First Mother’s Day - DH didn’t put anything on socials

[Genie98]

AIBU to be a bit gutted that my DH didn’t put a post up on socials yesterday to mark my first Mother’s Day? My feeds were full of other posts celebrating their Mum’s and I was hoping DH would have done something to mark the occasion. He has done the odd birthday post in the past and posted about our engagement/wedding etc so it’s not that he has never used it.

Just feeling a bit deflated and a bit jealous of my mum friends who had lovely messages and photo’s from their OH’s.

Good call!

YABU
I would cringe so hard if my son’s dad had ‘put something on socials’
Mind you, I don’t have any ‘socials’ so I wouldn’t have seen it anyway.
He got me a box of chocolates and some flowers and that was absolutely fine

Exactly my first thought lol.

What is it with all these ‘he didn’t put me on socials’ posts? Is it the same person or is Gen Z really that internet obsessed…

Absolutely this.
I didn't use social media much but I completely came off the ones I did use about six months ago. What a difference it makes never to have to see anyone else's public comments about things which don't need publicly stating, never to feel comparison or that somehow my life was lacking, never to have to see other people's meaningless and vacuous posts.
It's absolutely liberating. I still keep in touch with the people who are important to me and feel loved and appreciated by the people who love me.
You should try it.

Seriously??? Stop worrying about what other people think or are doing on social media and stop being so entitled. Some people got nothing at all.

When couples gush about each other on their “socials” for every birthday, anniversary and Mother’s Day, I start the countdown to the divorce.

I’ve not been wrong yet. Well except one couple didn’t divorce after he cheated on her (and she put that all over Facebook too).

dh and I don’t do boast posts but I can kind of get birthday/valentines etc but your baby isn’t on sm so your not doing it for them. So what’s the point? To say to the internet Genie98 is a good mum?. Why’d o you care? Surely the people close to you know your a good mum and the rest don’t matter?

I know it’s not really LTB territory but I can’t help how I feel. I know it’s a bit silly and I’m sure I’ll snap out of it!

I would argue this is something you really should be trying to “help how you feel” about to be honest, otherwise you’re going to end up miserable and one day when this relationship ends because he can’t win you may well realise how silly being upset over a facebook post was

Neither me nor my dh nor my parents nor my kids nor anyone in our family put out anything “on socials”.

us mums all celebrated Mother’s Day in different ways. Everyone happy.

You sound about 16

I have noticed exactly this! All the gushy couples have been having affairs.

Oh FFS!!! You need to get a grip. The most important thing is how he is in real life. Not in some fake universe just so you can show off to everyone how wonderful he is.

Aww babes. Did Mother’s Day even happen if it’s not on the socials??
You need to do nice vague post about how you feel, you’ll soon get the “U OK Hun” attention you deserve ❤️ ✨

People who have to constantly promote how fantastic their relationships are on Facebook are often the most insecure and miserable couples around.

I have to agree. The couples I know who post the ‘you are my world’ messages on social media have awful relationships in real life. It’s ridiculous.

I mean OP’s whinge is stupid but so is this comment.

I have 3 sons and a hubby who has no interest in social media.

my eldest threw a bunch of tulips at me … no card … more of a ‘I’d look bad if I didn’t‘ after thought …

however, my middle son who’s working in the far east, sent me a gorgeous gift and my 14 year old spent his birthday money buying me a gift … both totally unexpected and unnecessary… a nice card would be more than welcome.

believe me, after being a mum for over 30 years, being remembered is a bonus .. I lost my little girl so do you know what… it’s really, really not that important.

I find the whole social media thing cringe and attention seeking tbh. Me and DH never post each other. The fact you got some lovely gifts and had a nice roast is enough surely?

Not even my teen DC are this shallow about social media.

Presumably you posted on your socials how blessed you were to have such thoughtful gifts on Mothers Day along with photos of roast, flowers and chocolate?

If not let me see if I can find a post from a husband along the lines of ‘AIBU that I made a real effort to treat my lovely wife on Mother’s Day and she couldn’t even be arsed to post her appreciation on her socials…’

Your life is your actual life, not any crap r otherwise anyone posts on social media.

Yes you should ‘snap out of it’, @Genie98. What he actually did should matter so much more to you than social media fakery. I have no patience with this attitude that SM ‘image’ matters more than what someone actually does for you!

#blessed
#mumlife
#spoiled
#shallow