Grossed out by new partner walking in when I was showering

[HelenaJl]

I have a fairly new partner, my first after my 10 year marriage ended. I stayed at his for the first time last night and went to have a shower this morning (no lock on the door). A few minutes in my partner walked in and used the loo!! He was sat there trying to talk to me and I didn’t know where to look. When I said afterwards I didn’t expect that he said it shows how comfortable he is around me and that his past relationships have always been like that so it’s just normal these days.

I can tell you in my entire marriage my ex never walked in on me to use the loo and vice versa! I found him sitting there and ‘dropping off’ a right turn off to be honest!

Do you mean he did a poo??????

that is gross!

Eugh, that’s disgusting

Crikey, its just a bodily function. If you have sex then seeing him on the loo isn’t weird.

Yeah! I messaged on my friends whatsapp group and a couple of them said their husbands do it too and they don’t mind! I feel like the dating game has changed quite a bit 😂

Yuck. I've been married about 400 years and never once has my husband come in to have a shit while I was showering. I could just about tolerate peeing if he was desperate, but not as a regular thing.

YANBU - an emergency pee is one thing but sitting down on a poo … would make me need another shower

Ugh I would have jumped out of that shower so fast. I was absolutely hate being in the same room as someone who was going to the toilet unless it was my own child.

That's 😝

Just because you have sex with someone it doesn't mean you want to see or hear them have a shit. YANBU OP.

I have never seen a partner go for a poo and I never want to. He's disgusting. I wouldn't be able to see him again.

Ergh.... A poo?
I don't even like seeing my husband do a wee! We've been married 19years.

It's definitely not the same.

Oh my God.

That's disgusting. A wee is one thing but 💩!!!!

Oh yak. Forty years or marriage or being in relationships and no one has ever done that. Gross.

I wouldn't ever expect someone to do a poo while I'm in the shower or vice versa but I'd have no issue with a wee. I think the fact it smells is really inconsiderate. Unless they are absolutely desperate it's a no for me.

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No no no! I’d never feel that comfortable around someone (or want someone to be that comfortable with me) 🤣

That’s gross.

he said it shows how comfortable he is around me and that his past relationships have always been like that so it’s just normal these days.

Massive red flag. He's testing your boundaries.

Pooing in front of you the first time you stayed over is insane. I wouldn’t want to see him again.

I wouldn't like that OP and he should have checked with you whether you'd mind rather than just going for it!

Is he embarrassed now you've made clear you don't like that.

That's not normal. I don't mind DH coming in for a chat but that is it.

What rock did this creature crawl out from? Send him back there OP.

Some people just don’t care- ‘we all do it’ mentality. . But YANBU 🙈

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Oh hell no. Not a shit.

My DH and I will go into the bathroom if the other is in the shower and have a widdle but neither of us has ever sat and taken a dump. Its pretty shit (pardon the pun) to have to hear and smell that when you are trying to have a nice shower. Gross!!!!! 😳