Page 25 | Wanting to look good and be a 10/10 girl? Men specifically?

ThisChic · 2025-04-04T19:48:35+00:00

People always criticise others for caring about their looks, but let's face it, we all appreciate beauty and strive to look our best. I feel as though most women can be seen as '10/10' if they have good hygiene and skin/make up, i.e the whitened teeth, hair extensions, glowy fake tan, slim and big breasts. I feel like I have a few obvious flaws; small boobs is the main one, but also teeth and hair that could be 'glowed up'. I see that 95% of the women on TikTok on Instagram with 100 - 500k followers are just slim, tanned women with big boobs. All different facial features, but heavily made up, thin and big boobs. Am I being unreasonable to want to make myself look hotter by fixing my flaws? I would make any decision for surgery for myself anyway, but I just wonder what peoples' thoughts are!

SallyWD · 05/04/2025 22:51

ForZanyAquaViewer · 05/04/2025 22:29

Lots of thoughts. Firstly, why do you want to be found attractive by as many men as possible? To what end? What's the purpose of it? Is it something that you need for your ego? If so, why? It's not something I understand.

Secondly, you've said multiple times that you don't think men find Kate Moss attractive. Men find Kate Moss very attractive. Ask pretty much any man over the age of 40 if he had a crush on Kate Moss for the majority of his teens and early 20s, and he will tell you, yes, she was very much the girlfriend that they wanted and could not have.

Thirdly, what is it that you want from this thread? The vast majority of women are going to disagree with you on this, because we do not look like Instagram influencers, we don't want to look like Instagram influencers, we have partners/husbands/boyfriends who love us and love the way that we look and we're pretty content with life. So we're not going to understand what it is that you're trying to do or why you're trying to do it. We’re all saying you're being unreasonable but you're not willing to hear that. So what is it that you're hoping to gain from this thread?

Finally, I asked ChatGPT to collate a list of the hottest women according to men (in the U.K.) on Reddit. As I was interested. This is the list:

Emily Ratajkowski
Rosie Huntington-Whiteley
Sophie Turner
Emma Watson
Cara Delevingne
Keira Knightley
Millie Bobby Brown
Florence Pugh
Lily James

10. Natalie Dormer

Almost none of them fit your criteria of ‘what men like’. Which is hilarious.

Indeed. Quite a few if those women have small breasts.

HaddyAbrams · 05/04/2025 22:55

ThisChic · 05/04/2025 22:17

No, I don't see other attributes "outweighing my lack of boobs" as a good thing, I want him to think all of me is sexy 😅That's precisely what I don't want.

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But the point is, if he loves you, he will find all of you sexy. There will (most likely) be something about you that isn't his ideal, but he'll find you sexy regardless.

My exes "ideal" was no body hair other than arms. I'm not that woman, and yet he couldn't get enough of me. (And yes he's an ex, but not for that reason.)

SallyWD · 05/04/2025 22:56

ThisChic · 05/04/2025 22:02

Really? Are you sure he wasn't just telling you he didn't like large breasts to make you feel good about yourself? I've always worried that men who've said this to me in the past were just telling a white lie...

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I'm certain. He was not the type of guy to want me to feel good about myself. He was quite cruel and critical (which is why he's an ex). Believe me, if he didn't like my small breasts I'd have known about it! All the women he desired had small breasts.

Shodan · 05/04/2025 22:57

What will you do, though, once you've had the boob job and discovered that there is a large section of men that won't find you any more attractive than you are now? Or actually find you less attractive?

Because there will be. Big breasts are not the passport to universal allure that you seem to think they are. A lot of men actively dislike them. Some men are fairly indifferent. Some will find it hot, but they'll have the personality and looks of a doughnut.

Stupid men fawn over TitTok women because they either believe that the women look like that all the time (because Stupid) or because they seriously believe that they would be 'in with a chance' (such men have enormous egos). If they were to meet those women, they would be horrified when that woman is on her period and has spots/ill and vomiting/not sticking out her chest and pouting and wearing no make up.

And I wonder- if by chance you did meet a decent man, who also found your new boobs 'hot'- would you ever tell him that you had the surgery because you wanted to look sexy for loads of men? If he applauded you for that- is that the kind of man you want?

lonelynewname · 05/04/2025 22:59

Look up “breast implant illness”

SallyWD · 05/04/2025 23:01

You're either attractive or you're not. Getting fake breasts won't magically make you attractive. I've heard men say the really dislike the feel of breast implants. Plenty of men like natural breasts.

