Wanting to look good and be a 10/10 girl? Men specifically?

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People always criticise others for caring about their looks, but let's face it, we all appreciate beauty and strive to look our best.

I feel as though most women can be seen as '10/10' if they have good hygiene and skin/make up, i.e the whitened teeth, hair extensions, glowy fake tan, slim and big breasts.

I feel like I have a few obvious flaws; small boobs is the main one, but also teeth and hair that could be 'glowed up'.

I see that 95% of the women on TikTok on Instagram with 100 - 500k followers are just slim, tanned women with big boobs. All different facial features, but heavily made up, thin and big boobs.

Am I being unreasonable to want to make myself look hotter by fixing my flaws?

I would make any decision for surgery for myself anyway, but I just wonder what peoples' thoughts are!

You are ridiculously shallow, grow up.

You seem to be stuck in some real cognitive dissonance. On the one hand you say you want to look like these women for you, and on the other it's all about what these women look like and that these men find attractive.

Not all men.

A lot of men I know wouldn't.

You do realise that breast implants have to be revised every 10 years or thereabouts?

So you are going to need to go through the process at least twice - with all the risks of complications, and scarring. Operations are not guaranteed to be smooth sailing.

Yes, you want to look as beautiful as you can when you are young.

But consider the long term consequences of surgery.

I wish there would be some clinic where people would be injected with self respect and self esteem instead of botox. Preferably at birth. Would save so many women so much trouble. And then they could proceed looking for a life partner, who is attracted to them because of their brains, personality and values. And not 'big boobs and bangin bod'. You sound desperate, OP.

And fyi, you don't need those 'big boobs' you so covet. I'm tall, slim, long-legged ex-model. Small boobs. No fake teeth, nails, lips, hair, lashes - no fake anything. I get shit load of attention, groping, whistling, slobbering over, pestering, leering, beeping horns, following, shouting obscenities at me, downright assaults. Had two drunken men loudly discussing how they'd love to fuck me in 'that arse' when I was walking by with my child, minding our business.

You want that? Or do you what, expect that Brad Pitts and Hemsworths will aproach you chivalrously, with a red rose between their teeth and will (respectfully) swoop you off your feet?

Ultimately it's not that complicated. You don't need any sort of boobs. Men fuck pies, pillows, gaps in sofas, vacuum cleaners, holes in trees. If you want all the leering and ass-fuck offers, just wear a short skirt, be loud and make yourself look approachable and available. You'll get more attention than you'll now what to do with.

Do all the married women you know look like that?
In fact... Do ANY of the married women you know look like that? I'd hazard a guess not.
Because actually most men find normal looking women perfectly attractive, billions of women around the world fairly easily find male partners without looking like a pumped up Instagram influencer.

OP you seem to have fixated on this I'm guessing because you are single and are looking for a 'reason' you aren't finding a bloke. Honestly you need to do some work on yourself and your values and what you think is important in life - you might then find you have more success in finding a partner.

A lot of younger women are.

I'm not into having work done. I've never had anything and I'm in my 50's but I do know what women are having done.

I'm in a walking group. We're all aged 50 to 60 something. A week ago we had a new male member join us. He seemed nice and was a perfectly pleasant looking mid fifties man. I would assume that several of our single female members would have found him attractive. We went for a meal at a lovely local restaurant after the walk. They do fabulous Italian food . We all ordered nice lunch things. He didn't. He sat with a black coffee and nothing else. He explained that he wanted to get down to 12% body fat ( that's the young influencer/ Spencer Matthews look) so he was extremely strict about what he ate and the times of day when he ate. He said he wouldn't deviate from this even if he was on a date. It wasn't because he was training for a marathon/ triathlon/iron man event it was because he liked the 'look'. We are a group of mostly retired / semi retired professionals of all shapes, sizes and heights. Everyone was chatting and laughing and enjoying in the food and each others company. We've all got been-up-on-the-hills hair and we're all in walking type clothes. Everyone is happy in themselves. We are what we are. He just sat there with his black coffee talking about weighing his food and spending all his time at the gym to achieve this perfect body. Gave me the ick.

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Sorry, but what you're describing to me is a porn star, not beautiful at all.

I'd condisider these to be some of the most beautiful women ever: Naomi Campbell, Grace Kelly, Vivienne Leigh, Sienna Miller, Cindy Crawford, Angelina Jolie.

You probably don't, which tell us what? Beauty is subjective - even to men. Who'd have thunk it, eh?

Maybe give 'Insta' a rest if you're seriously considering surgery and pick up a book. It's filling your mind with garbage.

Could not agree more 👏

My exhusband was found dead in a budget hotel room surrounded by sex toys, viagra and the anti depressants he'd used to kill himself ( one of the toys was a silicone cube with a vagina on one side and an arsehole on the other). He'd had sex and then taken a massive overdose. Honestly Op men like him ( he loved the big tits look) will have sex with anything at the best and the worst times of their lives. They'll have anal sex with a lump of plastic they've ordered from Amazon.

