AIBU- pulling someone up on snarky comments.

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So I work and DH is retired. We have a dog. I work 4 days a week . On the days I work DH walks the dog in the morning and I walk it in the evening. My days off we swap it around.
There is a group of dog walkers that meet in the morning. One man thinks its hilarious to ask if Ive enjoyed my sleep in/ lazy day/ sending DH out while I relax ect.
every single time I see him. 2 years of me just ignoring him / saying I work ect.
I work in a unit that deals with palliative care. Yesterday was a bloody hard day.
So this morning he said it must be nice to laze about on a Sunday and send DH out so I let him have it with both barrels - told him ( in rough terms) what my day consisted of. That I was up and out by 6am. Long drive. The realities of my job.
He was silent. Got home and his wife has watsapped to say Ive upset him !@@.
AIBU to think he deserves it.

Ugh some men. My friend’s husband, who WFH and who’s wife waits on him hand and foot, always comes in if I am over for lunch (or whatever) and says ‘hard day, dear?’ with a smirk. Yes it probably has been you dork. She’s up early to walk the dog, cook you breakfast, probably put a load of laundry on before you even got out of bed. Once you are in your ‘office’, there’s a regular expectation of coffee and a cooked lunch while she also does the housework, does the shopping, checks in with a couple elderly neighbours, does more laundry (he and his son sail it seems never ending). Usual stuff it takes to run a house. Never any ‘thank you’. Just a few remarks about how easy and relaxed her day is. I don’t think he’s ever made a bed or picked up his socks in his life (they married at 21). What’s worse is he’s saying it because I’m there to hear it.

I have never laughed or gone along with it. I ignored or stated that I was at work.

absolutely deserved it. Tell his wife he upset you ...

I work with a woman who is waited on hand & foot by her husband but doesn't appreciate it. Ugh some people.

he’s a twat and she’s an idiot for drawing even more attention to it

yes you could have been calmer but wouldn’t worry about it now

i was about to say does he make the same ‘joke’ to your DH. No of course he doesn’t. He’s a sexist pig. And when he gets a taste of his own medicine he has to get his wife to stick up for him.
They can both get to fuck. I’d ignore her message to you.

Good for you.

Can't believe his wife felt the need to message he was upset. It makes him sound like a cry baby who needs to defended by his wife.

People like him need to be told that this type of 'banter' is boring and out of order.

I bet he does not make the same type of comments to men.

Totally get what's happened. I think that basically this guy has no imagination and little conversation. He doesn't know what to say so just regurgitates the same, to his ears, funny remark. Hopefully you won't be engaging for a while at least.

Dickhead gets told he's a dickhead and starts crying. And then his wife has to stand up for him. 🙄

However next time this sort of thing happens, I would just nip it in the bud from the off.

Good for you sticking up for yourself comments like that get tiresome.

I had a friend who used to always comment on my long lies and lazy days when I was a SAHM. She's no longer a friend.

Excellent reply. Bet he won't be making any more comments to you in future! Hopefully it will make him think twice about doing it to other women as well.

Oh so he went home and cried to his wife like a baby, and then she became his mummy and messaged you? Don’t worry about it, you got upset all those previous times too.

Ahh boo fucking hoo, he's upset and ran home to tell his mummy! 😂 hopefully he's learned the lesson to keep his big gob shut! Well done OP!

Are you the joking man she has finally pulled up for unfunny/repetitive/boring/unfounded digs that have gone on for 2 years?

So what should she have done instead? Keep tolerating it?

Are you saying it's OK to be jeered at and told you are lazy despite being someone who gives people palliative care, which I imagine is one of the toughest jobs you could do?

I don't blame her for raging.

triggered much

Is that you male passive aggressive dog walker who got put in your place and went crying to your wife to tell them off

I think that you have been extremely patient with this idiot, and I don’t think you have any need to apologise for finally snapping at his tedious and repetitive comments. If fact he should be apologising to you, but he’s probably used to getting away with saying what he likes to people hence being upset at being challenged on this occasion.

How pathetic of his wife to text you
what is he 5 ?!

He deserved it

Seems excessive, but I wasn’t in the situation. I feel for some men because I genuinely think some of them have no idea how to speak to women, but that all are tarnished because of those that are total asshats.

If I was in the situation myself, I would probably apologise to him next time I saw him, but explain why you reacted the way you did. If he apologises sincerely then all is well and he didn’t mean any harm, but if he doesn’t then you know that it is a casual friendship you don’t need to bother maintaining because he is a div

What's he upset about? Did his wife sort out his heart boo boo?

Maybe you should ask him that everytime you see him for the next two years?

I'd just reply with 'Good! He's been making nasty little digs at me for months and I'm sick of it. Perhaps if he wasn't so rude and sexist, people would be kinder to him.'

Just post back that you’re sorry he’s upset that you were working not “having a lie in”, his comments about how “lazy” you are are both inaccurate and unwelcome but if he just stops repeating them you are happy to accept his apology.

I’d put money the other way because I’ve met knobs like him before and heard similar comments when they had never met my DH.

No you don’t, you just felt like arguing with someone on here

Good for you OP. Standing up to that prick for his comments after 2 years of putting up with that crap.

is His wife the one sending the husband to walk the dog ?

I mean, the irony of him accusing you of sending your husband out to walk the dog for you- and then needing his wife to fight his battles for him- is honestly pretty perfect.

Don't give it another thought, OP, you made your point well to both, and have had support from a third party so that it can't become a story of how unreasonable you were.

Chin up, move on, they'll get over it in time and it frankly doesn't matter much if they don't.