Yourcatisnotsorry · 05/04/2025 23:03

How you look is the least interesting thing about you.

Dawnchorussinging · 05/04/2025 23:04

Surely this thread has got to be a wind up.?
If it's not a wind up it is incredibly disturbing and sad.
Why wait for men to objectify women and dehumanise them when some women are apparently more than happy to do it to themselves.

Tiswa · 05/04/2025 23:11

Dawnchorussinging · 05/04/2025 23:04

Surely this thread has got to be a wind up.?
If it's not a wind up it is incredibly disturbing and sad.
Why wait for men to objectify women and dehumanise them when some women are apparently more than happy to do it to themselves.

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Yes or someone with body dysmorphia

Leanin9 · 05/04/2025 23:24

But I have this thing where I just feel like I must be being 'settled' for because of my chest, and that men really don't like it but will just put up with it for some reason.....So I kind of just want to look sexy and be adored and not settled for.

surely you’d consider therapy to look into why you think men are settling for you, before you got plastic surgery? What if you get it and then worry they’re settling for your small bum/ thin lips/not tiny enough waist or whatever else

You have pages and pages of pp telling you your outlook seems very unhealthy for a 30 year old woman, to the point several pp have wondered if you’re actually an incel because of the way you speak about women (yourself?)
if I were you I’d probably be reflecting on that quite a bit.

but also it doesn’t sound like you’re changing your mind or opinion at all, and it’s your body so if you want to change it, go for it

Whooowhooohoo · 05/04/2025 23:40

….. what if the 10/10 man, makes the perfect attractiveness match for you, but has an unsatisfying micropenis, a criminal record and debt ?

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ThisChic · 05/04/2025 23:41

IsItOnlyWednesday · 05/04/2025 22:22

You suggested that woman’s husband was lying to make her feel better because he liked her smaller breasts.

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I said possibly and asked if she thought he was. Not that he definitely is.

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Fluffyblackcat7 · 05/04/2025 23:42

ThisChic · 05/04/2025 21:07

I'm a woman who hates her small breasts. I posted on here for mens' opinions.

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This is Mumsnet so you are mostly going to get the opinion of mums.

FWIW, I have naturally large breasts and they are a bloody pain. They get in the way. They are uncomfortable. They strain my back. They attract way more unwanted attention than I would like.

At 5'1" I would suggest that large breasts would most likely look out of proportion with your small stature.

Make the most of what you've naturally got. Concentrate on being a good person. That's what will attract a man worth having.

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ThisChic · 05/04/2025 23:42

Whooowhooohoo · 05/04/2025 23:40

….. what if the 10/10 man, makes the perfect attractiveness match for you, but has an unsatisfying micropenis, a criminal record and debt ?

Women don't break men down into individual features and rate them like that though. Or at least not near as much. Women it's just 'wow, he's handsome...'. Lots of women like tall, some women are obsessed with six pack abs (not me, but many).

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Fluffyblackcat7 · 05/04/2025 23:47

ThisChic · 05/04/2025 21:09

Just the prevalence and number of followers of women with large breasts on TikTok/Instagram and all of the hype that busty women seem to get in our society. It's like that's the 'ideal' for men....And I'd rather look ideal than not if possible.

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It's just media hype. These women are just comodifying themselves for money. It's not reality and unless you are intending to make your living this way, it's best avoided.

Stay healthy. Be nice. There's someone out there for you.

ForZanyAquaViewer · 05/04/2025 23:47

SallyWD · 05/04/2025 22:51

Indeed. Quite a few if those women have small breasts.

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Yup. It’s unlikely she’s going to engage with this comment, though. At best, she’ll cherry pick a couple of sentences to respond to with a non sequitur.

PatsFruitCake · 05/04/2025 23:57

I'm really struggling to believe this thread is real. Is anyone really this unhinged? If a man loves you, he will love you regardless of boob size or any other physical feature. I've never discussed my breasts with my DH or any of the men I've slept with because I actually don't care what they think. If I was unfortunate enough to need a mastectomy I fully believe my DH would still love me and fancy me because he's not a shallow dickhead.

OP the spooks in your head making you insecure and self obsessed will still be there regardless of how much surgery you have.

