Wanting to look good and be a 10/10 girl? Men specifically?

[ThisChic]

People always criticise others for caring about their looks, but let's face it, we all appreciate beauty and strive to look our best.

I feel as though most women can be seen as '10/10' if they have good hygiene and skin/make up, i.e the whitened teeth, hair extensions, glowy fake tan, slim and big breasts.

I feel like I have a few obvious flaws; small boobs is the main one, but also teeth and hair that could be 'glowed up'.

I see that 95% of the women on TikTok on Instagram with 100 - 500k followers are just slim, tanned women with big boobs. All different facial features, but heavily made up, thin and big boobs.

Am I being unreasonable to want to make myself look hotter by fixing my flaws?

I would make any decision for surgery for myself anyway, but I just wonder what peoples' thoughts are!

Well it would be nice if a man/some men could genuinely think I look beautiful/hot as I am but I think overall for 95% of the younger male population (by young I mean under 40) by breasts would be a huge flaw and turn off.

OP get some help for your mind... it's your worldview you need to expand, not your breast tissue!

In my opinion, most of these Tik Tok and Influencers either have low self esteem or think they are attracting males. Admittedly late teens to mid 20's yes, even I'd be gullible enough, I'm not these days thankfully. I can understand why females feel they 'have' to look a certain way, but IMO as with quite a few male friends, we prefer a woman to look natural, not really what you could say about the others. Obviously if a female wants something like breast implants and gets confidence from it, then all well and good. However, it annoys me when females are made to think they have to look a certain way. It's starting to be the same with young males, seeing all these male models with 6packs, good looks and bodies. The main thing is to accept who you are and be happy, if you do feel the need to change, do it, but don't ever feel you're forced into looking good and if a partner mentions it, then in my eyes he/she doesn't deserve you

I hate to sound patronising but you are you. Nothing about you is a ‘flaw’ and if you don’t feel ‘enough’ because of how you look (poor hygiene aside) I doubt any procedure can fix that. Beauty trends have had atleast 3 major changes in the last 15 years alone. Will you constantly change your body to keep up with it? An authentic personality, healthy self-esteem and confidence will do so much more to make a person appealing than being a look alike to thousands of random people.
A bit of a ramble there but here’s the main point, the kind of satisfaction you are seeking, the sustainable type, it comes from inside out.

I’m pretty sure when you’re that shallow then it doesn’t really matter how much work you get done, you’re never happy. On the other hand, all the lovely talented brilliant successful women I work with will be just as talented and brilliant in 20 years, I have no idea what their boob size is, they don’t have hair extensions and don’t think they fake tan, but they are liked and respected and I would rather be them any day of the week. Do any of these women you admire so much have a real job? One that’s about more than how you look?

Your posts make me sad for you.

And tbh those big boobs, fake tans, ultra white teeth, heavy make up, extensions are not particularly attractive in real life. They make people look the same. Why would you want to loose your uniqueness? And in my very limited experience many that look like that end up with shallow misogynistic partners. But if looking like every other blown up, overly made up babe and having a shallow misogynistic partner are your goals in life then go for it. You don't need our permission.

And is this even real or just a half term wind up?

I'd go and talk to a therapist if I were you.

Something is awry.

How old are you? This is relevant as I had no confidence when I was younger for similar reasons to you, now I’m almost 50 and so glad I never got that boob job, I’ve put on a bit of weight (used to be 7-8stn) so they aren’t quite as flat and have no sagging as they were never big enough…. Can go braless with no worries, and it seems all those years I thought men were not interested was actually that I was so lacking confidence that I would look away and they thought I wasn’t interested/ was too stuck up to bother.
work on your own self confidence before trying to fit a mould made by social media, in a few years that look will become unfashionable and I know lots of men who hate the duck lips & fake boobs

95% of the younger male population (by young I mean under 40) by breasts would be a huge flaw and turn off.

This flawed thinking is what you need to address, not your 'flawed' body. Any man who'd think a part of your body is a huge flaw, is not worth having. But this isn't about men, this is about how you feel about yourself. Get some therapy and live a happy life in the body you've got.

Before getting a boob job, trying walking around with a great big stuffed bra for a week and see how you feel. I think it will change your appearance for the worse.

I mentioned up thread about researching breast implant illness. Please take it seriously.

