Grossed out by new partner walking in when I was showering

[HelenaJl]

I have a fairly new partner, my first after my 10 year marriage ended. I stayed at his for the first time last night and went to have a shower this morning (no lock on the door). A few minutes in my partner walked in and used the loo!! He was sat there trying to talk to me and I didn’t know where to look. When I said afterwards I didn’t expect that he said it shows how comfortable he is around me and that his past relationships have always been like that so it’s just normal these days.

I can tell you in my entire marriage my ex never walked in on me to use the loo and vice versa! I found him sitting there and ‘dropping off’ a right turn off to be honest!

No shit sherlock, but not in front of other people 😂 it’s vile behaviour.

What on Earth is so important that he needs it NOW from the bathroom cupboard and can’t wait a few mins ?

After years of being together may be. But fairly new partner and first time stay over- hard no.

I don’t get these comments- at what point in a long relationship do you say “ok time to start shutting in front of each other now”?! If you managed for the years before not doing it, absolutely no need to start.

Exactly. Honestly who are the troglodytes 🤣

God no, no, no… that’s just gross

Wee? No probs with that in our house but a shit?!!! No way!

Maybe that's why most divorces are instigated by women, citing shitty behaviour....

You’re sexing wrong

I met my now exh 26 years ago and we used to be fine with one of us being in the bath or shower and the other coming in or having the door open so not a new thing. I would push it closed for a number 2 but he might not bother (I only found this a turn off as our relationship soured). Neither of us ever had a poo with the other in the room though, that would be weird and I wouldn't have liked it. Seems a bit of a cheek if nothing else to spoil someone's shower time by making a stink! He would sometimes come in when I was in the bath and maybe have a sitting down wee or come and get something out of the cupboard or a chat. It mostly stopped when we had more toilets and a DS to keep an eye on!

If you don't like it tell him not to do it. Start now or it will only get harder the longer you are together.

He’s definitely boundary pushing. I could not be in a relationship with someone who wiped their arse in front of me. The lack of respect is staggering.

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 Brilliant

I have never heard that word before! But I’m going to use it all the time 😝😝😝😝
Thank you

No worries, I use it quite a lot for anyone a bit grim or backwards 😆

When I was 23 I dated this 30 year old man who found it hilarious to stick out his bum in my direction and fart. It wasn’t just like a natural fart that happened, it was the whole performance side of it which was disrespectful.

thankfully I never slept with him and I ditched him quickly.

In situations like that I always used to think how would this man behave in front of his dream woman? Megan fox or Halle berry or whatever. Or even a non-celeb that they found extremely gorgeous.

Would they be farting like that or doing a dump in their presence - highly doubt it!

So it tells me that I am far from their dream girl when they disrespect me like that. Men know exactly how to behave well - at least at the beginning of a relationship - when they are with someone they value.

JC!! Couldn’t he have sucked it up for a minute 🤣

I’m a bloke and I wouldn’t do this in front of my wife, let alone someone I’d not been dating that long, unless it was the only loo and it was pretty much that or soil myself. Even then, I’d probably ask her to get out of the shower whilst I had to go.

Boom boom!

Spot on!

My ex-wife used to do that on occasion, and I found it gross. One of the aspects of the relationship I was more than happy to leave behind (pardon the pun) 🙂

There are bodily functions and then there are bodily functions.

People don’t usually shit during sex (unless they have a vile kink)

Goodness, Nooooooooo
Only if so ill you needed help.
I have been married 30 years.

Absolutely not normal.
I can’t believe he thought it was appropriate! Especially as he has another toilet he could use.

Agreed,it's called having respect for your partner.
Nobody else needs to hear the noises and smell the stink in close proximity 🤮

luckily we have a separate loo but the way my husband leaves it stinking I would be up and out that bath.