First Mother’s Day - DH didn’t put anything on socials

[Genie98]

AIBU to be a bit gutted that my DH didn’t put a post up on socials yesterday to mark my first Mother’s Day? My feeds were full of other posts celebrating their Mum’s and I was hoping DH would have done something to mark the occasion. He has done the odd birthday post in the past and posted about our engagement/wedding etc so it’s not that he has never used it.

Just feeling a bit deflated and a bit jealous of my mum friends who had lovely messages and photo’s from their OH’s.

This is not a measure of being a good husband or father. Please focus on really important things like what he shares in real life with you and how he supports you in person. This is what matters in reality.

Why didn't you just post yourself?

Never had one and not arsed if I get one. It’s not important. It really isn’t.

Work ethic is sorely lacking these days. OP should at least change up the phrases and what happens in the "updates" of these very real situations 😁
It's just lazy

Ive been with DH for 21 years, he has NEVER posted anything on socials about me… because he tells ME and shows ME how he feels. The whole SM circus is sad, you see people posting loved up shite whilst at the same time being in terrible relationships behind closed doors.

Yeah because that is such an ‘adult’ way to celebrate Mother’s Day…’demanding certain standards from our men’ about “socials”… Jeez. I’d cringe if this was one of my teenagers saying this. Can’t believe you’re grown adults with children and all you’re bothered about is what fake bragging you can do on FB. 🙄

Oh lord not another one!! This is exactly like the birthday thread.

Requiring your partner to engage in social media performativity has got nothing to do with “standards”. 🤢

I'd be telling my DD to get a grip if she was behaving like this when she gets to adulthood, or teenager.

Shown. Off?

ODFOD
I’m not a bastard poodle

@WhereIsMyJumper Your sons dad? Surely you mean your partner or husband? If not, then why is your ex-partner/ex-h buying you mothers day gifts?? It's no longer his responsibility. It's either your sons (if he's older) or your DM's (if hes younger).

As for couples who don't post each other (as one pp said), I always assume that if they don't post each other then they've split, are not really "together", or the relationship is being hidden for some reason (usually because the man wants to appear single).

Christ on a bike… I didn’t think this could get any more ridiculous.

I guarantee this didn’t happen.

Shown off??

You REALLY ARE the birthday poster!!! 🤣

I can't help hoping that @Genie98 is the birthday thread poster, because if she isn't, there are at least two of them out there, valuing shallow, performative social media wank over actual effort from their partners. And willing to scold them for their lack of social media wanking.

So he did stuff for you in real life but you’re disappointed that he didn’t do anything in the fake world of social media? You have really got your priorities wrong here. If something like this bothers you I think you’d do best to massively reduce your time spent on social media. SM is meaningless. Go and live your real life and turn the phone off.

Please take this crown 👑
for the dumbest thing I’ve ever read on mn

oh no! thats just so terrible for you...

no wait! don't be ridiculous!

my GC is one next month and looking at my DD and her DH's socials you wouldn't even know they had a baby. Baby does not appear in any way shape or form on any social media platform. they are so confident in themselves and their relationship they don't need the world to be shown their 'fake' online happy life!

on mothers day, DD did not get anything from the baby.. well they did, they got a blue light ride in an ambulane to hospital as baby had RSV.. he's paid for her to have her nails done later in the week.

I know FFS !!!!!! 🤦🏻‍♀️ 😂😂

Grow up!

@Genie98
Boo Hoo

OP are you really so shallow that you're upset because your DH didn't share on social media a gushing, performative post, presumably complete with a whole set of filtered photos about how wonderful you are???
Can you not just enjoy the day?
You've already said he bought chocolates and took you out for a roast, why does it have to all be displayed on social media for you to be happy???

I think it’s sad that you spend more effort telling other people all about your husband’s birthday when he doesn’t care than making it an enjoyable day. It all sounds so shallow

He’s wishing you a happy Mother’s Day!!! Not everyone on Facebook 🤣🤣 YOU

It even uses exactly the same sentences. Pathetic excuse for a troll.

It uses the exact same phrases eg "standards" line.