Also want to say after reading your posts, men are not the prize. If you do your research and still decide the implants are for you (bad idea) then get them because you want to feel sexy for yourself. Not for any future man’s contentment with your body (even typing that makes me cringe).

Any man who you let touch your boobs in the future, with implants or not, will be happy you’ve let him and really not think about the size. Trust me. They are simple beings.

I asked AI about men's breast size preferences and larger breasts are more likely to attact men with lower socio economic status who like playing around.

AI Overview

No, it's inaccurate to say that all men like big breasts, as individual preferences vary widely, and studies show that men rate medium to large breasts as attractive, with some studies also indicating attraction to smaller breasts.

Here's a more detailed breakdown:
Varied Preferences:
Research indicates that men's preferences for breast size are diverse, with some studies showing a preference for medium to large breasts, while others suggest attraction to smaller breasts as well.

Sociosexuality and Preferences:
Some studies suggest that men with higher sociosexuality (a tendency for sexual variety) may prefer larger breasts.

Socioeconomic Context:
Research also suggests that men from lower socioeconomic contexts may rate larger breasts as more attractive than those from higher socioeconomic contexts.

I would work on broadening your mind and think very carefully about what brings you a 10/10 will achieve for you? Are you searching for meaningless sex, a full time partner? Are you hoping to catch a wealthy man? Why is 10/10 important to you. I decided many years ago that I was not going to rely on anyone. I’d self improve and build my own wealth. Men are unreliable and if you want to be valued for your looks… it will fade over time and so use the money to invest in your mind, skills and self worth.

Margot Robbie is one of the most fancied women on Earth and she has small breasts. You have body dysmorphia.

But why would you even think that?

You are so fixated on this that you are assuming you’re right and everyone else is wrong.

Whereas you’ve been so heavily influenced by social media that it’s ridding you of any rational thought about this. You’ve convinced yourself that the only way to get a man is to have big tits, which must mean that the only explanation for anyone who is married and doesn’t look like one of those heavily modified and filtered women off TikTok or Instagram is that their husband is lying to make them feel better. Does reading that help you see how wrong this all is?

Do you have mental health or psychological issues? Because your thought process around this isn’t healthy or rational.

You are objectifying all women by using absolutely appalling denigrating phrases such as 10/10 Girl.

That is really not true. In my youth I had plenty of male attention and small breasts. And this was based on definitely less than 5% of the male population who were interested, why would I want everyone to be if I only want a relationship with one person? I want someone who values me for me rather than someone who is only interested in my bra size. But also even if it is 5% of the male population surely that the proportion you'd want to be interested in you? The ones who aren't obsessed with big fake breasts? What is a turn off for me is men who are so shallow as to only want such a narrow body type.

Exactly, a man will go with anything that has a vagina attached. Put any effort in for you, not for a man or anyone else.

I thought teenagers were the target audience for Instagram with fake looks. Jesus, there's more to life than looking fake. You do know that life on the internet is not real, they don't look like that every day, it's all show. If they really had a fulfilling life, they wouldn't have time for dreasing up to take the 'perfect' picture at their 'perfect' venue or whatever it is they do.

As for big boob's, that's not all it's cracked up to be either. When I met my husband I didn't have any, I liked it. Didn't have to worry about having a bra on in the summer, had cute little lace bra's. Now I've gone through the menopause, they have got bigger, those cute little lace numbers look much nicer against the E cup now in the drawer.

Make the best of yourself and look natural, your beauty will shine through. Don't compare yourself to others you don't know anything about, it's wasted time and energy.

How old are you OP? Someone mentioned you were 30. I don't know if this is true or not. If you're trying to appeal to the type of men who go after social media personalities, then you should be aware that they tend to see women over 30/35 as past their sell by date. I wouldn't waste my time and energy trying to appeal to these types of men.
Instead try and find a man who sees you as more than a pair of tits.

Yep, so true. Out of my friendship group when I was young I don't think any of us had big breasts. We all got plenty of male attention. My most beautiful friend has always been hounded by male attention every time she leaves the house. She even gets men asking her out when she pops to the supermarket. She's an A cup.

Is the kind of man who finds implants attractive, the kind of man you want to attract?

My son used to choose those types of women. When settling down he chose a naturally attractive woman whose prettiness was in her smile which lit up her face.
When looking at couples in general men prefer natural over fake.

This thread has to be a wind up. Why do you want to be attractive to most men? I only want to be attractive to my husband, couldn’t give a flying fuck what the rest of the men think.