AIBU- pulling someone up on snarky comments.

[Guttyyyyyyyyy]

So I work and DH is retired. We have a dog. I work 4 days a week . On the days I work DH walks the dog in the morning and I walk it in the evening. My days off we swap it around.
There is a group of dog walkers that meet in the morning. One man thinks its hilarious to ask if Ive enjoyed my sleep in/ lazy day/ sending DH out while I relax ect.
every single time I see him. 2 years of me just ignoring him / saying I work ect.
I work in a unit that deals with palliative care. Yesterday was a bloody hard day.
So this morning he said it must be nice to laze about on a Sunday and send DH out so I let him have it with both barrels - told him ( in rough terms) what my day consisted of. That I was up and out by 6am. Long drive. The realities of my job.
He was silent. Got home and his wife has watsapped to say Ive upset him !@@.
AIBU to think he deserves it.

ODFOD as well

He is a boring idiot there are plenty of them around.I have met many of them I am old.Just be thankful you don’t live with him.!! He thinks he is funny be interesting if you see him again my guess is he will ignore you.Job done.Enjoy your dog walk.

I would like to know just what his problem is? Thank you for all you do to make patients lives more bearable. My lovely dad had palliative care. I don't know how we would have managed without the wonderful health care workers we worked with. xxx

He deserved it and his wife can fuck right off with that tired old be kind bullshit.

He wasn't Being Kind for the last 2 years of digs at you was he?

Ofgs. OP never said she laughed it off. Go re read her OP - she actually states right there that she either ignores him or tells him she works. Absolutely no mention of her laughing about it.

you may be ND but that doesn’t excuse you for lack of reading comprehension and from blaming OP for something she didn’t do!!

So you think apologising for the well deserved reaction to his misogynistic, passive aggressive bullshit is the way to educate him ?

So you post

"Absolutely be kind.....and that extends any individual who thinks its appropriate to make demeaning and sexist comments over a 2 year period"

Unfortunately, with people like this man who underthink, overreacting is the only way to go. Well done OP, you definitely did the right thing.

Well done @Guttyyyyyyyyy 👏🏻 I’m pretty sure everyone in that walking group already knows what a sexist arsehole he is and hopefully he might give you all a break from his presence.

People like you are the reason men get away with this shit. Yes, you’re projecting - why else would you think a husband who is aware that his wife is up and out of the house at 6am, doing a demanding, stressful and I’m sure often distressing job, would engage in banter about her sending him out to walk the dog while she lazes in bed ?

Why are you being so obtuse?
What gives you the impression that this is a joke between the CF dog walker and Ops DH?
I’m really interested to know

So it's the OPs fault ?

Good!

It's one thing tolerating your annoying DH, but defending his offensiveness towards other women is pathetic IMO.

She should have quietly said to him, on the side, reign it in. You're going to get a reputation for being an arse.

Good on you op..and tuff titty for him

@SerendipityJane the OP has literally said she's never gone along with it, and that every time he's done it, she's disagreed with him and contradicted his lazy comment with the info that no, she was actually working.

The fact you only just snapped makes you sound like you have the patience of a saint, especially with the job you have. He probably trots out a selection of these 'jokes' every day and thought he was viewed as the beloved neighbourhood comedian. Suddenly, he's learned he's not.

On the plus side, he probably won't bother you again now you've (justifiably) shown your teeth!

I was being slightly tongue in cheek (is one way of putting it). At the PPs suggestion that the OP bought this on themselves by not speaking up previously.

Because it's always the responsibility of women to handle mens bad behaviour.

Nowhere did OP say she laughed it off. She ignored him or explained that she worked. Why should women have to go into minute details about their lives to avoid this kind of bullshit. Seems to me that whatever she had said and however politely wouldn’t have stopped the comments. Some people need it spelled out to them and OP has hopefully shut it down for good.

I think you did the right thing.
Sometimes these sort of Men need to realise that they can’t get away with these sort of comments towards women. They are cowards as they would never do the same to Men.
Can believe he’s gone running to his wife about it and she’s backing him.
Glad others have backed you up.

If he 'wants to be pleasant', he got that very, very wrong.

Easier for whom? Wasn't easier for the OP who was already feeling the pressures of her job, was it?

Exactly. A whining little man. How pathetic. I wonder if he's sobbing and shaking 😂

So nice when they get their comeuppance. Well done OP 👏🏻

I’d hazard a guess that this poster is regularly subjected to the kind of behaviour they describe, from those in their own life. And have become so used to the disrespectful bullshit that they think it’s the norm - hence the projection. It’s quite sad.

Good on you for standing up for yourself and good on your friend for highlighting the rank misogyny.

This 100% warranted a poll. He deserved it.

This, in bucket loads!!