First Mother’s Day - DH didn’t put anything on socials

[Genie98]

AIBU to be a bit gutted that my DH didn’t put a post up on socials yesterday to mark my first Mother’s Day? My feeds were full of other posts celebrating their Mum’s and I was hoping DH would have done something to mark the occasion. He has done the odd birthday post in the past and posted about our engagement/wedding etc so it’s not that he has never used it.

Just feeling a bit deflated and a bit jealous of my mum friends who had lovely messages and photo’s from their OH’s.

I'm guessing he got you a card etc? The whole it's not meaningful if it's not on socials is bloody stupid!

Are you the same one who moaned her birthday didn't get enough attention on "socials the other day?
if not you should meet her
You two would make a very happy shallow self absorbed couple I'm sure

God there really is no winning is there. Why didn't you post on social media so a load of people who dont care about it can see it.

Did he spoil you in real life tho? That’s the main thing surely!

No I didn’t post on here about my birthday and I’m not usually too fussed for that to be honest!

I'd ask if you were a teenager but that would be an insult to most of them. What is wrong with you that you need validation and approval from strangers? Actions are what matter. Not posts on bloody SM.

I got a card, some flowers/chocolate etc and we went for a roast. I am really grateful for that and I know I sound entitled but I just felt a bit gutted that’s all

I'm sure he just didn't want to make you cringe.

This is ridiculous.

You're not his mother though

Do you feel loved, respected and appreciated?

If not, LTB.

If yes, then you need to do some soul searching about you feel deflated because he didn't make a public show of his appreciation.

You are being ridiculous and ungrateful.

Honestly OP... I'm not normally this blunt but get over it. Wanting some over the top, performative display on Facebook etc is slightly pathetic.

Do you really need a few virtual likes to feel validated?

My husband has never posted a smarmy message on SM about me on my birthday, Mother’s Day or any other occasion. And for that I am very glad. I can’t think of anything more cringe.

He did however help the kids make me breakfast in bed, gave me lovely cards and a bunch of flowers. A perfect and private celebration just for our family.

I didn't post on socials and neither did dh because it's really not important. It's like virtue signalling about who has the perfect life.

As long as you were appreciated by your family and had a good day then it doesn't matter if nobody else on fb knows about it

Just feeling a bit deflated and a bit jealous of my mum friends who had lovely messages and photo’s from their OH’s.

And did they all get a card, flowers, chocolates and a dinner out as well? Or was it all just meaningless performative nonsense?

This was my first thought!

Surely, there can’t be two of them out there 😂😂

You could talk to him about it. Or you.could just not look at other people's social media on mother's day.

Seek help OP!

Read this thread, and then think about your first post:
https://www.mumsnet.com/talk/am_i_being_unreasonable/5305538-never-got-acknowledgment-on-mothers-day

I'd be upset too if he hadn't put it in three forms of social media and got a t-shirt specifically made for the day with my face on.

for the life of me I cannot understand why grown women need things to be on ‘socials’ to be real or worthwhile!!!! He did all the right things IN REAL LIFE! I genuinely think some people need therapy to be de-programmed for this constant need for external validation. Come off socials - you do not need them to make things right or true.

What??? He did loads for you.

I didn’t even see my DH until evening time.

I got nothing. Not a thing.

Social media means absolutely nothing.

I find the mothers day Facebook shit so cringeworthy. Find meaning in your day to day life, not the internet.

I have threatened my DH with divorce if he puts me on socials and vice versa. Cringy validation exercise.