First Mother’s Day - DH didn’t put anything on socials

[Genie98]

AIBU to be a bit gutted that my DH didn’t put a post up on socials yesterday to mark my first Mother’s Day? My feeds were full of other posts celebrating their Mum’s and I was hoping DH would have done something to mark the occasion. He has done the odd birthday post in the past and posted about our engagement/wedding etc so it’s not that he has never used it.

Just feeling a bit deflated and a bit jealous of my mum friends who had lovely messages and photo’s from their OH’s.

Are you going to do another one of these posts at Easter OP? They’re very entertaining and we love hearing about your man’s standards!

Did he wish you a happy April Fools day this morning on the socials? My husband didn’t so I’m leaving the bastard until he raises his standards.

Maybe that was the April Fool? No post as a joke. They're so important these days he knew you'd definitely notice the lack of one.

I do hope there was a very carefully staged prepared photo shoot on shrove Tuesday where the OP waxed lyrical about the Perfect heart shaped pancakes made by hubbies fair hand - unless there were AT LEAST 25 photos on insta accompanied with a suitable nausea inducing post then team shallow fucker would have been straight on the blower ‘OH MY ACTUAL GOD BABE - he only made you TWO pancakes and his only called you the love of my life ONCE - is everything ok? Inbox me hun’

Well I did notice and so did all my friends! I’m humiliated and heart broken. He knows The Socials are important to me. I guess I’ll speak with him later and explain to him what a huge arsehole he is. He’ll be grovelling for days! 😂

I was only commenting to my DH yesterday that all the "performance" Mothers Day posts are ridiculous. Why does everything have to be for public consumption?

He best buy you some flowers and chocolates to make it all better. Along with a post gushing about how wonderful you are, and all the next occasions drafted out in advance.

Absolutely! I even thought about drafting the next 6 months social posts out for him, to make sure he meets my standards but then, I shouldn’t have to should I? He should be practicing them and planning out the next post everytime I leave the room

Demand this standard from your man or show him the door.

Must have missed when every poster put their age on their response for you to come to that ageist conclusion

Probably loads! My usually sensible friend (we are both 63!) was moaning because nobody 'liked' her holiday photos of FB. I had to remind her we are grown, intelligent woman and to have a word with herself.

Why would putting his feelings on social media be so important if he'd already done all that? Think op needs to have a little word with herself too!

How old are you? (Sorry if I missed it).

I’ve not read the full thread but just feel it is important to say that you need to work on your own self worth rather than worry about social media. Social media and all its fakery is a slippery slope in to depression.

You are obviously appreciated by your family and that is all that matters. You do not need the “likes” of others to feel good. Concentrate on all the things that make you and your child happy- that is what makes a happy Mother’s day.

You’re whining because your husband didn’t post on SM.

Drafted something in advance?!

Kill me now...

This is a wind-up intended to push buttons about age and women of 'high value'. The 'certain standards from our men' is a verbatim quote from the birthday thread. This is 100% the same poster who is having a laugh at stimulating 'debate' and 'a mix of views'. What a joke when 98% of posters disagree 🤣

Fwiw, I am close in age to you OP and not one of my close friends use SM this way. It's absolutely cringeworthy. It's actually my relatives in their 50s plus who still post these sort of things (or even bother with FB in the first place). The only 'youngish' people I know who would ever post nonsense like this is a couple in a really abusive relationship, which is both sad and ironic.

I should imagine 12 or 13 and very into her socials dontcha know 😂

No it's very much a you problem 🙄

Are you 12?

@Genie98 you are DEFINITELY the pissed off birthday poster. Come on, you are, aren’t you??

How old are you?

Some of these comments are a bit harsh. Sometimes it's nice to feel shown off, esp as a new Mum

Omg are u OK hun?🤣🤣🤣🤣

Interestingly enough, I don't believe op hasn't mentioned her baby in this thread... it's all about her.

Thinking about this thread, I've had a little count up, and can think of 5 people I have on SM who have had their first Mother's Day on Sunday (the newest born 2 weeks ago, and the oldest is coming up to one).

None of their Dad's posted anything on SM about it.
One put a picture of her little one with a big card saying Happy Mother's Day next to him.

It doesn't really matter how old I am, these are all people who are first time Mums, who would all say YABVU OP.

It's absolute cringe isn't it, and sad. I sound like an absolute boomer but wtf is happening to society? __