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Husband wouldn’t help me on flight with children because he paid for holiday

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Mumof22025 · 12/05/2025 19:01

We have taken our two children away, making the most of travelling outside of school holidays because our eldest starts school in September. Both of them started playing up about halfway into the journey, my husband was sat across the aisle and just kept his headphones in depsite seeing I was struggling. I tapped him on the shoulder to ask for him to help and he just shrugged his shoulders and said that I could deal with it as he paid for the holiday. They were causing a scene and it was embarrassing with a packed plane. Do you think that parenting should still be equal even if one has paid more than the other for something? On a flight last year, he upgraded himself to a seat with extra room and that was a few rows in front of us, luckily the kids behaved.

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whatonearthishappenin · 12/05/2025 19:01

Please tell me this is a joke?

MounjaroMounjaro · 12/05/2025 19:02

He paid for the holiday because you look after the children while he goes out to work? I would lose all respect for him.

rubyslippers · 12/05/2025 19:02

If this isn’t a joke you need to LTB

lnks · 12/05/2025 19:02

I'm so sorry. Why are you putting up with this?

EffortlesslyInelegant · 12/05/2025 19:02

whatonearthishappenin · 12/05/2025 19:01

Please tell me this is a joke?

And if it's not a joke then what are you doing with this rude waste of skin and hair?

Notsuchafattynow · 12/05/2025 19:02

I'd be reconsidering my relationship.

NorrisToenail · 12/05/2025 19:02

Your husband is a prick. I feel this is probably the tip of the iceberg

Isyesterdaytomorrowtoday · 12/05/2025 19:03

I’m not usually quick to LTB but honestly, I’d be divorcing him when we got home. What a prick.

Pomegranatecarnage · 12/05/2025 19:03

That’s just awful. Of course he should’ve helped. What a selfish man.

Okbyethen · 12/05/2025 19:03

What?!

Hankunamatata · 12/05/2025 19:03

Well he is a d#ck

Sparklebelle1024 · 12/05/2025 19:03

Wow. No he thinks he’s entitled to a break because he works and you’re just there to look after his children!! What’s he like outwith this ? Does he pull his weight at home? If not LTB!!!!

SpunkySquid · 12/05/2025 19:03

What an awful husband and father. Just horrible.

TonTonMacoute · 12/05/2025 19:03

What a complete dick!

wizzywig · 12/05/2025 19:03

What a tit.

TinyTempest · 12/05/2025 19:03

Do you think that parenting should still be equal even if one has paid more than the other for something?

What's with the silly question?

You know the answer to this and you know we all know the answer too.

BethDuttonYeHaw · 12/05/2025 19:03

What a complete arsehole he is

AnonWho23 · 12/05/2025 19:04

What a wanker.

Mumof22025 · 12/05/2025 19:04

He does usually help with things at home but if he doesn’t want to he will say about being the bread winner and that being a pass when he can’t be bothered or is tired.

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MumChp · 12/05/2025 19:04

He wouldn't be married long if it was my relationship.

JessieLongleg · 12/05/2025 19:04

That's him exercising his power. If your married that both your money no matter who worked for it.

outerspacepotato · 12/05/2025 19:04

So you're the bangmaidnanny and he thinks he isn't a parent?

Hahahahahahahaha, no.

Mumof22025 · 12/05/2025 19:05

TinyTempest · 12/05/2025 19:03

Do you think that parenting should still be equal even if one has paid more than the other for something?

What's with the silly question?

You know the answer to this and you know we all know the answer too.

I probably didn’t word it well. I mean should that ever be a consideration and someone given leeway? He says that’s the case with his best friend who has kids of a similar age.

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nomas · 12/05/2025 19:05

Divorce the twat.

Loveduppenguin · 12/05/2025 19:05

I hope this is a wind up…I’d like to think it is. If not… @Mumof22025 please LTB, he is an asshole!

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