlfriends.

It won't be a red flag for me. Totally unacceptable. I'd reconsider the relationship because neither of them can be trusted.

That's some high quality trolling right there!

You are 23. So young. you can do way way better than this red flag guy.

My dds are your age. I'd tell them to run fast.

Is your boyfriend the same age as you or the same age as her? How do they know each other and why are they concert buddies? I’m a similar age to her and can’t really imagine a scenario where I became such good friends with a man in his 20s that I would share a hotel room with him. How did they get that close?

How old is your boyfriend? Your age? Her age?

Oh come on!

Thanks....but I was being totally sincere. No trolls here. Sorry to disappoint you 😂😂😂

Yeah...ffs!

I think this can be fine and totally innocent. There's no reason to suspect either of them of cheating. Having said that, I would absolutely hate it if my partner did this and I wouldn't be able to accept it.

Misogynistic clap trap…. the 1950’s are calling @HarkerandBarker they want you back.

How old is your boyfriend

no I won’t accept that behaviour from a boyfriend or husband or partner. Men are inherently sexual creatures… it’s not appropriate

This.

Also as a 40 yr old married woman i have zero in common with virtually all 20 something men and close to zero desire to socialise with them.
I'd say they feel similarly about me 😅

Clearly there are needs being met by this friendship... what exactly? I'm not sure....

But I wouldn't like it and the fact you found out post fast means it was hidden so he knows it a bit off too!

Yeah, poor, innocent, naive man! No blame lies with the poor fella, only the evil woman 😂
What planet are you on @HarkerandBarker?