Wanting to look good and be a 10/10 girl? Men specifically?

[ThisChic]

People always criticise others for caring about their looks, but let's face it, we all appreciate beauty and strive to look our best.

I feel as though most women can be seen as '10/10' if they have good hygiene and skin/make up, i.e the whitened teeth, hair extensions, glowy fake tan, slim and big breasts.

I feel like I have a few obvious flaws; small boobs is the main one, but also teeth and hair that could be 'glowed up'.

I see that 95% of the women on TikTok on Instagram with 100 - 500k followers are just slim, tanned women with big boobs. All different facial features, but heavily made up, thin and big boobs.

Am I being unreasonable to want to make myself look hotter by fixing my flaws?

I would make any decision for surgery for myself anyway, but I just wonder what peoples' thoughts are!

Ditto.

Lol. Stop caring so much about what men want. It will never be enough.

I find it sad and shallow these women are on instagram - duck lips spider lashes big boobs - urgh - I find it depressing and demeaning

It’s sad that you feel you need plastic tits, inflated lips etc etc but it’s up to you.

You sound very immature and shallow.

sounds like everything you are striving for is fake.

There's a lot of filters on insta as well OP. I met someone the other day who I had only seen on instagram and she looked 20 years older than all of her photos and videos! I was so shocked. Not even sure I would have recognised her if I saw her in the street.

In my opinion, people tend to look less attractive after surgery. Not sure there's a single celebrity that looks better than before surgery. Thinking of people like Heidi whatsherface whose married to Spencer. She was so naturally pretty before and now she looks like an identikit Hollywood doll.

There's so many more important things in life OP that will give you real happiness.

God this is so vapid.

OP, you need a man who will love you for you and want to have sex with you to be close to you, the person. Why would you want to look like a person who has obviously had work done? I don't think that's ever a good look.

My DH prefers more natural looking women and, while I may be wrong, my understanding was that most men actually do. That said, I don't have to change myself for any man. If a man doesn't love me as I am, he's not worth it.

It's you again, isn't it?

For the millionth time, stop looking for validation on vacuous social media and pay attention to your DS instead.

If you’re basing this off instagram, an adobe subscription for photoshop is a must buy for the perfect look

Yep.

also who wants to attract that sort of man? If I’m not good enough for you mate, feel free to fuck off and find somebody who is. Unlikely they’ll look at you though 😂

It’s not your face, boobs and body that are unattractive love…. But if you feel the need to appeal to a certain bandwidth of blokes knock yourself out, but you won’t feel anymore beautiful, you’ll find something else to change.

I'm really disturbed by the number of times you've mentioned the size of boobs and how women are seen by other people. It's possible to be into makeup as a hobby or an aesthetic or whatever, and I do like getting my hair coloured so am not immune to this stuff, but honestly, let go a bit. Men rate women to make themselves feel better or for the women to feel worse, don't engage with that shit.

I strive to look my best - as defined by me. Obviousl socialised by the male gaze, but by my age now, my "best" has evolved during adulthood and I absolutely reject the "best" that OP is describing and aim to please my own eye rather than anyone else's.

Hair extensions and fake tan? Give over...

Clean hair and good hygiene, yes. Well dressed, yes. Tits bulging out of skin tight dresses, unnaturally white teeth and slug eyebrows, no thanks.

Someone mentored fashion - which absolutely rejects the porn/reality TV body type. Mass clothing trends however...

I can't stand big boobs. Mine were quite large and I had them reduced. I find that clothes look so much better.

OP, are the poster who is fixated on men only liking big boobs despite men and women alike saying that it not necessarily true? That poster also had a weird need to pander to the male gaze and assumed every women's life goal was to look attractive to men.

https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/sex/5259993-i-hate-my-small-breasts-because-i-know-men-dont-like-them?reply=141822408

If you are the same poster, then I guess you won't be told.

If you in yourself are unhappy with the way you look and something will give you more confidence, whether it be surgery or Botox or just new make up, then yes I absolutely agree that’s a beautiful thing. If you want these things because you think they’ll make you more attractive to someone else, it never will be enough and you’ll never be happy.

Stop looking on Tik Tok and you’ll feel better. None of it is real.

Yes go ahead

Small boobed Kate Moss is infamously unattractive, of course!

Is surgery bad? Not inherently, no. But is getting surgery to make yourself a '10/10', for 'men specifically', to 'fix your flaws' or because you 'need... implants to look really beautiful' then it's a fucking terrible idea. Spend the money on therapy instead. Give yourself a 10/10 inner life so you don't fixate on these imaginary flaws.

I think you’re focusing on a self selecting demographic OP. It’s a certain type of man who fawns over women on TikTok and Insta. None of the decent men I know follow women on either.

Does your Mum love you OP? If she does this would probably make her very sad. Ahe knows you are perfect. I love my daughter very much, and if I heard her talking like this I would be horrified and very very worried for her.

I really think you should uninstall Instagram and go and do something in real life with people who need you for what you can give, not just rate you for how you look.

But men are all different and like different things.

You are literally living in the 90s with those attitudes. Look around in the real world and men are with all shapes of women. Image is actually changing it’s not about being slim it’s about being strong and that doesn’t have to be skinny.

I see that 95% of the women on TikTok on Instagram with 100 - 500k followers are just slim, tanned women with big boobs. All different facial features, but heavily made up, thin and big boobs.

Those women are not happy and they're literally using social media as a portfolio. Unless you also want to be in the semi-escort business, there is no point competing with those girls. They're using their profiles to attract men in their DMs who will either fund their life for a short period or be open for long term relationships. If they are already in a relationship and still posting images of themselves and their bodies, then they're hoping for someone richer or more successful to contact them. The whole scene is very sordid as well as the men involved. There was just the recent scandal involving a Ukrainian model getting invited to a Dubai porta potty party and then found at a deserted building site with multiple broken bones and a broken spine.

Your point on upgrading appearance is reasonable of course. There's nothing wrong with wanting to look like a better version of yourself but aiming for the bombshell 10/10 type of body isn't necessarily going to make you happier. To be perfectly honest, if it's solely for the male gaze, then 8/10 with a lot of personality or humour is what actually works best. 90% of the wives of millionaires are never 10/10. They are usually slim and conventionally attractive but nowhere close to those type of Tiktok models. The reason is because a good, successful man will steer clear of women who's obsessed with her looks and male attention. A small minority might want trophy girlfriends but why try to appeal to the 10% when you have much better chances with the 90%?