Perhaps you could regard your B cup boobs as a way of filtering out morons who are only interested in women with particular sized tits because those men are not worth dating.

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ThisChic · 06/04/2025 00:04

Dawnchorussinging · 05/04/2025 23:04

Surely this thread has got to be a wind up.?
If it's not a wind up it is incredibly disturbing and sad.
Why wait for men to objectify women and dehumanise them when some women are apparently more than happy to do it to themselves.

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No it's not a wind up. I don't think I'm objectifying myself just by saying that I want to be found (fully) attractive by a future boyfriend?

Objectifying is reducing someone to purely their physical.

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DinaofCloud9 · 06/04/2025 00:06

ThisChic · 05/04/2025 23:42

Women don't break men down into individual features and rate them like that though. Or at least not near as much. Women it's just 'wow, he's handsome...'. Lots of women like tall, some women are obsessed with six pack abs (not me, but many).

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Don't they?

You're big on generalising aren't you?

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ThisChic · 06/04/2025 00:10

SallyWD · 05/04/2025 23:01

You're either attractive or you're not. Getting fake breasts won't magically make you attractive. I've heard men say the really dislike the feel of breast implants. Plenty of men like natural breasts.

This is true in terms of facial features.

But when it comes to bodies, (big) breasts are a factor for lots of men. As I've said before, lots of these dumb social media influencers aren't even really facially beautiful. They're just full of rubbish/editing and showing their boobs.

And true about some men not liking implants. But they have improved and nowadays then don't all feel rock hard.

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ThisChic · 06/04/2025 00:12

DinaofCloud9 · 06/04/2025 00:06

Don't they?

You're big on generalising aren't you?

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Well we all have to generalise. And sometimes there is truth in them. I think it is the the case that men break women's appearances down and rate them more often than women. I've never heard friends or women I know rating men out of 10, I've just heard, 'oh he's hot....no not my type' etc.

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DinaofCloud9 · 06/04/2025 00:13

Go for it then and get your boob job

I think you'll be disappointed when you're still not treated like the most stunning woman around but hey you do you.

Tiswa · 06/04/2025 00:17

ThisChic · 06/04/2025 00:04

No it's not a wind up. I don't think I'm objectifying myself just by saying that I want to be found (fully) attractive by a future boyfriend?

Objectifying is reducing someone to purely their physical.

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OP if you are real please seek therapeutic help because you are showing so many signs of body dysmorphia and so many red flags for this being about YOU rather than anyone else

there is nothing stopping you being found that attractive by someone else right now apart from the fact you don’t find yourself attractive and at your age that is no place to be

the man who loves you won’t care about the size of your boobs or the size of your stomach - trust me the one in my relationship who hates the menopausal weight is me and not him, just like I would love his weight gain (if it ever happens) or hair loss (ditto) because I love him and he loves me not some glorified 10/10 version that exists for merely a snapshot in time

but even now I get that the person who really needs to love me is ME. And you need to accept that otherwise you won’t find what you want

nutbrownhare15 · 06/04/2025 00:27

I can understand how you feel however wouldnt you want to be with someone who loved you for how you looked now rather than someone who would have only found you attractive after surgery aka someone more into a very limited type of look or the type of bloke who follows the women who you say gets lots of followers on Instagram.

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ThisChic · 06/04/2025 00:27

@Shodan I accept everything you say here. I know that some men hate breast implants, but I think that's mainly because they feel different. They can look very realistic nowadays, and actually (believe it or not) feel realistic.

A decent man, I would tell him the truth - I got implants but I just didn't like my natural breasts and didn't feel I could be sexy with them. And no, I don't want to be sexy for just any and every man. I'm not going to start posting 'thirst' pictures all over social media or walking down the street in a triangle bikini top 😅

Stupid men fawn over TitTok women because they either believe that the women look like that all the time (because Stupid)

Yes true. I think lots of them genuinely are stupid and don't really what the layers of make up, filters, editing and bodytune have been done.

If they were to meet those women, they would be horrified when that woman is on her period and has spots/ill and vomiting/not sticking out her chest and pouting and wearing no make up.

Well they'd have a bit of a surprise when they saw them without make up. That said, lots of those men are just impressed by the big breasts, which those women do have in real life. I do think you're right though; they would be horrified when they saw the woman without all of her 'additions'.

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