Or actually a man.

Look ‘good’ by who’s standards.

Different aesthetics have been revered during different phases of history. Different cultures revere different aesthetics.

There is no universal ‘good’ or ‘perfect’ and social media has created the current aesthetic. Lots of men I know can’t stand the heavily made up look and would avoid women who look like that, assuming (wrongly often) they are vacuous and superficial.

Different people are naturally attracted to different things. Societal norms can influence that. Social media magnifies that effect.

What I can tell you 100% is that striving for perfection leads to dissatisfaction. Because nothing is perfect and what might be seen as perfect changes.

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OP you are thinking of having actual surgery on your body, with the pain and risk that involves, to potentially appeal to the men you wouldn't want to sit next to on a bus.

Have a word with yourself.

Yes. A man or a woman with internalised misogyny.

This reminds me of a crass joke I used to hear at secondary school in the 80s:

Why do women have tits?

So men will talk to them.

Do you really want fake silicon tits just so that men will talk to you op? If you were my dd that would make me feel very sad for you.

I was an unattractive young woman… but I still held my standards and still had nice boyfriends and now growing old and into the sunset with my lovely DH. It’s self esteem you need, not silicon.

I think you need to come off social media and get some therapy OP. I really hope this is a wind up. Surely no one is this vacuous

I am, objectively, very plain. I mean big nose, dreadful teeth, short legs - I have never, in my entire life, even qualified as 'quite pretty'. I look, basically, like a bloke with boobs. And I've been married three times and shagged by I can't even remember how many others. I'm now over 60, my boobs are round my ankles, I've got wrinkles and my eyes have almost disappeared. I am STILL getting hit on.

You know why? Because I have self confidence. I have achieved highly in my chosen career so I don't feel 'lesser' to anyone in the world. I don't care about male attention and this is like a flame to all those men who want a woman who doesn't need them.

Am still very very happily single, because men are, mostly, utter twats.

Also op, lots of young women are getting their fillers and BBL’s reversed. What does that tell you?

You are correct in that any woman with enough time, money and inclination can get very close to the look you describe as 10/10. You have said yourself how it is done. However, not everyone would agree that's the epitome of beauty. People respond to a variety of looks and if that look isn't natural for you, by trying to force yourself into the mould, you risk suppressing the characteristics that are unique to you and make you beautiful as an individual.

Im not going to lecture you on being shallow. Women are taught from childhood our looks matter and that isnt unlearned by a telling off from other women. So what i would say, is if you want to elevate your appearance, come at it from the point of being the best version you can if you. This means forgetting fakery to give you a body shape, skin tone and hair colour thats not natural for you, and taking great care of what you have. Look after your body with excellent nutrition and excercise, use products to care for skin and hair. Choose clothes that make you feel happy.

If you must put a score on it, be your own personal 10/10 in health, fitness and care for your wellbeing. You will see the benefit in your physical apoearance as a bonus.

@BloodyRacket maybe it’s the age or stage of life I’m at, but I am genuinely gobsmacked by the level of internalised misogyny I’m seeing from younger women at the moment.

I expect it from women of my age and up to an extent - and I’m addressing my own issues with it on aging which have taken me by surprise - but seeing it in women 30 and under has shocked me.

I think social media in general and people like that Gollum Andrew Tate have done levels of damage to young women that we don’t have the full picture of yet.

I don’t regret my breast augmentation at all!

But doesn't having surgery to replace them every 10-15 years bother you? Or the very real possibility they might breakdown and cause you health problems before that?

Breast implants aren't designed to last for life.

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Give me a fucking break....this is so depressing....there is SO much wrong with this post:

• The pathetic and desperate need for validation
• The assumption that you're considered sexually attractive if you're sexually harassed
• The interest in being sexually harassed if it affirms your sexual 'worth'
• The lack of awareness in perception by others, even on an anonymous forum
• The realisation by me, 15 years older, that the need for feminism as a movement is more necessary than ever
• Your vapid nature meaning that it could be a concerning warning about future tiktok obsessed women...what hope do we have?
• The lack of interest in life around you
• The self absorption being off the scale
• Lack of interest in bettering yourself in any way, through education, volunteering, campaigning, etc. Etc.

God. I hope none of my kids are influenced by the likes of you. I feel sorry for yours if you have any.

With respect, grow the fuck up.

I disagree. The specific 10/10 idea might be new but there have always been popular looks/people and men or women have gossiped among themselves about who they find attractive, whether that’s Carey Grant/Paul McCartney/Donny Osmond/Brad Pitt/Leonardo Dicaprio etc.

In my experience this has very little to do with who you actually end up with in a relationship. Just look around you in your own family/workplace/the street. All kinds of people of varying styles/compliance with beauty standards/put togetherness get together and live their lives.

You do you but I think the 10/10 stuff is largely bollocks.