AIBU- pulling someone up on snarky comments.

[Guttyyyyyyyyy]

So I work and DH is retired. We have a dog. I work 4 days a week . On the days I work DH walks the dog in the morning and I walk it in the evening. My days off we swap it around.
There is a group of dog walkers that meet in the morning. One man thinks its hilarious to ask if Ive enjoyed my sleep in/ lazy day/ sending DH out while I relax ect.
every single time I see him. 2 years of me just ignoring him / saying I work ect.
I work in a unit that deals with palliative care. Yesterday was a bloody hard day.
So this morning he said it must be nice to laze about on a Sunday and send DH out so I let him have it with both barrels - told him ( in rough terms) what my day consisted of. That I was up and out by 6am. Long drive. The realities of my job.
He was silent. Got home and his wife has watsapped to say Ive upset him !@@.
AIBU to think he deserves it.

Bullseye !

I would give him a wide berth should you run into
him.

Don’t be alone with him.

yup!

I used to get 'what's it like being a lady of leisure?' from a few different people when I was caring for my NEWBORN daughter. Honestly some people can p*s the p*s off!

That was a different group! A community gardening group, not the dog walking one.

OP had pointed out again and again for 2 fucking years to Twuntychops that she was working. He never took heed. What else was she supposed to do? And saying she “went full meltdown” has an undertone of the misogynistic “hysterical wummin” - she may have been perfectly calm while giving him his dressing down.

You ARE defending him by continually saying OP is wrong in her actions. She’s not. You are. And it’s getting tedious now.

Love this response to that poster, OP. Good on you.

Back-pedalling faster than a circus acrobat.

You said “act disproportionately, as in this case” - clearly meaning you think OP went off on one. Now you’ve been corrected by OP, you’re trying to pretend you didn’t say that.

Nah.

@pimplebum and @Sagepage are 2 more posters with internalised misogyny who need to read the OP updates. She was not “exploding” she’s said she explained clearly and calmly what her job involves. The fact he has run home to get his wife to fight for him is up to his character, not hers.

I agree with @spicemaiden- women should be able to defend themselves without being characterised as mad, angry <insert sexist stereotype of your choice here>

oh here we go. FFS. A woman likely wouldnt make the same sexist “joke” and not for 2 years. 2 years!

Yaaaaaayyyy WIN

She said she gave him “both barrels” that literally means to go at someone with a high level of aggression. I have never said she should’ve accepted it, just I don’t know why she let it go on for two years! I repeatedly said she should’ve told him off sooner.

Agree. And if they did, and posted on MN whingeing about being called out on it they would almost certainly get the same response.

OP has just found out about the racist comments since this all started. She didn’t know before.

The reading comprehension on here sometimes reminds me why the U.K. average standard is 9-11 years old.

No - ‘suggested he leave’ is a polite way of kicking him out. I doubt there was a choice.

But it’s not evident is it ? He doesn’t target men, and the only two women in the group he’s targeted are OP and another woman who left. The reason she left - because of his racist comments - has only just come to light, so it’s very possible that the full extent of his shitty comments is only just coming out now.

Nope. Different group. Gardening club. He’s never been asked to leave the dog walking group.

This is just nonsense. This has all surfaced since OP called him out - no-one knew why the other woman had left until then. You’re getting confused with the other group he was on. It was a gardening group and he was asked to leave because of similar comments, again, only directed at women. And again, it’s only just come to light that that happened. Nothing to do with the dog walking group. OPs male friend informed AF’s wife that he had been targeting the women with the comments.

Where was it suggested that he leave? OP has just found out that He was asked to leave a different, gardening, group but nowhere that I can see does OP say he was asked to leave this informal dog walking gang?

Does he say the same things to men? Has he ever said the same re cremation to a man whose close relative it involved?

I doubt it - he’d likely have a fat lip if he had !!

This poster pulled me up on another thread yesterday and intimated that there was something wrong with my reading and comprehension skills on that and other threads. Oh the irony !!

Oh here we go assuming that we are all the same just because we are women.

Educate yourself and discover some of us are capable of critical thinking.

We’re not all glove puppets.

I am exceedingly well educated thank you. Hunny 😂

I agree with you, @Spinachpastapicker - it seems like the sort of joke only a man would make, not the sort of thing women would say. Of course there are exceptions, and maybe some women would carry on making such an unfunny joke, even when their victim had explained why the joke was so wrong - but I can’t think there would be that many.