First Mother’s Day - DH didn’t put anything on socials

[Genie98]

AIBU to be a bit gutted that my DH didn’t put a post up on socials yesterday to mark my first Mother’s Day? My feeds were full of other posts celebrating their Mum’s and I was hoping DH would have done something to mark the occasion. He has done the odd birthday post in the past and posted about our engagement/wedding etc so it’s not that he has never used it.

Just feeling a bit deflated and a bit jealous of my mum friends who had lovely messages and photo’s from their OH’s.

Yeah I did put most of that on my stories

WTF is up with all these ungrateful posts? Seems like you're competing with each other and getting a buzz out of annoying thrme rest of us now!😒

This has got to be a piss take?
surely?
or am I just old

Yes you can help how you feel. You can tell yourself to grow up and stop requiring public validation on social media, when your DH is actually with you on real life, letting you know you're appreciated.

If you need to point out to your friends that you have a husband who appreciates your mothering, that's truly pathetic

Honestly, I find those kinds of SM posts really really cringe. And it's quite disturbing that there are at least two people who are so upset not to be recognised in this way that they need to make an OP about it.

Aaah or is it one of the "if it's not insta worthy it didn't happen" huns

100% that.

Why would he? You're not his mum? And why do you need validating on social media if he's marked the occasion in person?

Sorry OP but I think you are being very unreasonable.

A roast, card, flowers, chocolates... sounds like a very thoughtful husband.

I think a lot of men that gush on socials are doing it to make up for an argument about how shit they've been

I'd only be upset if he always does accolades to others on his socials

Or if he did one for his own mum but not you

OP, some people are into SM. Some people very rarely post. It doesn’t mean they don’t care about the people in their life. (In fact they might even have more time to treat them better!)
SM is not real life.

Ffs, you have a child with ur dh, you should grow up and think how you will teach ur child ...

If social media is bothering you that much you need to get rid of it!

Fucking hell.

I have friends who post things like that to each other on FB when they're sitting together on the sofa.

I simply can't get my head around it. It's taking showing off to a whole different level.

Come off social media. It's not doing your mental health any good. In this instance it's created a situation where there isn't one.

You do sound entitled and a bit pathetic to be honest. Do your gifts and lunch not count if it isn't publicised on social media? Your lovely day meant nothing because it wasn't advertised? 🙄🙄🙄

I started a thread about the obsession of Mother's Day the other day so you can guess what my opinion on the subject is:). But the thing is you're not even being gutted about the lack of recognition that you got: card, flowers, chocolate and a roast. How lovely of your dh and children ! But you're now gutted over him not making a song and dance about Mother's Day on social media !!! How old are you, 14? You do realise that SM is just for show and that it's real life that counts? I would advice you to get of SM completely because it skews your values about what really counts in life. You are more concerned about how others perceive how you are loved and cherished than the real deal in your life. Give your head a wobble and give your DH a kiss and say thank you for not blasting about our private life on SM.

The amount of posts I deleted on FB yesterday was in double figures, noone gives a shit, seriously 😒

I never understand why people post ‘love you hun’ messages on social media, when they can tell you in person.

Hoping this is a troll post.

Pretty much sums it up I think.

Have you missed all the posts from women who didn’t even get a card or even being told Happy Mother’s Day?

Personally, I’m with your husband. Having a growing number of friends who have lost their mums and even more who are infertile, having recurrent miscarriages, going through failed attempts of IVF etc., I never put anything about Mother’s Day on my WhatsApp. I don’t have other social media beyond that and MN. It’s a difficult day for many.

I really don’t understand the need for these big social media posts for any little thing. As I have said before I find it very cringy and do an eye roll at these kind of look at me posts.

Your OH did get you a card etc and you went for lunch, why do you feel the need for a social media post as well just to let others know?

As my teen would say don’t ’beg it’.

I do not get people posting happy mothers day/birthday or whatever on social media too people they live with, surely you just say it to them! If my husband put happy mothers day to me on social media I'd either kill him or leave him it's do embarrassing 🤣. Also agree with the sentiment that the ones who post this stuff on social media usually have shitty relationships.

I can’t believe that adults care about ‘socials.’ It’s just about showing off & “look at me.” It isn’t real!