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AIBU?

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Original poster

AIBU- pulling someone up on snarky comments.

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Guttyyyyyyyyy · 02/06/2025 07:57

So I work and DH is retired. We have a dog. I work 4 days a week . On the days I work DH walks the dog in the morning and I walk it in the evening. My days off we swap it around.
There is a group of dog walkers that meet in the morning. One man thinks its hilarious to ask if Ive enjoyed my sleep in/ lazy day/ sending DH out while I relax ect.
every single time I see him. 2 years of me just ignoring him / saying I work ect.
I work in a unit that deals with palliative care. Yesterday was a bloody hard day.
So this morning he said it must be nice to laze about on a Sunday and send DH out so I let him have it with both barrels - told him ( in rough terms) what my day consisted of. That I was up and out by 6am. Long drive. The realities of my job.
He was silent. Got home and his wife has watsapped to say Ive upset him !@@.
AIBU to think he deserves it.

OP posts:
Agix · 02/06/2025 07:59

He deserved it.

EnterFunnyNameHere · 02/06/2025 08:00

He deserved it. Feel free to message back the wife and say he's been upsetting you for the last 2 years going on and on about it even when you've been politely trying to shut him down each time!

K0OLA1D · 02/06/2025 08:01

He deserved it and I'd tell his wife the same

Guavafish1 · 02/06/2025 08:03

I think you over reacted

BluebellCrocus · 02/06/2025 08:03

He deserved it

babystarsandmoon · 02/06/2025 08:03

He 100% deserved it and I would be telling them that in my reply. Tell her you’ve had to listen to his shit for god knows how long and he needs to keep his weedy little sexist mouth shut.

Original poster
Guttyyyyyyyyy · 02/06/2025 08:03

Thank you. I was slightly worried that my menopausal rage had taken over. DH agrees with you all . She has just put a message on the watsapp group #Be Kind.
Oh the irony 🙄

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DontTouchRoach · 02/06/2025 08:04

Oh, he absolutely deserved it and his wife can fuck off.

TheSlantedOwl · 02/06/2025 08:05

He deserved it.

Say he’s been upsetting you for two years.

babystarsandmoon · 02/06/2025 08:05

Guttyyyyyyyyy · 02/06/2025 08:03

Thank you. I was slightly worried that my menopausal rage had taken over. DH agrees with you all . She has just put a message on the watsapp group #Be Kind.
Oh the irony 🙄

In that case I’d shame them back in the group.

Barrenfieldoffucks · 02/06/2025 08:05

I would just answer "I agree, thank you ❤️"

Original poster
Guttyyyyyyyyy · 02/06/2025 08:05

Guavafish1 · 02/06/2025 08:03

I think you over reacted

Why do you think that? Genuine question, not being argumentative.

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Anyotherdude · 02/06/2025 08:06

Guttyyyyyyyyy · 02/06/2025 08:03

Thank you. I was slightly worried that my menopausal rage had taken over. DH agrees with you all . She has just put a message on the watsapp group #Be Kind.
Oh the irony 🙄

“People who live in glass houses…”

toomuchfaff · 02/06/2025 08:07

Guttyyyyyyyyy · 02/06/2025 08:03

Thank you. I was slightly worried that my menopausal rage had taken over. DH agrees with you all . She has just put a message on the watsapp group #Be Kind.
Oh the irony 🙄

Maybe put a reply on that mentioning her husband and his 2yr bullying campaign of a palliative care worker... so good to see she is pushing this bekind mantra now because he's pushed you over the edge! 😋

GrannyAchingsShepherdsHut · 02/06/2025 08:07

Fucking hell. I don't think I'd be able to restrain myself. Yes, he should #befuckingkind and stop continually upsetting people until they snap. What an absolute twat.

DontTouchRoach · 02/06/2025 08:08

Guavafish1 · 02/06/2025 08:03

I think you over reacted

She’s been listening to the same joke every single week for two years about her being ‘lazy’ because her retired husband walks their dog on the days when she is caring for the dying on a palliative ward.

If anything, I think she underreacted.

EweCee · 02/06/2025 08:10

I would definitely respond to her private chat saying that her husband had not been kind - for two years! - when he continually made sexist comments despite being politely told the truth and that he therefore deserved a reality check.

Whether I then said something on the group chat would depend on my mood....

delilabell · 02/06/2025 08:11

He definitely deserved it. It's passive aggressive nastiness.
Do you need to be in the group? If not I'd retort to the # then mute the group.
Not only is he nasty hutbhe hides behind his wife. What a twat.

Original poster
Guttyyyyyyyyy · 02/06/2025 08:17

A friend has just replied to her on the chat - basically saying her DH only says shit like this to women, never to him or his husband who also alternate on the dog walks. 🐕.

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WtafIsThat · 02/06/2025 08:18

I’d see what Chat GPT says and respond with that. 😂 It will be blunt but amazing.

Depte · 02/06/2025 08:18

I reckon it’s your DH whinging to him

ButteredRadishes · 02/06/2025 08:19

I'd just ignore it all tbh. The guy won't speak to you again now and won't make his "funny jokes" any more. You've won.

ButteredRadishes · 02/06/2025 08:19

Guttyyyyyyyyy · 02/06/2025 08:17

A friend has just replied to her on the chat - basically saying her DH only says shit like this to women, never to him or his husband who also alternate on the dog walks. 🐕.

🤣

Ellie1015 · 02/06/2025 08:20

Absolutely his problem not yours. Ridiculous his wife getting involved. Good someone else noticed and commented.

Depte · 02/06/2025 08:22

Guttyyyyyyyyy · 02/06/2025 08:17

A friend has just replied to her on the chat - basically saying her DH only says shit like this to women, never to him or his husband who also alternate on the dog walks. 🐕.

Sorry? I don’t understand

one of your friends has said her DH does the same?

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