Wanting to look good and be a 10/10 girl? Men specifically?

[ThisChic]

People always criticise others for caring about their looks, but let's face it, we all appreciate beauty and strive to look our best.

I feel as though most women can be seen as '10/10' if they have good hygiene and skin/make up, i.e the whitened teeth, hair extensions, glowy fake tan, slim and big breasts.

I feel like I have a few obvious flaws; small boobs is the main one, but also teeth and hair that could be 'glowed up'.

I see that 95% of the women on TikTok on Instagram with 100 - 500k followers are just slim, tanned women with big boobs. All different facial features, but heavily made up, thin and big boobs.

Am I being unreasonable to want to make myself look hotter by fixing my flaws?

I would make any decision for surgery for myself anyway, but I just wonder what peoples' thoughts are!

I agree. There was a movie called "Ten" with Bo Derek that was released in 1979. Yes, you've guessed: it is about a woman men would rate a 10.

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what’s that about @Fancycheese!!!!

I had a breast uplift post kids best thing I did resored confidence, also get botox and facial fillers subtle ones by good Doctor.

“I see that 95% of the women on TikTok on Instagram with 100 - 500k followers are just slim, tanned women with big boobs"

I think this is reflecting the contingent that would sit there liking women they have not met on TikTok? I’m trying to word this without sounding snobby but am struggling… Sure there are beauty standards but tanned, pumped lips etc are definitely not universal.

What biological sex are you OP? Lots of previous posters have asked it as no woman writes like this (that I have read before).

You want a boob job OP. Whatever anyone else says you are determined to think men will only be interested if you are slim, blonde and big boobed. Let us know how it goes after the op and if you manage to achieve 10/10 status

Op it’s one to thing to want to look your best but you are not trying to look YOUR best, you are trying to look like some generic image of what you think men want (which in my experience isn’t true anyway)

I have small boobs, but they suit me. Big boobs would make my frame look completely unbalanced. I have naturally brown hair, but it makes me look washed out, so I dye it blond because it suits my skin tone better. I don’t follow clothing trends as such, but I buy colours and styles that suit me. I get plenty of male attention.

DP tells me he finds me very attractive (and certainly shows it too!) and I don’t have any of the things you list. In fact he hates the “fake” look, he thinks microbladed eyebrows look awful (sorry no shade to those that have these!) and despite being a ‘boob man’ says he would take a small pert pair any day. He says self confidence is one of the most attractive things in a woman

I think your view on what makes someone attractive and a 10/10 is really skewed

In the past I’ve had hair extensions, false nails and eyelashes, all quite subtle though unlike the ones you see now. I’ve also got naturally big boobs which I absolutely hate. Nowadays my hair is really short and going a bit grey, my nails are clean but short and I can’t be arsed to sit in a salon getting my lashes done. But men still seem to find me attractive.

I met my current partner whilst wearing tatty jeans, a pair of DMs and a cartoon character hoodie. Apparently he thought they showed a ‘don’t give a fuck’ attitude and a sense of humour. Both of which he finds far more attractive than the instagram and TikTok look.

Honestly OP stop comparing yourself to women on social media - they generally don't look like that in real life. Stop worrying about what men think of you, they are fickle creatures who likely wouldn't want that in real life.

Having said that, if you want to make tweaks for you do so, I see nothing wrong with cosmetic surgery if you do it for you!

I’ve had implants for 15+ years - when I’ve got enough money I’m having them removed and I can not wait!!!
When you have large breasts, they’re the first thing anyone notices, in fact they’re all most men notice. They attract a certain level of douche bag man and letchy comments, I’ve always trying to both cover them up, not look like a sack of spuds and not draw attention to them.

OP you need to delete social media and get some counselling! I felt so sad reading your post that you think you need to be beautiful and 10/10 to be worth something!

The women on Instagram don’t look like the women on Instagram in real life. Filters and touch ups create such a false image. That size 8 Kardashian’s lookalike may well be an average size 20 in real life.

Stop judging your worth against artificial images.

( I used to be an 11 and now a happy 9!)

OP, do what you like, noone is stopping you and it's actually not that interesting.

All the enhancements in the world will not however guarantee a man who thinks you're a "10/10" when you're slobbing around with flu and look like you've just been dragged out of a ditch and that day-many such days- will happen.

You seem fixated on being leered over on Insta and Tiktok so not sure why you can't just filter the crap out of yourself like the women on there you seek to emulate.

If you're a feminist you should be hating on the game, not the player.

Does anyone else picture the OP as Jay from the Inbetweeners- probably shagging a packet of ham as he reads this thread.🙄

I know those unsolicited comments are unwanted and not pleasant, but at least those men are saying you are desirable and sexy.

Men will fuck corpses. Animals. Exhaust pipes. Pies. Couches. Plastic. Holes in the ground. The men who make those comments see women on the same level as all those things. Un consenting holes to stick their dicks in for self gratification.

Thinking their disgusting comments ‘at least’ affirms you are ‘desirable and sexy’ is equating your worth to that. How is that a compliment? How is that something you accept rather than rage against?

"this chic"

Sure you are....

I always think of a particular school mum I used to know a bit. She was really friendly, funny, generous etc and had a huge friendship group of other mums. She was kind of the leader as she was a bit louder than the others & had twins in separate classes so she knew loads of staff & mums at the school. She wasn't your typical 'pretty' woman, she had a very non descript hairstyle & dress sense but her personality made her very popular & attractive. She also seemed very comfortable in her own skin. So it's not about looks, it's how you carry yourself & how you are with others

I don’t think this poster is for real, just looking for reactions

But who cares what men think? Genuinely why does their approval even matter? If you are happy, have fulfilment in other areas of your life, why does a man’s individual judgement of your beauty matter?

some men like Kiera Knightly, some like Beyoncé, Rhanna, Kelly Brooke, Kirsten Dunst etc
Beauty is so different there is no way to please everyone.

Well I'm tall, curvy and chubby, tattooed up the wazoo and have mad hair, managed to find a lovely husband nearly ten years ago just being myself 😂 don't go down the surgery and Turkey teeth route you'll look like everyone else!

OP has the same mentality as that Bonnie Blue person, who said other women couldn't do what she does as they're not hot enough. Fundamentally misunderstanding that men don't queue up to fuck her for 5 seconds because she's 'hot', those men would fuck anything or anyone.

OP if you are real, you are probably beautiful just as you are with young peachy skin. Please appreciate it! I promise you will look back at your photos later in life and marvel at how fresh and lovely you were, but just didn’t know it.

Stop comparing yourself. It is the thief of joy. Don’t make permanent expensive changes out of a misguided idea that you are not already good enough - you are.

Get off social media and you will find that all of this will magically go away!

Don’t turn your natural beauty into a fake, unnatural cloned look - for any reason but especially not for “men” - UGH!! Most men have minds like sewers - please value yourself more.

if you want to have good self esteem then do esteemable things.
Volunteer. Think about others. Find a goal and achieve it. Get out of your own head more. Become a real person. Read. Talk to real people. Enjoy the gift of youth and life that you have right now.

Bonnie Blue is who I thought of too.

And it's "those men" - not all men or most men. I think most men would be as revolted by Bonnie Blue and the disgusting men who masturbated into her as most women are.

Lol. You aren't 30 and you aren't a woman. Fancied a friday night wind up did you?